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For all of you heads who still believe in the myth of the nice guy getting laid here's something for your thick heads to think about:

http://vibesconnect.com/badboys.html




Why do women like bad boys ?

By: Jigga Two
VibesConnect Correspondent


If you listen to women talk, you would believe that they wantmen who are sensitive and caring. However, in reality, most young women under the age of 30 tend to snub the shy guys and nuke the nerds. They often go for the Lexus-driving, baby-mother-dodging Don Juans who either break their heart or their face - whichever comes first.

Some men are increasingly frustrated by the kind of roles they are forced to play to attract young women.


Women always say they want sensitive guys who listen, but I think this is bull. Maybe older women want sensitive guys, but the young girls are different. When I tried to be sensitive, girls dissed me, but when I pretend to be a girl`s man by dressing flashy, being confident and talking the talk, young women are breaking down my door, Garfield Robinson, a computer technician, said.

Evolutionary behaviour dictates that males must compete for access to females of child-bearing age by competing with each other physically for resources necessary to mate, and for the sexual attention of females. Second, a male`s reproductive success depends on how many females he mates with, and not vice versa. To be less than an alpha male is to commit `Darwinian suicide`, hence the sensitive man image won`t necessarily attract young, nubile women of child-bearing age. Society reinforces this sort of primitive hardwiring developed over several eons in the human genetic code. For instance, in the recent play, Oliver and the Genie, the female lead character is attracted to the most dangerous character in the play, a rebellious slave,`Takku`, instead of a cowardly man who is madly in love with her.

"Women are attracted to power in any form it comes in - business, sports. They are drawn to aggressive men, you can forget all the modern day talk about tentative men because in many ways, the aggressive male, the alpha male is the one who always gets to mate. That is hardwired into
our genetic code, said Kingston psychologist Dr.Leachim Semaj.

Men know that the `women-need-a-sensitive-man`thinking is just feminist drivel. Experience says different.

"The young girls don`t want no sensitive guy. They want to be with a man who can be like a father figure in their lives, and one that their girlfriends will admire because of his good looks, his car, his bank book or his clothes. It`s just the name of the game, one young man said.



The `bad-boy` image

The belief that girls like bad boys may be a self-fulfilling prophecy, often repeated by both sexes.

The girls-go-for-bad-boys theory has its roots in high school where popularity and attention is gained by virtue of who a girl is seeing rather than her own merit. A lot of teenage girls gain attention and notoriety by going out with the most popular boy in high school who, at times, is the most aggressive, powerful guy - the alpha male.

I disagree with that theory. I don`t think women like dangerous men. Women are attracted to men who compensate for things they need. The kind of woman who is attracted to power is the kind who had no such thing in her life before, and feels empowered to be with a powerful man, psychologist Jillian Stephens said.

Further, psychologists say men have a deadly fear of sensitivity because they associate it with homosexuality. Their fears are borne out like comments like this from 25-year-old secretary Judith McCloud.


"I like romantic, sensitive men - but not too sensitive, she said. I don`t want any funny guy. You have be a real M-A-N. I sometimes find myself drawn to rough, very masculine men, too. They may have a few faults, and we think `oh, I`ll change him once we`re together`, but uh-uh, that doesn`t work, trust me, honey, I know. Those sort of men don`t change short of an act of God."
 

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Player, what do you have to say about that article? What do you think? Can you add something?
 
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Learning the truth about dating women is like being in the matrix and waking up.

Once your awake you can do all these special things...like pick up women and shag them on the first night...your fear of going up to fine dimes and spitting game at them (talking to them) goes away...kind of like in the 1st matrix with the fear of falling episode.

This article is saying all the things I've been saying since I've been here. The nice guy routine doesn't work. Save it for when your older like I am if you want to cling to the false belief that being nice and woman will fall for you.

There are a bunch on this site who like the traitor in the first episode who wanted to go back to sleep in the matrix, who refuse to accept that women are attracted to aggressive masculine men.

