Why do some people "make it" here at Sosuave and some people don't...your thoughts?

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's the difference between winners and losers.

1. Winners never give up. Losers quit the moment things get the slightest bit difficult.
2. Winners make exceptional use of time. Losers waste time doing useless things.
3. Winners plan and map their route to success. Losers consider plans belong to builders and maps belong in glove compartments.
4. Winners take responsibility for all outcomes. Losers prefer to place blame on others.
5. Winners start working on a plan at the earliest opportunity. Losers procrastinate, delay and run out of time.
6. Winners learn from their own mistakes and the experience of others. Losers make the same mistakes over and over again.
7. Winners are pro-active. Losers are re-active.
8. Winners have vision and imagination. Losers are backward looking and lack initiative.
9. Winners encourage and inspire others. Losers criticize and ridicule others.
10. Winners seek information and embrace new knowledge. Losers ignore better methods, concepts and ideas.
11. Winners continually push existing limits and boundaries. Losers feel comfortable operating below their self-imposed ceilings.
12. Winners are inspired to do more to be more. Losers conspire to do less and not be noticed.

 

[saki]

I'm getting fed up with trying to change from being an introverted guy to someone I'm not in order to find it. Some guys say "yeah I used to be shy then I just gained confidence and starting approaching, now I'm a DJ!!!".

I'm sorry, if you are trully a more introverted person you can't just practice being outgoing and suddenly change. There are times when I'm more outgoing but it happens without any effort. When I TRY to become outgoing it just doesn't work because it isn't who I am. People have different temperaments and unfortunately in North America (among other places) introvertedness is a less than advantageous trait to have in the dating world. I can't help it, it takes more time for me than most to open myself up to strangers, been that way my entire life. Then I think to myself, "wow, all this stress just for some *****", and it annoys the hell out of me.

That's life I guess.

You are not alone

 

[i am me]

/\dont give up. thats why some people make it and you're not. u can gimme an excuse like "i'm an introvert" but all thats gonna do is keep u in the same position as u are. maybe u are more socially challenged the rest of us...that just makes things more of a challenge and itll make things sweeter when u suceed