why do they always canel 2nd date!

[DJinTraining06]

I had a 2nd date planned for sat with this girl i met thurs. She suggested the weekend so its not like im a dummy for asking her so soon. I suggested the seein the tree, and she got all excited and was like "oh thats a great idea, we should do that!" Now she just cancelled cuz she said her firend has 2 islander tickets and she has to go with her.

the date we had went amazing. She was so into me. from the 2nd we sat down for drinks at this restaurant she told me i was cute, i had great eyes, etc etc. She asked me wat i was thinking right now, i said im thinking im having a good glass of red wine with a beautiful woman. So i ask her wat shes thinkin, and she says "im thinkin that ur really cute, and im really exzcited that i did this" We go play pool after this down the block and we order another glass of wine, and she got really tipsy and started being very flirty and touching me, she got real close to i kissed her
we kissed a few times at the pool hall. Then i walk her to her car and i sit with her in her car for a little while so she can sober up to drive home. She goes "so why arent u kissing me yet" - meanwhile it was like 30 seconds after we got in her car, so this chick was really horny or drunk or something. So we made out alot then we talked for a while and she seemed to have sobered up and was still saying things indicating how much she liked me, like for example mentioning future dates (plural) like double dates with her friends and stuff.

So i really dont get this. Every single f'in girl i go out with lately does this. They r all over me, they seem very attracted to me and interested asking me tons of ?'s and soemtimes even flat out tellin me they like me like this girl. Why do they all cancel the 2nd date?

WOuldnt an interested girl not cancel so soon? For islander tix? i dont get it.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Have you tried Anti-Dump's Machine? It's an awesome method for beginners. Look it up in the DJ Bible.

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yea but wat did i do? SHe was so into me she was like a dog in heat. Never saw a girl that hot for me and all over me. Rubibng my chest all night, making out tons of feeling each other. And we hit it off so well talking wise too. It ended on a super hapopoy note too, she was so ecited bout seein the tree with me sat. why would she cancel?

 

[blinkwatt]

yea but wat did i do? SHe was so into me she was like a dog in heat. Never saw a girl that hot for me and all over me. Rubibng my chest all night, making out tons of feeling each other. And we hit it off so well talking wise too. It ended on a super hapopoy note too, she was so ecited bout seein the tree with me sat. why would she cancel?

Hahahahaha,I had a date with a chick that was like that. It went great,she initiated everything even the tongue during the make-out session,she was even asking to meet my family halfway through the date. Then I go to call her to set up a second date and she was less then interested. I think we just moved too fast,like we are too much to handle. Just food for thought.:rockon:

 

[Pappadapolis]

yea but wat did i do? SHe was so into me she was like a dog in heat. Never saw a girl that hot for me and all over me. Rubibng my chest all night, making out tons of feeling each other. And we hit it off so well talking wise too. It ended on a super hapopoy note too, she was so ecited bout seein the tree with me sat. why would she cancel?

It can't be pin-pointed without knowing every detail. But you did say she asked, "Why haven't you kissed me yet?" If a chick ever asks this, it's a bad sign. She wanted you to take more control.

If you know it's going well, don't wait for an invitation. Kick the door in.

 

[DJinTraining06]

It can't be pin-pointed without knowing every detail. But you did say she asked, "Why haven't you kissed me yet?" If a chick ever asks this, it's a bad sign. She wanted you to take more control.

If you know it's going well, don't wait for an invitation. Kick the door in.

We just got in the car and she was tellin me a story! lol we already kissed in the pool hall 5 times at least.

 

[Pappadapolis]

Yea, but chicks think differently than we do. "So why aren't you kissing me yet?" is woman talk for "Damn, what the hell are you waiting for." The way your story reads, it seems like she was ready to let you be a Cowboy and ride it, but you didn't go for it hard enough.

You said she was telling a story, but she asked after 30 seconds? You missed your chance in that rodeo. If kissing is all she wanted, you could have done that in the pool hall.