I'm not talking about a-holes. But dominante sure of them selves and the direction in their lives types of men. Women are supportors and often take supportive roles. They are rarely initiators of direction. When your a young man who is moving in a direction, aggressive and powerful...this nuts women's panties all up into a wet bunch.

We can't help the way we are genetically programmed. Why fight it and swim upstream when you can just accept the facts and go with the flow right down to the land of Pvssy.

The article is correct in my opinion that women under the ages of 30 like the bad boys. By the time they reach their late 20's those biological clocks are alarming continuously day in and day out to get married and have kids...cause 30 is just two dam old to start.

But this doesn't mean that women will lose their attraction to the more bad boy type. They just learn to settle for the lesser men. And many end up cheating on these lesser fools with guys like me.

The belly dancer in my photo section is married. Infact she married a former aquaintance of mine. After I kicked her to the curb she went out with my best friend and then settled on the chump she married who will do anything she wants....he even had the nerve to try to get up in my face one day about how I badly I treat her...What a putz...

After I cussed him out, I called him later on his private phone to show him the power I still have over his wife...since she was the only one with that number...and she still is sucking my dyck!!! When ever I so choose.

I've been told that guys like me are like hanging on the edge of a cliff...exciting and a rush and dangerous to a womans health and they still crave it.

Being boring is the kiss of death to a woman as per the Double your Dating Dude:

Something Single Women Hate - Don't Do It

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"You can't bore a woman into feeling attracted
to you..."

I realize that this may sound like an obvious
statement, but judging by the emails that I get week
in and week out, maybe it's not as obvious as it might
seem to some guys.

In fact, when I think back on my own experiences
with women, I am DEFINITELY guilty of trying to bore
women into feeling attracted to me...

So what do I mean by this silly sounding statement?

Well, let's start with some ideas that I hear
in one form or another all the time.

"I was a perfect gentleman on our date, but she didn't
call me back, and I can't reach her..."

"I don't want to use any 'techniques' with women because
I feel like that would be 'manipulating' her..."

"I want a girl who will like me for who I am..."

"I give her everything she wants, take her out, buy
her things, and I don't understand why she doesn't
feel the same way towards me that I feel towards her..."

"She tells me that she only likes me as a friend,
then she goes out with these guys who treat her like
crap instead of going out with a guy like me that
would treat her wonderfully and give her everything
she wants..."

And the list goes on and on...

Now, I realize that these statements are actually
different from each other, and deal with different
issues. But the common denominator in each of them
is:

YOU'RE NOT BEHAVING IN A WAY THAT IS PUSHING HER
ATTRACTION BUTTONS. IN MOST OF THESE CASES, YOU'RE
GUILTY OF TRYING TO BORE HER INTO FEELING ATTRACTED TO
YOU.

I got one letter recently where a guy was telling
me that he had taken a girl out on a date, but that
there wasn't any "spark"... but he still felt attracted
to the girl. He seemed to think that just because
nothing obvious was BAD about the date, that this
girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he
thought that a few more uninteresting, boring dates
would cause her to open her eyes and see the light).

Here are a few common problems that lead to "BORING
DATE-ITIS":

1. Playing it "safe", following her lead, not saying
anything you think will upset her, and making sure
that you're "proper".

2. Talking about BORING things like jobs, family,
weather, etc. because it's "what people talk about
to get to know each other."

3. Being boring.

PLAYING IT SAFE

I can remember when I thought that the proper
way to act on a date was to talk about socially acceptable
topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to
make sure that she got whatever she wanted.

Oh, was this a huge mistake.

Generally speaking, women are BORED TO DEATH BY
THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR.

When you meet a girl for a cup of tea or go out
to dinner, it's time to have FUN, not to be her personal
ass kisser!

Playing it safe and kissing up to her is a sure
way to get either an expensive relationship or a woman
who won't call you back.

