why do guys burn to have a girl? but girls dont

[Deep Dish]

why this does not happen to girls?
they do not become desperate, they are not afc girls or something.

Women are in the center of the universe (of attention).

In the Paradox of Choice, the more options you have, the less happy you will be: the more indecisive you will be, the less you will be satisfied with your choices, the more buyer's remorse (regret) of your decisions. The more options you have, the more cross-comparisons you must do for each choice, which burns you out. The more options you have, the more you maximize your expectations of the "perfect choice" rather than being satisfied with "good enough," leading you to have unrealistic expectations. 

As consequence, we now have the hook-up culture. Women are delaying relationships, eschewing marriage and children, while burning for the high value Lacrosse team alpha cad jerks. Women will always burn for men of high value, but the difference now is the standards are more difficult for the average guy to satisfy because of the proliferation of options (because feminism lifted the floodgates of hypergamy.) Add into this the proliferation of orca whales and elephants saturating the sexual market, leading desirable skinny girls to be an endangered species, leading men to have even less options (thus men are more desperate). Game has never been more necessary than now.

 

[Gro0ver]

I think people are forgetting that there a fat/ugly chicks who have no options at all, except maybe the nerdy WOW dude who she sees at burger king sometimes.

Plus, women judge their options on quality not numbers. They won't feel happy about having 10 options if they do not consider them sufficient quality.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Done this before to a 20 year old girl and she couldn't stop thinking about me. Then she went to college and took engineering with a bunch of guys...she stopped. Granted we were living far apart, but still.

Its happened with other girls too, the sex is awesome, but they still meet others, richer, taller, better looking, more connections. Can't complain though, it's the market.

Engineering is like online dating for girls. 4-5 guys for every girl. A girl who is a 6 thinks she is a dime. :crackup:

 

[Burroughs]

Women are in the center of the universe (of attention).

In the Paradox of Choice, the more options you have, the less happy you will be: the more indecisive you will be, the less you will be satisfied with your choices, the more buyer's remorse (regret) of your decisions. The more options you have, the more cross-comparisons you must do for each choice, which burns you out. The more options you have, the more you maximize your expectations of the "perfect choice" rather than being satisfied with "good enough," leading you to have unrealistic expectations. 

As consequence, we now have the hook-up culture. Women are delaying relationships, eschewing marriage and children, while burning for the high value Lacrosse team alpha cad jerks. Women will always burn for men of high value, but the difference now is the standards are more difficult for the average guy to satisfy because of the proliferation of options (because feminism lifted the floodgates of hypergamy.) Add into this the proliferation of orca whales and elephants saturating the sexual market, leading desirable skinny girls to be an endangered species, leading men to have even less options (thus men are more desperate). Game has never been more necessary than now.

very well said

game is needed now more than ever.

the dudes I know who suffer the most are the company builders of the future...the dudes who could be the next steve jobs or zuckerfvcks...these guys are nerdy, work 120 hours a week, have serious money backing but just have no time to game biyaches...like literally no time.

problem is biyaches are so short sighted and stupid they don't even realize they are talking to the next internet mogul...dumb cvnts....they want lacrosse dude...but lacrosse dude won't be worth 50mil in 6 years.

but slim, pretty face hotties don't think about the future...they have so much d1ck being thrown at them..they think rich handsome dudes are common...but no...its easier to find a tall dude that looks like tom brady...than a handsome dude who makes serious bank..but chicks are generally too dumb to realize this until they are no longer at their hottest usually over age 26..hypergamy in motion.

 

[Brighter]

the dudes I know who suffer the most are the company builders of the future...the dudes who could be the next steve jobs or zuckerfvcks...these guys are nerdy, work 120 hours a week, have serious money backing but just have no time to game biyaches...like literally no time.

I say good for them, they're doing something with their lives and have figured out the easiest and most powerful way to attract women is to sidestep learning "game" and focus on achieving actual success in your life and career. You'll always lose money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing money.

problem is biyaches are so short sighted and stupid they don't even realize they are talking to the next internet mogul...dumb cvnts....they want lacrosse dude...but lacrosse dude won't be worth 50mil in 6 years.