 

[pimpin IS easy]

you would not worry so much if you had 5 other girls you could take on a date

spin those plates son!

 

[DJinTraining06]

you would not worry so much if you had 5 other girls you could take on a date

spin those plates son!

I actually do spin plates lol. I got 3 others right now i could plan a date with at any time. But she was hot and she was so into me. Its just fvcking up my confidence to havbe this happen over and over and over again. It's just not making any sense how they r ready to jump my bones and then they never wanna see me again. I think im starting to realize im a really good looking guy but im a mega pvssy. I'm not a pvssy in my opinion, but i come across as one cuz im not loud and ssertive enuff. i have no f'in clue if thats it, but im so bummed rihgt now i dont think i can do this anyumore this dating ****.its too much, ive met at least 15 girls since july for drinks or watver or coffee or dinner. A few i didnt like, a few didnt like me and it was obvious right away. but that leaves about 9-10 that i liked and they seeemd to like me but it jsut goes sour and i cant figure out why. i try to spin plates so i wont be upset but i always get upset cuz the next plate never amoutn to anything, nor doies the one after that. im not one to give up. Please give me a clue as to wat im doin wrong. im not desperate for an ltr, i wouldnt mind just a f-buddy even. Anything! Anything in which a girl likes me for asustained period of time. I just want a non-ugly girl to like me past the first night when they seem to wanna fvck me.

 

[pimpin IS easy]

your issue might be too much frustration mixed in with uptightness

 

[DJinTraining06]

Yea, but chicks think differently than we do. "So why aren't you kissing me yet?" is woman talk for "Damn, what the hell are you waiting for." The way your story reads, it seems like she was ready to let you be a Cowboy and ride it, but you didn't go for it hard enough.

You said she was telling a story, but she asked after 30 seconds? You missed your chance in that rodeo. If kissing is all she wanted, you could have done that in the pool hall.

We were on a heavily populated blvd, she doesnt have tinted windows, and i live at home and so does she. Only thing i could ride was my chevy cavalier all the way home to jerk off ville. Wat was i gonna do suggest a motel? That is not worth the risk of her getting insulted. if she likes me she knows well fvck eventually. If she cant wait then shes a freakin ho anyway.

 

[DJinTraining06]

your issue might be too much frustration mixed in with uptightness

im fustrated and uptight cuz this keeps hapenning. i was so relaxed i had 3 glasses of wine, i was not nervous to do anythign with her. I was all over her in that car and in the pool hall. I must have some nervous vibe i just dont get it. I am a nervous person and kinda quiet person at times, but not when i drink! i was so relaxed and horny at the same time i would loved to do sh*t with her, but we were on a major blvd. we couldnt do anything in her car besides make out and there was no where for us to go.

 

[Cod3r]

IMHO, women don't go on match.com to DATE, they go on there to find a MATE. These women are looking for long-term relationships and for whatever reason you're giving off the wrong impression that maybe u just want fun or something....

If she's good looking, do you think she needs match.com to date ?? NO, she needs match.com as a quick way to filter high prospect males for LTR...

Also learn a thing or two about sexual tension, it'll help you worlds


-Cod3r

 

[Nasman]

We were on a heavily populated blvd, she doesnt have tinted windows, and i live at home and so does she. Only thing i could ride was my chevy cavalier all the way home to jerk off ville. Wat was i gonna do suggest a motel? That is not worth the risk of her getting insulted. if she likes me she knows well fvck eventually. If she cant wait then shes a freakin ho anyway.

U are doing something wrong. I don't have the answer need more details. but it seems that U are not being aggressive enough.

U should have said lets get some more liquor and then asked to go to motel.
Then fvck her brains out.

 

[DJinTraining06]

IMHO, women don't go on match.com to DATE, they go on there to find a MATE. These women are looking for long-term relationships and for whatever reason you're giving off the wrong impression that maybe u just want fun or something....

If she's good looking, do you think she needs match.com to date ?? NO, she needs match.com as a quick way to filter high prospect males for LTR...

