Serious question. I’ve known a few over the years who end up getting back with an ex who beat them. It can’t be alpha to beat women so what’s the story?
Actually, it is alpha in the purest of its form. In wild nature, alpha is first and foremost the most dominant male around there. If he wants to beat someone, he beats them. If they don't obey he beats them. If a female doesn't want to **** him, he beats her, beats her male partner, and then rapes her right before him. Just pure evil dominance. That's alpha in biology.
In humans, things are different because we are hyper-social animals with a more complex hierarchy and a big brain. It doesn't matter that much how strong you are, the chief of a tribe can be physically weak but he can order you to be executed with a single word. And this was the case for two hundred thousand years already. This is why most human females always place social dominance over the physical one, but there are still some deep instincts in us, the same that make women attracted to muscular men. Most women prefer guys with a well-proportional body but are turned off by steroid bodybuilders because they are TOO big and strong, which shows a higher level of aggression and a lower level of cooperation. But there are some women who love hulking men with inhuman muscles, those are women whose basic sexual strategy is more outdated for some reason.
When one mammal beats another its establishment of hierarchy. In a woman's head, a man who had beaten her is higher in status than she is. Usually, people hate those who're of higher status and use it to show their superiority, for example, bullies are hated by their victims. But if a cute girl bullies a guy then the chance is, he'll either fall for her or at least start to dream about ****ing her, maybe he'll rape her in his fantasies, etc. The same goes for women - if a cool boy bullies a girl, she'll hate him but would probably want to **** him as well. It's because humans want to mate with those of higher status. When it comes to an LTR beating a woman or shouting at her, or psychologically abusing her wouldn't make her any less attracted emotionally, it would make her even more attached, BUT at the same time, she would understand logically that she should escape because it's dangerous. Women with low IQ and lack of education or those with psychological issues put their feeling of attraction to a dangerous man above their desire for safety. This is why there are always women who fall for criminal scum, drug dealers, etc. And this is also why there are many women who return, over and over again, to those who abuse them physically and mentally.
Most of the seduction is just about how to establish that you are above a girl in the social hierarchy without being an ******* or provoking her defensive reactions. You can do it by teasing, flirting, holding frame, etc. The mechanism is the same, though. A woman would rather be with a man who beats her than with a man who she considers below her.
