Why Do They keep calling back even when they have dumped you?

[jnallen]

What does it mean when you are still getting calls from an ex that keeps calling you back.

I mean I don't call her or see her. I moved totally away and she keeps calling back.

She is a single mother with four kids. I dated her for about a year and every two months she calls back.

This time is was three. I thought finally. I mean she is hot and all but she is a nutball. Ant they are always hook calls. Like baiting me into saying I want her back.

I mean she is the one who dumped me. I could see if I dumped her.

 

[tomyv]

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because women are flaky. Single mom's (x4) are nutjobs, best advice, hang up!

 

[dionysius_d]

Originally posted by jnallen
She is a single mother with four kids. I

Do you really need any more explanation other than THIS??

Do not pass 'Go', do not collect $200.

 

[jnallen]

She is really hot and has plenty of suitors. I'll give you some insight into what happened.

She was dating me and another guy unbeknownst to both of us. She was saying call me and I will go out with you.

I did. we did.

A month later after an LTR she tells me "God, I mean you just won't go away."

Thats crazy.

Then 3 months later she is calling me like we are best friends to ask me if I put some of her clothes in the trunk of her car.

How in the hell would I even get in her car and I never had any of her clothes.

Maybe this guy dumped her or something.

She has done this leaving and trying to comeback thing throughout our 2 yr. relationship.

Her brother does the same thing in his relationship with a particular woman.

I go away. Look for other women. Date. Next thing you know tow three months she is calling.

Never seen anything like it.

Of course she use to live with me and didn't have to work. Now she has a factory job she works six days a week, lives in a trailor, has rapid mood swings and is in general a B**ch.

 

[dionysius_d]

I can't help empathising.. some sheila's are so fvcking dumb!!!!!!!

I also met a single mother with a delinquent kid (during my more tollerant AFC days), and treated her well and i'm not being boastful but it was her chance of a lifetime to get out the rut she was in haha.. however, she kept acting cold, putting her deliquent kid over everything else and generally forced me to take a hike. Last i saw she was still living in a ghetto appt., driving a sh1t-b0x and working part time as a checkout chick.

man, some females are just genuinely into masochism and stupidity.. you can't save em.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Dude, this has been going on for months, I remember your posts. Block her calls, ignore her, do whatever it takes not to be in contact!

 

[jnallen]

She is nuts or something.

I mean she doesn't stalk me or anything.

I moved 35 miles away from her and changed everything but my cell phone.

Someone told me she may be borderline or histrionic. I don't know. I am somewhat over her and have dated others.

It is like she is psychic and everytime I get that far away here she comes again.

My cell phone I cannot change. I have a business and it is on the business cards. I have had it for about 5 years and would loose tons of old business as some only call every so often.

Last time I tried to get her to go to a shrink and she told me I was the crazy one.

Yeh right. That is why I have high security clearance. yeh

 

[Starman]

LMAO

hahah

Ive always thought about "playing" with women like this over the phone or email..

I used to just ignore them..and go about my bidness..but I'd like someone to try the c/f with women like this to see what kind of results you get

I.e. in an email/phone say "God! You cant get over your love with me?? what is soo damn special about me that women keep calling??"

put her in a defensive kind of "blushing"

I think it might actually turn her on..so expect that

what do you guys think this would result in?

 

[jnallen]

I don't know wtf she wants.

I would be afraid to try the above. May never get rid of her then.

I think she thinks I am going to be her backup guy or something.

I am done with her craziness. Last time I tried Docs solution and sent her a card with a poem in it.

Seriously. Didn't work. Still get the bait calls. Also get the controlling calls. You know the call and no one is on the other end.

 

[tomyv]

Try This

When she calls answer the phone with F@CK OFF!, then hang up. It will probably get the point across.

 

[jnallen]

Did that back in December when she wanted us both to date around.

Brought her back like lightening.

 

[Starman]

maybe Im wrong..but I find that women..are always looking back in relationships..and constantly reassessing to see "what could have been"

Especially women who are insecure and uninvolved

Secondly..this is a power struggle..she loved that fact that she felt needed by you and that fed her ego and made her feel special..

So she constantly calls to check to see if she still has that power over you to feed her ego..

 

[tomyv]

got me stumped

how about PFA?

 

[jnallen]

Originally posted by Starman
maybe Im wrong..but I find that women..are always looking back in relationships..and constantly reassessing to see "what could have been"

Yes I think the above is true. Like she wants it to work or misses it or something. Who ever knows.


StarMan

You may be right about the ego thing.

It seems like everytime she calls though she is baiting me to comeback. If I say hey lets go out she will.

If I sort of blow it off she will call more frequent or not call for about a month.

It is like she wants to be with me but doesn't. she never could make up her mind about anything which drove me nuts.

She is insecure and I don't know why. She was gorgeous had all kinds of guys hitting on her but she was picky.

She is 34 so that may have something to do with it. She has four kids I would imagine that would make most guys run. I should have at the outset. More red flags than anyone I have ever met.

Her mood could swing within hours. Like outbursts. Not anymore. I have peace.

I think she may chase guys away. Did me anyway.

One thing for sure she didn't get an ego boost off me this time.

 

[jnallen]

Tomy What is this. Been away from the site awhile

how about PFA?

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by Starman

Secondly..this is a power struggle..she loved that fact that she felt needed by you and that fed her ego and made her feel special..

So she constantly calls to check to see if she still has that power over you to feed her ego..

This is pretty much it in a nutshell. Whenever she may be feeling down, lonely, insecure, etc - she will call you (or some other symp from the past) to remind herself that there are/were men out there that wanted to be with her.


Fragile ego/attention wh0re/histrionic drama queen = complete waste of time - Bottom line - forget about trying to figure out WHY she does the things she does.

 

[Starman]

what the hell is PFA??

hahaha 4 kids?? jesus christ..just the noise of them running around would drive me nuts..

there is a strategy called "Push/Pull"

You Push..she pulls away

You pull away..she push's closer

this chick is only looking to seduce you again as her main motive..

but ONLY to feed her own ego

 

[jnallen]

Ronin

She is a drama queen and attention ***** and you are so right.

StarMan

Her kids were horrible. She is 34 and actually has a 4 and a 5 year old. she will be an old woman before she gets them raised.

That is what she did all through the relationship is the push/pull. Always called back.

If I called her now she f**k me tonight. No doubt.

Its nuts.

 

[tomyv]

pfa

PFA=Protection from abuse

 

[jnallen]

PFA=Protection from abuse

No such thing for a male

Although she was no doubt the most abusive and immature person I will ever meet in my life. She caused me great pain over a short period of time.

Let me tell you how psychotic this chick was.

She worked with my dad for about three years. Asked me out when I was going thru a divorce where I was married for 16 yrs.

She knew everything about me from my dad so she knew what buttons to push. She pushed them.

Left me all kinds of **** to clean up and acts like hey its no big deal.

I was told by a friend of hers she is borderline/histrionic. Look that up sometime so you never hook up with one. They are essentially crazy.

Anyway I didn't call her for about three months after I got her phone number and she tracked me doen like a hound dog.

One more scenario so this post is not long. Back in Jan. she we got in an arguement about her bar hopping and a guy friend she had. Her solution to any disagreement you had with her was to leave. Communication she called stupid.

Anyway the next day this was my day.

She went from leaving to staying, to looking at houses, to calling her mom and staying she was staying, to I don't know, to staying to making plans to....all in one day.

Her two favorite statements were no cuase I don't know what I want or I don't know what is going on. 34 mind you.

The next day she left.

Two weeks later she is calling back saying we can try if you want.