TALKING ABOUT BORING THINGS

Don't talk about your job and your family!

BORING!

Guys who are trying to convince women that they're
"nice" talk about their families (If you really want
to be a loser, carry pictures around with you and
show them off.).

Talking about families is "courtship" behavior,
and it will put her into the old "this guy is boring"
frame of mind. Unless you're related to John F. Kennedy
or someone even more interesting, keep the family
history to yourself!

BEING BORING

So what does a "boring" guy act like?

Well, for starters he acts like he's NOT
COMFORTABLE in the situation...

Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her
opinions all the time. Asking her what she'd like to
do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way.

That's a good start.

Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you've
got the makings for her running as fast as she can
and changing her phone number to save herself from
another one of your boring calls!

So what's the answer? What's the secret to making
her feel attracted to you, and not BORED OUT OF HER
SKULL?

I thought you'd never ask.

Here are a few ideas for starters:

1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on...
somewhere that has interesting conversation built
in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic,
artsy, trendy shops. You can't walk through one of
these areas without having an interesting conversation.

There are all kinds of interesting things from
tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy
clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this,
and I'd suggest you go check it out.

2. Talk about something that isn't BORING. One of
my favorite things to do is get her to talk about
her life, then find things to make fun of. This is
a great opportunity for ****y and funny...

YOU: "So, tell me something interesting."

HER: "Like what?"

YOU: "What, you can't think of even ONE interesting
think about yourself or your life? I think I need
to go before this gets any worse..."

You get the idea...

3. If there is a silence, NEVER let it be uncomfortable.
I think that it's great to stop talking when you're
first getting to know a woman. But don't do it in a
way that sends chills up her spine.

If the conversation goes cold for a few moments,
just pay attention to something else for a minute. Think
about something funny to say and laugh to yourself.
She'll say "What? What are you laughing about?"... which
is a great lead in for about 1,000 different ****y/funny
answers.

If the conversation stops, be cool. Just act like
you're with a friend, act totally casual, and pick
it back up later. Just don't ACT nervous and uncomfortable!

4. DON'T BE PREDICTABLE. There is an area of the human
brain called "Broca's Region" that is constantly
anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting
the predictable. In other words, the more predicable
you are, the faster you will be considered BORING.

Learn to say random things. Disagree with her...
(without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell
her that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog...

If you're boring, read a couple of books on how
to tell stories… or get a book on comedy to learn
how to be funny and tell jokes.

JUST DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO AVOID BEING
PREDICTABLE! And do whatever you have to do to learn
how to make women feel ATTRACTION.

OK, I think you're getting the idea.

Women don't want BORING. A woman would rather
be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH,
HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one (and the women who
want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves...).

Once a woman starts to feel that magical emotional
and physical response called ATTRACTION, the entire
situation changes, and you start having the kinds of
success with women that most men only dream about.

And most women go through life WISHING, HOPING,
AND DREAMING that they will someday find a man that
can make them feel this amazing feeling...
 

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Don't get me wrong when I say this as the article has a lot of truth, but I don't think women necessarily want the agressive bad boys. I believe that what women really want is a man who is not only surviving in this world, but flourishing. They want survival for themselves and for their offspring.

Man's philosophy is to not tinker with something that works, but women, because of their nurturing nature, take the most efficent men and try to tinker with them to get them to work better; they improve on what works best. This is also a reflection on their drive to improve the offspring pool, they are the quality control, where as men are the quantity control.

Basically what I am saying is that if a skinny passive guy has a better chance of providing survival for her and her offspring in this world than women will perfer the skinny passive guy.
It really is not much more difficult to understand than this, but is this happening now? Yes, I think to a certain degree there are women who are perferring the passive skinny guy, and it is becoming increasingly more common and protrayed through television and the media. One sad sickening fact.

