Why do guys want to get married?

[Scought]

I dont understand this marriage thing. Maybe I am a bit young. But if you have truly found the one, why not just be exclusive. What does spending money on a wedding/honeymoon etc., have to do with love?

Are people afraid of being alone, so they get married?
Are they insecure that they believe marriage will 'keep' the girl?

I wish I could take credit for the following but I cant, its from a website:

The greatest myth ever to deceive humanity is the myth of marriage. We've all been duped into believing that marriage is the end-all remedy to our loneliness; that tying the knot is a mandatory function we all must seek during our brief tenure on earth. Wake up people! It's time to face the chilling reality.

Marriage isn't a cure for our want of companionship, it's the disease of imprisonment. You'll be pleading to be euthanized in no time at all as millions upon millions have already found out. Look at the marriage world around you.

Divorce is at an all-time high and while the "experts" toil over the tedious statistics, trying to psycho-analyze and negotiate a solution to the crisis, those of us who've been to hell and back are frantically trying to warn the oh-so-envied singles of the impending doom that awaits them if they elect to tie the noose...er, the knot.

Therefore, fret not then, single person. You are endowed through your sound judgment the freedom that so many married victims only dream of embracing again. Stay free, stay empowered, stay single!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Because hors don't know what "exclusive" means but a virgin does!!!!!!!! If a woman (hor) is sexing you then she is sexing whomever pleases her!!!

Don't be a fool and believe that a hor "loves"!!!!!

Marriage = committment!!! TO ONE MAN FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Non-virgins are hors and do not abide by THE law!!!!!

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Because hors don't know what "exclusive" means but a virgin does!!!!!!!! If a woman (hor) is sexing you then she is sexing whomever pleases her!!!

Don't be a fool and believe that a hor "loves"!!!!!

Marriage = committment!!! TO ONE MAN FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Non-virgins are hors and do not abide by THE law!!!!!

I dunno PRL, My moms wasn't a virgin when she married my pops and they've been together for like 30 years now. I doubt either of them has cheated on the other because they're both really difficult to get along with...probably why I don't call home to them that often.

I doubt I'll marry a virgin either but I also have some seriously high selectability for relationships as it stands. I doubt I could marry a girl without having our lives be more comfortable together then us being apart, Jointly.

Who knows though, people are wierd and the most unpredictable things can happen to anybody.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

DJ PRMOON, do yuo think your parents tell you everything??? NO!!!!!!!!!

I'm old enough ro be your dad!!!! And my wisdom is beyond my years of life!!!

You were born in 1972 and your mom was not a virgin - that doesn't surprise me kid!!!

Let me tell you straight up - your upbringing wasn't the ideal for a child to be raised as a man-child as nature dictated so!!! Your mother wasn’t pure and I can tell you that your father did NOT respect your mother as if she was pure!!! Conflict and strife is the result when matures are corrupted!!

By the mid-‘60’s women were burning their bras and the corrupt homo/hor agenda was in full force!!!! Your mother was a by-product of this thinking, if not the direct source!!!!

You don't have to tell me what you went through I sensed and experienced it, en masse, this corrupted force!!!

 

[PRMoon]

uhhhh I'm 24... that would make my birth date 1980. My parent's both grew up dirt poor in the Civil Rights movement and were the focus of serious opresson in their respective southern states. Since they were both the oldest of their medium sized, and very poor familys, they both had to grow up quickly. As a result they're both really REALLY stern and alot of people see them as being bitter. I doubt my dad had little respect for my mom because they met while working in a social rights meeting long before I was born.

Though you may be old enough to be my father, I actually know my parents better then just about anyone on the planet. I've been good at sizing up other people that I encounter in person because of the way my parents raised me.

As for me I could really care less about a girls sexual history. I mean aside from certain physical signs that you won't discover till after you've done the deed, none of us can really be certain about a girls sexual history. I've met girls who talked a big game and turned out to be virgins, and wh*res posing as virgins to put out big game. So really I'm more worried about getting to know the person rather then trying to uncover a history that involves utlizing a medical unit. Gotta play to my strenghts, don't care about the history as long as I can touch the soul of the person.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by PRMoon
.....As for me I could really care less about a girls sexual history. I mean aside from certain physical signs that you won't discover till after you've done the deed, none of us can really be certain about a girls sexual history. I've met girls who talked a big game and turned out to be virgins, and wh*res posing as virgins to put out big game. So really I'm more worried about getting to know the person rather then trying to uncover a history that involves utlizing a medical unit. Gotta play to my strenghts, don't care about the history as long as I can touch the soul of the person.

You are wrong, kid!!!! Virginity is a state of mind!!!!!! T

The physical act of hordom is merely a transcedence of the mind - as a woman/man thinketh so is she/he!!!!!

your last sentences tugged at my heart strings, but as a man I started to think!!!!!

Be rational and not poetic!!!!

Of course you care of where the mother of your children has been - that which sprouts from the womb is nothing more than the by-product of it's source!!!!

If the mother of your children is corrupt so shall be it's offspring!!! As a woman thinketh so shall be her seed!!!!

You are the fruit of the tree that bore you!!!

 

[PRMoon]

still not buyin it captian. I mean if a girl has sex with just one other person then she's not a virgin, yet at the same time she's not a wh*re either. And lets make it even more complex by saying that one time was a rape, she's had sex but it wasn't an "act of corrupton" as you make it sound. Fact is there are too many lines to be drawn for me to base sexual history as my judge of character. I'd much rather trust my judgment and make decisons based on the experiences I've had with the person.