Come on dude, can you honestly say that we're any different? Don't be so judgmental. You give me a HB9 cheerleader and a HB7 and I'm gonna go for the cheerleader. So would you. It's human nature. Once we get over how hot the cheerleader is and start to look at her actual personality then the HB7 might start to crop up on our radar. Believe it or not, this happens with women all the time as well.

but slim, pretty face hotties don't think about the future...they have so much d1ck being thrown at them..they think rich handsome dudes are common...but no...its easier to find a tall dude that looks like tom brady...than a handsome dude who makes serious bank..but chicks are generally too dumb to realize this until they are no longer at their hottest usually over age 26..hypergamy in motion.

Damn man, you've got some serious aggression here. There are a number of women like that, but dude, you'll be glad to hear that there are a lot of women aren't. You guys need to stop treating the average party girl/bar slvt as the definitive representation of young women, you're just sabotaging yourself with this pessimistic ****. Yes those party girls you meet at bars are really only good for a lay or to get in with a social circle - that's what they're there for. You're not supposed to date them. Those are the ones that are most likely to be the embodiment of all the misogynistic hate that everyone seems to have on these forums towards women.

Ever date a girl that you met somewhere other than at a party or a bar? Like at the library, or in the fine arts, or at a charity event? You know, doing something meaningful? Seriously, stop thinking all women are filthy wh0res, for your own sake. You guys are going to end up so jaded that you'll sabotage all your future relationships with women.

 

[cordoncordon]

Girls do burn for guys, just not in the same manner. It all comes down to evolution and genetics my friend. Evolution and genetics. Look at the animal world. The males are 99.9999% of the time the ones fighting over the females, while the females just sit back watching, waiting to get sexed. All the females have to do is show they are in heat and the males come running. Same with humans.

This is not a learned behavior. It is something we are all born with.


EVOLUTION.

 

[Burroughs]

Ever date a girl that you met somewhere other than at a party or a bar? Like at the library, or in the fine arts, or at a charity event? You know, doing something meaningful? Seriously, stop thinking all women are filthy wh0res, for your own sake. You guys are going to end up so jaded that you'll sabotage all your future relationships with women.

talk to me when you have a child and a baby momma to deal with like me you might sing a different tune :crackup: :crackup:

You make a serious mistake if you think 'library girls' or 'charity girls' are not motivated by hypergamy....'charity girls' trust fund girls, whooooo I went to school with them, I had a kid with one....they are some high octane biyaches.
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[Brighter]

talk to me when you have a child and a baby momma to deal with like me you might sing a different tune :crackup: :crackup:

Haha touche. You're probably right, I guess I can't really speak to that. I'm sure by the time I've been married for a few years I'll probably have a much different perspective, but hey, marriage breaks down everybody right? ****, divorce rates have never been higher in this country.

You make a serious mistake if you think 'library girls' or 'charity girls' are not motivated by hypergamy....'charity girls' trust fund girls, whooooo I went to school with them, I had a kid with one....they are some high octane biyaches.
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I mean that you have a much better chance finding a relatively decent girl looking in those places than you would at a bar. There are crazies and slvts everywhere, but you have better odds outside of the club scene.

 

[Deep Dish]

Brighter:
Ever date a girl that you met somewhere other than at a party or a bar? Like at the library, or in the fine arts, or at a charity event? You know, doing something meaningful?... I mean that you have a much better chance finding a relatively decent girl looking in those places than you would at a bar.

The Not In A Bar Myth

Those meaningful women are the very same women who visit bars.

 

[incognito42]

It's because the vast majority of girls have tons of options. If you have lots of options and reqlize theres going to be another hottie just around the corner that you can get then you don't care about one hot chick/dude, and you realize theres no point in changing who you are for someone.

 

[nismo-4]

Order in the court!

Women are so much better at banding together to raise the price of love and sex than men are at banding together to lower said price. Women do control the dating market after all. Men want sex, men want to be loved, etc. Desperation is rampant!

Girls have so many offers thrown at them. Yep, men chase and women choose. There is also no such thing as an attractive girl who is single by choice, yet doesn't want to be.

Being 2012, women are worshipped and pedestalized beyond belief, and the constant spreading of the seduction/ PUA community doesn't help. Seriously, all a woman has to do is review your offer and say yes or no. Men have little power in the dating market. Case and point, have a man say I want sex. Then have a woman do the same thing. The man would get little to no attention, but the woman would be swarmed! Sure, men have the relationship card, but the fine print reads that this card is useless a woman chooses you. To me, the relationship card that men supposedly hold is laughable at best because it's the female's power that gets enforced more than the male's power. The situation is gonna get worse before it gets better. I wonder. In about 2020 every man is gonna be into this kind of stuff.

