Why do women give me the *****iest look...

[forehead]

before I even aproach them?
I've been reading this site for a little while now and I'm trying to build my confidence by approaching women and talking to them. I'm new to this and have only actually approached a couple of women and initiated conversation. It's only been quick chit chat then walking off without a number.
Earlier today I went to the book store and walked around a bit. There were a ton of decent girls there but I swear every single one of them that I smiled at, gave me the *****iest look ever, like 'dont come near me or I'll kick you in the nuts'.
Same thing later on today at the grocery store, and pretty much anywhere else I've gone the past month. Its the look of "I'm too good for you so don't bother approaching me". Like they know they're hot and unless you rolled up in a porsche, you're not good enough to lick the spit off their shoe.
I only started noticing this because I never really smiled at random girls, I was really shy(still kind of am) and always walked around looking at my feet. I'm trying to build my confidence up by looking at girls in the eyes as I pass them, smile and maybe talk. But all I'm getting are these dirty looks and its really not helping with my confidence, infact its starting to make me bitter and depressed. I know I'm not ugly, but sometimes I think I just have this look to me that pisses women off.
I'm interested to know if you guys get these looks when smiling or approaching women. What do you do? Give a dirty look back, continue to smile and approach them anyway?
If there are any women here, I'd love to hear why you do this? Is it because you want to send the message that you're not interested or is that you really are just *****es and your faces are stuck that way.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Cuz you're not attractive to them or they're pissed off about some other guy.

If they look at you like that IMO don't approach.

I always wait for some positive confirmation.And don't smile,just look first and try to sustain the eye contact in a quasi sexual manner.If they smile either walk over and nod them over to you.

 

[insidious]

Dude unless you look like Quasimodo there is no reason in the world that a genuine smile will go unreciprocated as much as yours seems to... Maybe you need a more objective point of view regarding your approach and smile. Maybe you're unconciously demonstrating some wacky, strange mannerism and/or expression which is putting the bytches off.

 

[DJDamage]

Its the look of "I'm too good for you so don't bother approaching me". Like they know they're hot and unless you rolled up in a porsche, you're not good enough to lick the spit off their shoe.
I only started noticing this because I never really smiled at random girls, I was really shy(still kind of am) and always walked around looking at my feet. I'm trying to build my confidence up by looking at girls in the eyes as I pass them, smile and maybe talk.

The reason they give you this look is beacuse you have just failed the biggest sh1t test any woman gives a man.

Even before you open your mouth, you have failed. You do not yet have the confidence in you to approach a woman and not care if she rejects you or not because you are not yet happy with yourself.

I believe that part of a man attraction is the way he carries himself. You still believe that women thinks that they are the hot sh1t and better then you and thus you give out the vibe that you are not good enough. You send a message through your body language and the way you look at them that you are not worthy, that all this confidence you have musterd to look in their eyes is not you but rather a fake you . The fact remains that the mere look they give back to you brings you back to reality and back to your submissive unhappy state.

What is the solution? other then the obvious improvment of your life and making everything about you better (physically, mentally, Intellectually). You need to approach them and start talking to them. Yes that's right the b1tch who just gave you the evil eye, you need to go up to her and see whats up. You will discover that even though it will be an uncomfortable experience, you will survive it. That 120lbs girl cannot do you any harm, all she can do is say no and walk away. The more you are going to do it and get rejected the more you will understand what it is you need to know and the more you will combat your fears of rejection. Then and only then you will be walking around and the females will not avoid your eye's contact but rather embrace them.

DjDamage

 

[forehead]

Thanks for the replies.
I am over exaggerating quite a bit here I know. But when you get more frowns than smiles, thats all you think about.
I know its me, I need to build confidence in myself first. The thing is, I'm 25 now, and throughout my life I've had severe depression. It wasn't until a year ago, where I couldn't take living anymore that I seeked help. Since then, I've been on anti depressants which has completely turned my life around. I've gone back to school, moved to a new city and have met many new friends. I quit smoking, rarely drink and have taken up kickboxing which has put me in excellent physical shape. Everything in my life is going good, except for women.
So I don't know how I can fix myself first when I don't know whats left to fix. I have every reason to feel confident in myself, but for some reason, deep down I don't.
Its like the other post I made here, about the girl who I think made up a story to get out of going out with me. When we were getting along at the bar and she showed interest in me, I felt like I was king **** and could pick up any girl I glanced at. Since she flaked out on me, my confidence has gone down the toilet, in a matter of days.
Help me get it back, I feel so close. Its like if someone would actually show interest in me and give me a chance, I might start to believe I'm desirable. I cannot live like this any longer, I'm 25 years old and sitting here on a friday night reading about how to pick up women.

 

[defiancy]

You should try honing your confidence because if you're not feeling that deep-down it shows. reading ALL of the DJ bible helps and read some of Player_supreme's stuff....this guy helped me with my progress a bit back. You seem to carry yourself well, but you shouldn't let one flake from a chick affect you harshly. Rejection is a fact of life and until your immune to it...you'll be crying everytime you get shot down. The point is you have to pick yourself up again and not give a sh*t. That's the only way. DJing is not about making chicks like you, but making yourself a better person.

If you truly feel happy and you're excited about the day you're going to go out with your friends or the day you're going to work....thats when the girls will look at you wondering why you feel so great. Just relax and have some fun...I was depressed the same way you were when these girls don't give me looks. Don't expect the whole world to fall in love with you

 

[thederekeffect1]

I'm thinking this is more of a problem with perception. Before you even look at a girl, you feel like she's going to give you a nasty look. Then, no matter how she looks at you, you feel like it's one of those looks. Probably from a bad experience in the past? Haha, since we're on the subject: storytime! Heh, in second grade the first girl I crushed on gave me this strange look where she raised her eyebrow at me. It probably meant nothing, but at the time I felt it was one of those "you're weird, I'm too cool for you" looks. lol, I never really got over that. Anyway, I think that the perception you get is caused by your depression for the most part.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

It's possible that you're wearing your nervousness about it on your face without realizing it. I personally realized a few years ago that I tend to slouch my shoulders, lean forward, put my head down, and frown when I am just cruisin on my feet from one place to another. It's only when I became aware of how I looked and actively thought about my shoulder position, head position, and expression that I started getting positive looks from girls.

In the fleeting moment of passing a girl by, you might find that they're equally unaware of their expression as I was. Many girls won't look at people for more than a second tops, so there's not time to even give a response. This means that you're going to see a blank expression, which is not to be confused with repugnation. Once I started doing it often, I've found that making eye contact is fun, and I make sure not to limit myself only to girls I'd screw on the spot. If I did that I might not feel as good about it, but it's important to remember that when we shoot for the top half of the population, it's because we already know we can get the bottom half, and they are people too. For that reason I smile at really ugly chicks all the time. It reminds me that I'm the type of guy they'd probably bone on the spot, and they tend to give better smiles (when they're not looking down and avoiding eye contact with everyone).

So, in conclusion, look at a wall and pretend it's a hot babe, then face the mirror and see what your sexy don juan smile looks like. Maybe there's a readjustment needed or something? This is all contingent, of course, on the idea that you're not just mispercieving the looks you get.