However, take away all manner of civilization, law, technology, and all the other modern convieniences and the skinny passive guy will not have anything to combat himself against some big agressive guy coming along and stealing everything he has aquired, including the women, leaving him with nothing for his own life and future. That's also a sad sickening fact of life.

I guess I am saying that I disagree to a point;I believe women are after the men that can adapt, not because they are passive or agressive or assertive, but because they can survive. It's wrong to just assume that all women want agressive bad bays, who do appear successful in the short term, but become major losers in the long turn. It's all about perspective.
 

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I've done some research online about "women attracted to bad boys" and was really suprised at what I saw.

99% of the articles written were clueless as to why this happens. Some crazy reasons like "she wants to act out a fantasy". She wants to rebel. She wants to secretly reform a bad boy. Only messed up girls want it.

With regard to the popularity of "romance novels" the femanazi's say, "well, it's showing more women independence". They have happy endings. It's just fantasy after all.

This is all bull**** bull**** bull****.

The femanazi's have thrown this matrix over society. Very few guys can see out of it. The matrix is romantic dinners, John Grey, flowers on a first date....ahhhhh.

Once you see through it, it's magical. Like flipping on a light switch. Turn up the dominance and she'll turn up the wetness.

Girls only want one thing. Butterflies in their stomach. The sensation of their toes curling hearing what you have to say.
No amount of logic in the world can overcome those feelings. No femanazi will ever over turn those feelings. Enjoy.
 

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Originally posted by JB101
Once you see through it, it's magical. Like flipping on a light switch. Turn up the dominance and she'll turn up the wetness.

Girls only want one thing. Butterflies in their stomach. The sensation of their toes curling hearing what you have to say.
No amount of logic in the world can overcome those feelings. No femanazi will ever over turn those feelings. Enjoy.
As a matter of perspective that has truth, but you are missing some vital concepts that would make your understanding more clear to others who are reading. The basis of the balance of domination in regards to the sexes is determinate upon who holds receives the most in a relationship, for a woman she craves love more than she craves sex, and for a man he craves sex more than he craves love. If a women receives more love from a man than she is willing to give sex then the woman is dominant. If a man receives more sex than he is willing to show love for a woman than the man is dominant.

This can work the opposite way as well. If a man withholds love from a women [acts jerkish perhaps?] then he is strong emotionally regardless of the way women perceive him. If a woman withholds sex then she is attempting to get her way somehow by shutting off the man's main sexual outlet.

One last thing [in caps I mind you],

WOMEN DO NOT LIKE JERKS, THEY ARE ONLY CONTROLLED BY JERKS IN THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THEY ARE WEAKER EMOTIONALLY THAN THE JERK IN RESULT OF THE NEGLECT OF HER EMOTIONAL NEED OF LOVE FROM A MAN. ANYONE WHO THINKS THAT WOMEN LIKE JERKS IS MISUNDERSTANDING THE CONCEPTS OF MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS.
 
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Women don't like men with effminate traits or qualities - being sensitive and lovy dovy and supplicating is of the feminine realm! She wants an opposite and not another woman!
 

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Why? If you mean 'bad boy' as I think you mean, they generally don't like them. Only
insecure,immature women go for that type. You see when I look around me, in the real world, I don't see much evidence of your postulate. Sorry, I don't live in a ghetto - I live in a pretty affluent area and I've noticed alot of the women around here are gorgeous for their age - woman 36 + that are thin and look better than most 20-30 year olds. Their husbands are pretty nice guys. The salesman living near me seems to always be smiling and is the nicest guy - always trying to do things for everyone. Bad boy ? His wife, a former model, is very shy but when I see her occasionaly she is beautiful. What we're talking about here really is a sub-group of insecure low-achieving men ('bad boys') with insecure,low confidence woman.
 