Then take it to online dating. Women get too many messages, and men get too few replies. It's so bad that lots of women are there just to get their egos stroked or extort a man as opposed to having a genuine relationship.

A woman can have sex whenever she wants. Or a relationship. Very few men have this kind of power (barring escorts and hookers, hell dating and marriage is legalized prostitution isn't it?). It's girls who never run out of options. Men do sadly.

Also Who dares Win makes a valid point too!

1)Girls have so many options that dont develop any strong attachment to a guy except if he stands way above all the others, most of the time they spin plates without even trying to do ti, its guys who spin themselves to them.

I've rarely seen women throw themselves at a man. I saw a beautiful woman walking through the airport and she got 3 guys going for her in 2 minutes.

2)Girls do not feel any pressure to get validated through a guy while guys are being told directly and indirectly that they belong to a lesser stock if they dont have a girl.

Women want a desirable man, and men know and feel desirable as long as they have at least ONE woman. Any love is better than no love.

This is obvious anytime in a group of people both guys and girls make fun of a guy who didnt scored enough but almost none will make fun of a girl for remaining dry, to that you add this new madness of the "single smart girl who doesnt need a man" pushed from media.

The media is empowering women, and causing them to snub the average guy, thinking they can hold out for a muscular millionaire. A guy is likely to become the butt of the jokes if he's single. If a woman's single, she can walk outside or call up some chump she had in her phone since 2009 and get in a relationship very quickly.

3)Guys have a much highter sex drive than girls which just like hungriness, the longer it last and the longer it increase in power till pushing you to do stupid dangerous things.

Women can get sex whenever they want to. Men don't have that kind of choosing power.

I would say ego is involved in both genres but much more in girls, in fact its much easier to win a girl through her ego than through her feelings.

Women can control their feelings. Women have these inflated egos because of the media, Facebook (Now known to me as Facialbook), and Online dating sites.

Reject her or drop her or ignore her and no matter how incompetant you are, she will have eyes for you only.

If she decides to have said eyes. If not, this statement is false. Because for every one guy who rejects, drops, or ignores her, there's 100 guys waiting to have a chance with her and bend over backwards for her.

Women price themselves on the number of DESIRABLE options that are available. The fact that desire and attraction can't be negotiated is no help to men whatsoever.

Women are in the center of the universe (of attention). Women are delaying relationships, eschewing marriage and children, while burning for the high value Lacrosse team alpha cad jerks.

This is exactly why game was invented. Made by someone who knew what traits the rich, famous, and handsome have and found out how to subconsciously communicate them to appear at a much higher value.

Women will always burn for men of high value, but the difference now is the standards are more difficult for the average guy to satisfy because of the proliferation of options (because feminism lifted the floodgates of hypergamy.)

More like because women want to hold out for a high value male for as long as they can, and brand the average guy as a friend. Lots of women nowadays are relentlessly shallow.

Add into this the proliferation of orca whales and elephants saturating the sexual market, leading desirable skinny girls to be an endangered species, leading men to have even less options (thus men are more desperate).

Yeah, but even though they're whales and elephants, they're still women, and always have lots of options. The male penis has no social value, and this is part of the desperation dynamic.

Game has never been more necessary than now.

True but game can only do so much for you. It boosts the attraction that is ALREADY THERE. You can't create attraction.

About ambition and working courtesy of Burroughs bringing this up (I might as well tell the truth); most men are working trying to come up. They have ambition. Ambition is not a turn on for women because they want the working man who ACTUALLY MADE IT AND IS SUCCESSFUL. I have ambition, and I have yet to see a woman burn for me because of it. Hey, do women know what a FUTURE MILLIONAIRE/ FUTURE FAMOUS PERSON/ FUTURE HUNK looks like? No f**kin' way. Women mainly care about what you can do for them IN THE PRESENT. Ambition doesn't make a woman wet. Unless the man with it had a big success and is trying to make it bigger.

There's more men than women in the world.

The game is rough, I'm just telling it like it is.