Why do women build up their boyfriends into something they are not?

[Robert28]

Have you ever noticed that some women talk up their boyfriends and build them up into something they aren't? I've noticed that women tend to do this with "low quality" type guys. Let me share a facebook status fror my friends ex-wife's status talking about her current boyfriend to help you see what I'm talking about.

Having a surprisingly good morning after having such a long sleepless night alone in bed because of something called a Night Shift, ugh! But this morning, after working a 12 hour night shift and being sick as hell my baby came through the door with a giant smile and even though I'm sure he felt as good as the ppl in the nyquil commercials, he still hung out with me while I got ready for work and didn't complain once! He honestly just made my day and probably had no idea!! Ppl say/think what you want but this guy is without a doubt a great guy and definitely a keeper and is exactly what I've been looking for....I think i need to go buy a stack of lottery tickets today cuz I'm starting to feel like the luckiest girl I know

so apparently coming home from work, having the sniffles, and sitting on the bed watching your girlfriend get ready for work makes you man of the year. who knew? yet, when her and my friend were married she lived in a NICE house (she currently lives in a trailer with her current boyfriend), she always complained about money even though my friend makes GREAT money and she never had a job when she was married to him, and this current douche makes peanuts and all of a sudden money isn't an issue for her....even though she has less of it, MUCH less.lol my friend did things for her while they were married that never went appreciated but yet this current guy gets a pat on the back for sitting on the bed with the sniffles and talking to her. wth?

 

[VladPatton]

Oh yeah. I believe it, actually. If a girl is into you, you can be a piece of dogʂhit and they will still pump you up into this dreamy guy. There is no doubt this girl is 100% into her man. They like what they like.

Hey, maybe he's got a long tongue, who knows?

 

[ArcBound]

Have you ever listened to a group of women talk? They talk about their boyfriend or husband because it gives them their hierarchal place among their lady friends. MY husband got me X today or did Y for me. Cue jealousy from other women in the group. Also why women love diamond rings. Not because it is the symbol of an unbreakable marriage but because they can tell the world my husband makes so much money/desires me so much he is able to get me an expensive nonfunctional rock.

Check your Facebook. When women go out to eat with their BF they don't take pictures with the boyfriend only, but of the food, to brag to all their friends they went to 5star restaurant and ate expensive cool looking food.

So the action the boyfriend did in this case is inconsequential. Its that she can brag that she had a boyfriend to do this action no matter how small, and a reminder to all single women that they don't have this and thus are lower than her.

Themoreyouknow.avi

 

[Robert28]

Excellent points! I'm just baffled at the crap these girls say to justify their relationships. She says stupid stuff like "he motivates me to want to be a better person". well why can't you just motivate your own @$$ to be a better person, why depend on someone else? why didn't your lazy @$$ get a JOB when you were married or clean the fvcking house but now you want to be Miss Career woman and play house because you moved in with a guy? maybe if you wouldn't have been such a worthless b!tch your marriage would have worked! her ex husband gave her $3,000 because she wanted to go back to school. that lasted one semester.lol guess how many thanks he got for it? guess how many facebook statuses she posted about her husband paying for her to go back to school? yet this clown gets props for sitting on a bed watching her dress? really? this isnt the first guy shes dated since they got a divorce. this is like the 4th and shes been this way with all of them but probably worse with this one. sometimes I feel like asking her "what did these other guys do that your husband never did?"

 

[MikeOck]

It doesn't have the nickname "FAKEbook" for nothing. There is a group of females in my Fakebook circle, as I'm sure we all have, who constantly post about how amazing everything in their life is, the others in the group will "like" the post and comment about how great whatever bs they posted was, they all do it for each other like a big ego orgy.

Unfortunately for these shallow souls, nothing says, "I am desperately unhappy with my life" like constantly seeking approval.

 

[bukowski_merit]

It's only special because it's something new to her.

Your friend giving her money and supporting her with his big bank account - was normal to her. She didn't view that as anything special (although, at one point - I'm sure she thought it was great.)

This guy doing this was something new to her. If he did it every day - it'll lose it's appeal quick.

If they are together for years - it won't be long before this guy is hearing about how great your friend was because he supported her financially.

Then maybe that guy comes to this board and posts about how much his woman is always nagging him about money.

You see - in my years of fvcking taken women - I learned something.... You can do really AFC/Chumpish stuff all day long, as long as the woman isn't used to it. I can't tell you the amount of women I layed in bed with CUDDLING all day long doing nothing but watching tv who told me, "i love this! my boyfriend never does stuff like this with me." (or if she was rebounding: "my ex-boyfriend never did things like this".

It's a vicious cycle...

Everyone here wants to have d!ck measuring contests about what keeps a woman. Money, looks, security, blah blah blah...

The best thing is none of those...

It's being able to keep her guessing always... Changing the angle you're coming from always... Never letting her settle into routine... Figuring out new ways to create new smiles and adventures...

Which is hard work... And probably not worth doing for 90% of women.
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As far as posting such things... yeah, I see it and hear it all the time.

The women who get flowers in my office on Valentines day are more happy that their man got them for them and they can show them off than that their man got them for her.... That's why it's always better to have them delivered to the office (if you do such things).

I once wrote a few poems for this woman about her and I; i threw them in a book and called them a christmas present. And 5 years later - I'm sure she's showing them to someone.... Not because they're that great, or she really gives a sh!t about me... But because there's probably a good chance that whoever she's showing the poems to has never had one poem written about her; yet alone a whole book.

 

[sageproduct]

Well we do the same thing

Seriously, how often do you see guys here saying "Guys help this is a QUALITY WOMAN, LTR material!! Amazing girl, really attractive too!" "cool how long have you known her" "we went on 1 date"

 

[betheman]

women are in competition with each other. there is some study somewhere that shows that if say 5 woman are walkg down the street and taking up the whole pavement, some one is walking towards them, none of them want to move out of the way as apparently it excludes them from the herd and they are relegated.
ive seen this for myself, the fvckers seem to need to have a gun pointed at their heads to even give an inch.
as for boyfriends, its not about the boyfriend, its about what she can exrtapolate something which appears to give her greater status among the herd, if it isnt there, they will get the magnifying glass out, somethimes they will even make sh1t up!
generally the more insecure and fcked up they are, the greater they big up the bloke

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

It depends on the age group in some scenarios but it all comes down to basic human nature.

People like to have the best, or at least think they have the best. If a girl is emotionally invested in her boyfriend she may have difficulty leaving him or she can't find a justified reason to dump him. I have female friends with strange boyfriends whom I tell to dump but they don't listen because they like to think they have something great.

On Facebook especially, women like to boast just to see people comment saying crap like "oh you're so lucky to have a boyfriend like that." Life is a competition, and women like to make other women jealous over everything.

 

[Down Low]

Robert28, she goes on and on to the girls about how he watches her have the sniffles, but when it's just the two of them, his ears burn from all the insults.

I have female friends with strange boyfriends whom I tell to dump... women like to make other women jealous over everything.

So... if those female friends make you jealous over their strange boyfriends, that makes you a typical woman... right?