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Women want "Bad boys" because they display power. In reality women dont just go for "bad boys" though, they are after anyone that has power. This is the essence of Alpha Males gentlemen, being "stronger" than the rest. On an instinctual level, girls just want a man to protect them and their offspring, and of course they won't go after a weak omega that whines all day.

Women dont go after Bad Boys, they go after Alpha males.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Women don't like men with effminate traits or qualities - being sensitive and lovy dovy and supplicating is of the feminine realm! She wants an opposite and not another woman!
No, what she wants is her God given complement, and the same with men. Men and women were designed to complement one another between love and sex. Men possesing the love that a woman craves and women possesing sex/procreation that men crave. Neutrality is found when a man doesn't give love any more than a woman is willing to give sex and when a women is willing to give sex as much as a man gives love. This is a neutral assertive relationship, which is a concept in which the couples who arn't divorcing are doing right and the ones who are divorcing are doing wrong.
 

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Some people are simply ignorant when it comes to life. Sure you're good at engineering and SO AM I but you fail to understand the purpose of life.

Why? If you mean 'bad boy' as I think you mean, they generally don't like them.
How do you know?

Only insecure,immature women go for that type.
Really? And you're not a jerk, but you're the most insecure man out there. What gives? I'll tell you what's wrong with this picture, it's the fact that you're a *****. Simple!

You see when I look around me, in the real world, I don't see much evidence of your postulate.
Observing is one thing, participating is another. That's why you got no girl, because you don't believe the people who are successful at participating. You're the observer. You judge constantly, but never ceize to realize that you're just like those you label cruel, selfish, hypocrats and so on. It must be easy judging when you're not participating.

Sorry, I don't live in a ghetto - I live in a pretty affluent area and I've noticed alot of the women around here are gorgeous for their age - woman 36 + that are thin and look better than most 20-30 year olds.
YOu don't have to live in a ghetto to know how to live life. I hope you never live in a ghetto because you won't make it.

Their husbands are pretty nice guys.
Yes, they are good men but they're not the supplicating kind. The supplicating kind live miserable lives unless they're really talented and they usually start living life in their 30's when it's getting a little too late.

The salesman living near me seems to always be smiling and is the nicest guy - always trying to do things for everyone.
He's a DJ probably. The best salesmen are some of the best DJs out there. They don't supplicate, they do good things for their own reasons. You don't have to be a "nice guy" to do good things, you have to be a good guy. You're mistaking the terminology here.

Bad boy ? His wife, a former model, is very shy but when I see her occasionaly she is beautiful.
She's got mental issues in that case. She's shy. If she wasn't shy she might not be with this guy.

What we're talking about here really is a sub-group of insecure low-achieving men ('bad boys') with insecure,low confidence woman.
I consider myself a "bad boy" but that doesn't make me insecure, low confident, low-achieving male. I have the image of a bad boy that doesn't mean I go around braking people's heads. In fact, I will kick someone's ass if they want it badly (and trust me, it's easy to know when someone hasn't gotten their ass kicked enough to realize what a dumbass they are).

Nice is not for men. Good is for men. I'm a good man. I do things because I want to do them. I don't do it because the bible says so or because someone will think of me better when I do something good. Whereas, the nice guy does good things for the praise, to buy people off, etc., even when he doesn't want to.

If I ask you to help me with my homework, and you help me, you're a good man if you do it because you want to, but you're a nice guy if you're doing it for what I call "the wrong reasons" which is basically as an act of supplicating and so on.

Society's rules are for nice guys, who can't think for themselves, who need someone to tell them what to do. The good man, who have a brain of their own, know that society's rules are a form of control and are made for the morons out there who don't know how to act around other people.
 

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Sorry, formula is not working for our society

Depends on what you're looking for. If you're a mature guy, you're looking for a woman who wants to be respected and treated with class, and she enjoys a man who respects himself and treats himself with class.

If you want a roll in the hay, be a bad boy, but don't expect a relationship.

Women who walk down the isle and stay married and have good qualities are seeking quality men.