Also learn a thing or two about sexual tension, it'll help you worlds


-Cod3r

Nah man, beleive me ive met a ton of these match girls now. The ones in their early to even late 20's that ive met seem more interested in having fun, and i get the impression they get tuerned off by me for wanting an ltr, or just for reason i cannot figure out. maybe im a dork. maybe its somehtin else i just dont know. The ugly ones and low average want ltrs. The others want them deep down, but really they dont know wat they want cuz theyre hot or above avg at least, and they have so many options. Which i guess i cant blame em for. They have a hard time giving any man their attention for a long time, cuz they have so many other chocies cuz their hot and guys want em.

Im just totally demoralized over this. twice in 1 week 2 thursdays in a row actually, i met very hot girls off match and the same thing has basically happened. There's tons of sexual tension, they r flirthing their a$$es off, laughing and having a great time, mentioning future dates. And then they get cold and never wanna see me again. I mean i dont get it. i learned my lesson bout comin on too strong, and now i try to make calls sparse and i wait a while before contactin them again. I move slow, talk slow, never break eye contact, act ****y funny as best i can, dont agree and laguh at everything like i used to. I also try to also be myself, cuz i think its stupid to put on an act i cant keep up. I feel like ive made so much progress. And the results r just worse.

I have made progress in the sense that thE quality of girl is alot better now looks wise. And i was not making out with, and or touching the other girls as often as i have been lately with the girls i go on 1st dates with. But they dont wanna see me again.

U may ask why im being such a whiny b*thch bout this. I mean its not even bout the girls anymore. At this point its just mental confusion. I can fathom how 3 girls in a row now have been hot for me on the 1st date, and clearly stated they liked me, made out with me, in 1 case really passionate making out and feeling, and all 3 have not wanted to see me again. No matter how cool i play it. I waited a couple days with one to call em, 3 days with another, with the most recent one she told me she wanted to see me tonite, so i called her the day after, cuz she told me to otherwise i wouldnt have.

Its just boggling my mind. once is believable. twice is like u gotta be kididng me, 3 times is just insane. Wat is it? its not bad breath cuz they went back for more kissing. and left on a super happy note all 3 times. Was it cuz they were just feelin nice from their 2 drinks? and when they woke up in the morning they were either embarassed they came on so storng or they realized they thought i was a loser now that they're sober. Wat could this be. Maybe i gotta quit this match.com stuff. alot of these girls r seeing 5 guys at once. im good friends with a girl on match, and she currently has a f-buddy, and 3 or 4 guys she has seen mulitle times right now. in real life its not as bad, usually. I mean girls do that of course as do guys which is normal its called dating. But on match its an endless supply, where as in real life, how often do u really meet someone good in a bar. The number of plates u spin is most liely gonna be less.

 

[Zero Hero]

Do you usually make out on the first date? Maybe you are TOO aggressive and they go home and realize they were a slut and justify it that you are an ******* they don't want to see again. Not saying this is the case, just bouncing some ideas around cause I have some of the same probs.

 

[Babnik]

Do you usually make out on the first date? Maybe you are TOO aggressive and they go home and realize they were a slut and justify it that you are an ******* they don't want to see again. Not saying this is the case, just bouncing some ideas around cause I have some of the same probs.

Yeah...this happened to me too....


One girl told me that if you make out on the first date then the girl may feel like she is a slut...its odd...really odd.

 

[Brak86]

maybe it's not you doing anything wrong. Most PUAs analyze the outcome of the situation and wonder what they did wrong/could have done better. But we have to realize that sometimes it's just that the girl is a tease or is weird.

 

[Babnik]

maybe it's not you doing anything wrong. Most PUAs analyze the outcome of the situation and wonder what they did wrong/could have done better. But we have to realize that sometimes it's just that the girl is a tease or is weird.

But if the pattern is very similar then WIERD is out of the question, but TEASE may be it OR its something PUAs are doing wrong.