I don't even know where you're going with that whole corruption breeds corruption thing either. Lets also say that you were the byproduct of an actual wh*ore, your path is not set in stone. Anyone can change their life. I could be a preist born of a prostitute for all anyone knows. The world is not a place bound by thoughts or concepts of how things should be, it does what it wants, as do the inhabitants.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Read the thread "Knock it off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The definition of a hor is absolute!!!!! Start reading my responses on page 2 or 3 - let me know where I have a problem with my logic!!!

you will learn that which is correct in thinking!!!

 

[wind20mph]

if you won't spend and make it as memorable... then quit about thinking of marriage.

because its is a holy sacrament of matrimony int he christian world and a sacred rituals for others.

if you want to know about marriage get yourself a book or search through the internet.

because if you think of marriage as one source of your love related interest. you are not looking.

 

[PRMoon]

I did multiple searches and couldn't find it but I did read your DJ Code of conduct thread and I think I have an idea of what you're getting at.

All in all I think you and I are just of two different schools of thinking, and I doubt there's every going to be a mutual compromize on the subject of womens sexuality reached from those seperate schools. Since we view people (not just women) in different ways, we evaluate them in different ways.

But so is life... so many choices... so many views... and endless waltz.

 

[dietzcoi]

I cannot answer your question since it seems to me that marriage is all the advantage for the woman (unless she is rich) and none for the man, really

I do know if you marry the wrong woman your life will be hell on earth.

That, I do know.

Dietzcoi

 

[Rockadeimis]

I would assume that men get married for all the reasons women do. Monogamy, companionship, like to start a family, etc.

As a man, those things mean a lot to me. It's not just about banging chicks all the time. The thrill dies quickly if it's just about physical stimulation. What about mental and emotional stimulation? It's just that men don't *seem* to value these things as much as women claim they do.

And don't give me that 'you can do all that and be single' line. It may be true, however, if I'm going to be a father and start a family, you can be sure I'm going to be married to the chick first. I've seen what happens when parents have children out of wedlock, it's a headache that won't go away. If/when the time and woman is right, get married.

But I'm not married, and have a fear of commitment...so don't take my word for it.

 

[squirrels]

To help insure a stable environment/foundation for raising children.

That's the ONLY GOOD reason to get married.

 

[spider_007]

but think about it, it's just a piece of paper,

It's the same realtionship, same everything, except now you got a piece of paper saying "you'r married"

It doesn't change the fact that close to 70% get devorced.
It just makes it harder for the guy when the biach decides she needs veriety, and splits with your money

 

[TheRelic]

If you break the norm and actually marry the right person, I think it's the ideal, and am looking forward to it.

 

[PeeGee]

Originally posted by squirrels
To help insure a stable environment/foundation for raising children.

That's the ONLY GOOD reason to get married.

Exactly! And since I don't ever EVER want a child, marriage is not for me.

Finally I'm reminded of reasons that won't have people think 'oh he's just a [player/scared of commitment/gay].

xD

 

[00Kevin]

Consider a mail order bride. You can bang a hot girl for a year or more and then when she becomes a citizen you can just get another one.

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by PRMoon
All in all I think you and I are just of two different schools of thinking, and I doubt there's every going to be a mutual compromize on the subject of womens sexuality reached from those seperate schools. Since we view people (not just women) in different ways, we evaluate them in different ways.

I feel more connected to your perspective, but I recognize PRL's ideas and find value in them as well. Every person/woman is different and therefore never easily categorized by rigid rules. Theories help us understand similarities in more common behaviors in general. This provides us with hopefully effective and quick responses which develop us into more confident men. Many woman are too complex to apply the "virgins=good, all other women=hors" rule in this day and age. I do admit that many women fall into the hor category, but for many reasons not just their not being a virgin. Food for thought.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by Mister Big
I feel more connected to your perspective, but I recognize PRL's ideas and find value in them as well. Every person/woman is different and therefore never easily categorized by rigid rules. Theories help us understand similarities in more common behaviors in general. This provides us with hopefully effective and quick responses which develop us into more confident men. Many woman are too complex to apply the "virgins=good, all other women=hors" rule in this day and age. I do admit that many women fall into the hor category, but for many reasons not just their not being a virgin. Food for thought.

I see and understand his views and I definately see why he has so much conviction in them. I agree there are certain sets of values to be concidered for everyperson and having a standard set for these rules is not a bad thing necessarily. But I also think that people aren't always what they first appear to be, and often they change overtime. A wh*re won't always be a wh*re if they commit to changing their lives. It's the same with druggies, alcoholics, chronic fighters, anyone who has a routine of bad behavior has the opportunity to change their lives.

I know my girlfriend has had sex in the past but really it doesn't bother me because it's not like I'm a virgin either. She's a human being and so am I, so why should I dwell on her past when she has equal right to dwell on mine but doesn't. We discusses our history and I've f*cked way more chicks then she's been with guys. She's with me not because of what I've done but because of the mental connection she feels for me now. Will this last for ever? Who knows? And frankly, who cares, I'm with a girl for reasons that make sex like a side idem to the entree that is our relationship. Let the future come as it will but I live for today and today I'm with a good girl.

 

[00Kevin]

A womans past is 99.9999% of who she is. You can't just forget about a womans past.

Every man wants a woman who has proven that she can uphold an oath. A woman who remains a virgin or even one who tries to keep her numbers low is a woman who has proven that her emotionals don't rule her life. When a temptation comes her way she will be less likely to cheat.

That is very important. You would have to be a complete idiot not to judge a woman that you plan to give a ring to on her past. When you make a judgment call that will change your life you have to consider EVERYTHING!