OK, for you people from the U.S. of A. out here -- is this BAD BOY thing really working? Our country has the highest rate of these in the WORLD:

1. Divorce
2. Spousal abuse
3. Teenage pregnancy
4. Unwanted pregancy
5. Single parents

So instead of following lock-step into the bad-boy or bad-girl world, ask yourself if this "formula" is working. Men and women, boys and girls, ask yourself if you're contributing to society by following this formula.

We're going on a long several decade losing streak here folks, leading the world in those bad categories for decades.

Change your game, change the world.
 
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Originally posted by rgeere
No, what she wants is her God given complement, and the same with men. Men and women were designed to complement one another between love and sex..
Yes, this is what I meant by 'opposite' - complementary natures, which is the natural order of things! There is more to 'complementary natures' than 'love' and 'sex'!
 
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Originally posted by rgeere
Don't get me wrong when I say this as the article has a lot of truth, but I don't think women necessarily want the agressive bad boys. I believe that what women really want is a man who is not only surviving in this world, but flourishing. They want survival for themselves and for their offspring.
Yes your 100% right. And who has this ability but the more aggressive men. Leaders in our industries and top performers in job situations. This takes aggressive male traits. Women have only transferred their instinct from the best hunter to the best worker in society.

Leaders in industry are often ruthless! They don’t get to the top by being nice guys and push overs. They still have the same traights as dominant aggressive men of the past.



Originally posted by rgeere

Man's philosophy is to not tinker with something that works, but women, because of their nurturing nature, take the most efficent men and try to tinker with them to get them to work better; they improve on what works best. This is also a reflection on their drive to improve the offspring pool, they are the quality control, where as men are the quantity control.
I disagree. Men are tinkers. Look at Alexander Graham Bell. Ford. Thomas Edison. George Washington Carver. I do agree that women do like to find a man with potential and work him up. What’s the saying behind every great man is a woman with a pitch fork in his arse.



Originally posted by rgeere
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Basically what I am saying is that if a skinny passive guy has a better chance of providing survival for her and her offspring in this world than women will perfer the skinny passive guy.
It really is not much more difficult to understand than this, but is this happening now? Yes, I think to a certain degree there are women who are perferring the passive skinny guy, and it is becoming increasingly more common and protrayed through television and the media. One sad sickening fact. [/B]
Ok your losing sight of something important. Skinny doesn’t have anything to do with it. But passive does. Passive men do not get to the top in the work environment. Society does not reward passive people with a get ahead card to Park Place. And this is the beauty of it all. Women are not attracted to passive men…period. Sorry you need to end this fallacy before you pass go. Life has set it up so that passive lesser males do not get a chance to breed, by making women less attracted to them. Even in today’s society the more aggressive male gets to have sex. Why? Cause he is the one who will persue his prey just like his ancient hunter ancestors. Passive men sit and wait like a farmer waiting for his crops to grow.

With the tv thing your seeing the pretty boy getting chosen. Why? Because Hollywood likes these types…remember there are a lot of homosexuals who do the casting and directing their. So no wonder we have seen the macho image shift to more of their liking. Women are getting sold a bill of gay goods with this shyt. But if you put a skinny passive man next to a skinny but more aggressive male you will see the female go toward the latter.

And Brad Pitt is pretty ****y and aggressive for a skinny guy! I have personally done research on this subject. I’ve asked many women which they prefer and the one thing they all agree on hating is a passive male. This type of male will ask them what they want to do that night…wait for her answer…women hate this shyt!!! They want a man who will tell them what’s going on and where they are going. A man who will set the direction and offer her an opportunity to participate.

So you way off with your belief that women like the skinny passive worm. You might try doing some research yourself. Go up and ask a group of women like I’ve done several times.



