Why do they keep looking away immediately after locking eyes ?

[curiouscat]

Hello,

There is something I have been wondering about for a while now, I have noticed quite often when I am walking down the street and a woman walks the opposite direction she looks away almost immediately after locking eyes with me.

I think they react this way because they are afraid I might approach them so they look away as a defence mechanism. I find it rather suprising because quite often the thought of talking to them doesn’t even cross my mind but apparently something about me tells the contrary.

Maybe it’s a racial thing (I’m mixed) and they have the image of the stereotypically sexually aggressive black man in their heads ? That would be suprising too because I don’t even consider myself as looking menacing in any shape or form. Maybe I’m paranoid but this fear that I can feel in them is really getting old.

What do you think ?

 

[FairShake]

I'm a non-intimidating nerd and they look away all the time too.

If we lock eyes and a woman continues to look at me without looking away I assume they want me to talk to them. If they look away I know they are either shy or not interested. In neither case do i pursue.

 

[foreverAFC]

Hello,

There is something I have been wondering about for a while now, I have noticed quite often when I am walking down the street and a woman walks the opposite direction she looks away almost immediately after locking eyes with me.

I think they react this way because they are afraid I might approach them so they look away as a defence mechanism. I find it rather suprising because quite often the thought of talking to them doesn’t even cross my mind but apparently something about me tells the contrary.

Maybe it’s a racial thing (I’m mixed) and they have the image of the stereotypically sexually aggressive black man in their heads ? That would be suprising too because I don’t even consider myself as looking menacing in any shape or form. Maybe I’m paranoid but this fear that I can feel in them is really getting old.

What do you think ?

it doesnt always mean disinterest. in fact many women jsut dont want to reveal any interest or attraction to a guy right off the bat, at least thats how it is for me. i used to get this a lot at work from the females and i figured they jsut didnt like me, but then id notice sometimes they would accidentally crack a smile or jsut drop the act entirely and start giving me smiles out of nowhere later on. women can be shy, nervous, be attracted to you but have a bf/husband etc, or they may jsut not be interested. its hard to gauge. one thing that happens to me at work too is a woman will ignore right away so i will kinda get pissed and start completely ignoring her, only to realize later on that she was jut shy or whatever.

 

[Fatal Jay]

The eyes of a woman will tell you everything you need to know about what she is thinking.

If she maintains eye contact she is interested, if she looks away really fast or doesn't even give you a look she is either high on herself or not interested.

What I have trained myself to do is when it come to women is I do the art of looking without looking, looking at them without them even knowing that I looked at them.

foreverafc, women won't say they are interested in you or say they like you bro, but they will always give signs in other ways, either by verbal flirting, smiling, maintaining eye contact, or asking a dumb question.

 

[Halcyonique]

perfection

I'm a non-intimidating nerd and they look away all the time too.

If we lock eyes and a woman continues to look at me without looking away I assume they want me to talk to them. If they look away I know they are either shy or not interested. In neither case do i pursue.

^ As a woman, a million times this.

 

[VladPatton]

Too long of a stare by either both a guy or a girl would be uncomfortable/creepy. It can also be an act of submission if they look down and away, so it is not always disinterest.

 

[Fruitbat]

This weekend, at a bar, I was trying to make eye contact with a chick. We locked eyes like 3 times, I then went over. We spoke for 15 mins, with her showing high IL, then she told me she had a BF.

WTF?

Highly annoying.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Hello,

I think they react this way because they are afraid I might approach them so they look away as a defence mechanism.

Maybe I’m paranoid but this fear that I can feel in them is really getting old.

What do you think ?

For most people, maintaining eye contact can be incredibly intimidating, especially from attractive members of the opposite sex.

You could work on your eye contact "game," as it were. Try to give off a more friendly vibe. Maybe a kind smile?

In general, what's your facial expression saying? Cold killer or friendly player?

One way to find out would be to lock eyes with girls when there's ZERO chance of you approaching, like if you're sitting at a stop light or something.

I know it's easy to blame others for their reaction to you, but there's really nothing you can do to change other people. Just try changing up your approach, and see if you can pull smiles as well as eye contact.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Eye contact is very much a vibey kind of non-verbal communication. For myself, when my inner dialogue is dealing with the negative then I am not going to get good eye contact. When I'm happy, present, and in the moment thats when eye contact is the best. Its something that gets transmitted between two people. I've even had girls wave from across the street and say hello to me just by looking over to them. Sometimes a girl just might be shy.

 

[Mr Wright]

I have a personal rule, if im walking down the street and the girl holds eye contact for more than necessary, in other words, if i can actually start counting, it's too long. I turn back around and approach her.

But that being said, looking away straight away is not always disinterest, it might be because shes nervous. I've noticed that girls with their boyfriends actually look for longer because they can do it in safety.