Originally posted by rgeere
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It's wrong to just assume that all women want agressive bad bays, who do appear successful in the short term, but become major losers in the long turn. It's all about perspective. [/B]
Nobody is assuming. I’ve seen many examples of documented research produced in E-books. As I said you can wake up or stay asleep.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Yes, this is what I meant by 'opposite' - complementary natures, which is the natural order of things! There is more to 'complementary' than 'love' and 'sex'!
Your right, but I would have to write a doctrinal thesis first before I could explain even some of the other reasons, as there are more than just the instances that are made in this posting.

I am actually unsure whether you completely understand what I am trying to say. Women do not like jerks they are controlled by them because they deny them their basic want for love. And the same for women and nice guys who get denied sex because they are handing out love like the freaking candyman. There is nothing wrong with a man loving a woman as long as there is atleast a neutral balance maintained between the woman giving out sex and the man loving the woman. That's what I am saying...



I don't understand what is so hard to comprehend in what I have been saying.
 
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Look at life for the lesson.

Bad Boys get the chicks while nice passive guys sit on sosuave and whine about it!

Nothing more needs to be said!

I just had a 24 year old with a bangin face and body leave my home. I dissed her last year and blew her off. She now has a boyfriend.....who is a nice guy.

He drives up to Sacramento from Antioch (look up the milage on a map) picks her fine ass up and drives her back to his home town.

I treat her like a red headed ( actually she is a redhead) stepchild. I make fun of her. I told her the only reason she came down too see me is to see if I still wanted some...

And I took it since she was laying in MY bed anyways. Now this woman told me today she is tired of men hitting on her...at the grocery store...gas station...in the clubs...but she does enjoy the attention...guys stalking her...calling her all the time...acting like symps (sympathizers) and weak.

Now if she wasn't attracted to masculine bad boys then why was she in my bed? Especially after she told me that she was committed to her boyfriend? OK!

Word!
 
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After reading some of the responses on this thread, I can only say.

Stay asleep. If being a nice passive guy is working for you and you do have all the women that you want or the relationship that you desire...then keep doing what your doing.

But, if you want to sample a lot of woman or have some measure of control over your next relationship then wake up.
 

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There's no doubt here in my mind, I'm with Player_Supreme on this one.
Marriage and fvcking are two seperate realms!
 

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Bad Boys get the chicks while nice passive guys sit on sosuave and whine about it!
I don't disagree with everything you're saying Player (and others), but for brevity's sake, I'll point out that in your quote above, I don't consider nice guys 'passive guys', and I'm not implying that success in anything comes from being a passive, agreeable sort. When I think of 'bad boys', I recall the 'bad boys' from highschool and college that spent most of their time cultivating an image, largely to score with women, while going nowhere in other areas of achievement. You build your future when you're young, and if you spend that time chasing women, you'll regret it later.
That's it for me on this topic - good luck.
 

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
After reading some of the responses on this thread, I can only say.

Stay asleep. If being a nice passive guy is working for you and you do have all the women that you want or the relationship that you desire...then keep doing what your doing.

But, if you want to sample a lot of woman or have some measure of control over your next relationship then wake up.
Don't get me wrong player_supreme, I agreed with a lot of what was said in this post. I just don't believe that a man needs to go to the agressive extreeme when it comes down to actually having a relationship with a woman, as a healthy relationship would have a good love/sex balance.

Also, I'm not saying that being nice [as in passive] pays off at all, and in most cases it doesn't, but with all things that appear to be valid rules you will always find a few exceptions [nice guys getting laid,etc.] , it's better to have some back bone and get out and create an active life for yourself instead of allowing life to create itself for you, that's where the nice guy get's his screwing, or lack of in this case.

In my example I commented that if a passive guy was more apt to survive than an agressive guy, women will sleep with them.
But more than likely that will never happen, as I was using that as an illustrative example. I do honestly think that the fact that man has created technology to make our lives easier it is causing more passive type AFC type people to breed, but only as a matter of convienience as they'd die off if we ever lost technology.
 
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