Why do (all?) girls play...games?

[SoSuaveDude]

I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?

 

[Jariel]

Tough question. I was doing an interview with a few female friends on this about a year ago and it was pretty insightful. Most of the time it just comes down to women having conflicting and unpredictable emotions, and trusting them over their sense of logic.

However, here's the irony. The only girls who have ever kept my interest are the ones who DO play mind games. When a girl lays it on the line and tells me she's really into me and is always available, I get complacent, start losing interest and kinda push her to the background while I see what else I can get.

You have seen a thread I started about a woman playing hard to get with me. As much as I hate to admit it, her games have spiked my interest in her. Wheras I have a bit of a stalker at the moment. She's an 8 in looks, nice personality and great conversation, but she literally begs me to give her a chance. She's told me I can do anything I want to her sexually too and said to me "tell me what I can do for you to win you over". In my head I'm thinking she might be good for a rainy day, but for now i have no interest in her at all.

It's just human nature I guess. Most women know this and they know by playing hard to get, they can increase interest levels and appear more valuable.

 

[ARrocket]

Tough question. I was doing an interview with a few female friends on this about a year ago and it was pretty insightful. Most of the time it just comes down to women having conflicting and unpredictable emotions, and trusting them over their sense of logic.

However, here's the irony. The only girls who have ever kept my interest are the ones who DO play mind games. When a girl lays it on the line and tells me she's really into me and is always available, I get complacent, start losing interest and kinda push her to the background while I see what else I can get.

You have seen a thread I started about a woman playing hard to get with me. As much as I hate to admit it, her games have spiked my interest in her. Wheras I have a bit of a stalker at the moment. She's an 8 in looks, nice personality and great conversation, but she literally begs me to give her a chance. She's told me I can do anything I want to her sexually too and said to me "tell me what I can do for you to win you over". In my head I'm thinking she might be good for a rainy day, but for now i have no interest in her at all.

It's just human nature I guess. Most women know this and they know by playing hard to get, they can increase interest levels and appear more valuable.

This has gotten me thinking...

The girls that play games and are hot/cold are the ones that pique our interests. Yet we men sit around complaining about this behavior.

The guys that are aggressive and semi-@ss-hole (aloof, whatever you wanna call it) are the ones that pique the interests of the ladies. Yet women sit around complaining about this behavior.

Conclusion: We're all fvcked in the head

 

[SoSuaveDude]

This has gotten me thinking...

The girls that play games and are hot/cold are the ones that pique our interests. Yet we men sit around complaining about this behavior.

The guys that are aggressive and semi-@ss-hole (aloof, whatever you wanna call it) are the ones that pique the interests of the ladies. Yet women sit around complaining about this behavior.

Conclusion: We're all fvcked in the head

Mind = Blown!

 

[ArcBound]

This has gotten me thinking...

The girls that play games and are hot/cold are the ones that pique our interests. Yet we men sit around complaining about this behavior.

The guys that are aggressive and semi-@ss-hole (aloof, whatever you wanna call it) are the ones that pique the interests of the ladies. Yet women sit around complaining about this behavior.

Conclusion: We're all fvcked in the head

Amen to that. One of my friends was complaining how if she had sex with a guy, then the guy would immediately leave and she would never hear from him again. Then if she played hot, cold the guy would still chase her even though the same guy would be complaining...

Like I've said before, women and men are not so different, one is not some sort of alien creature to the other. A lot of what works on women, works on men and vice versa...

 

[Borknagar]

Honestly, with me, playing games., playing hard to get and making it difficult lowers a womens value completely. But unfortunately, nearly all high value women are in relationships. Looks isn't the total package when it comes to high value, most 7-10s are a 2 at best when it comes down to what goes on in their head.

 

[Trump]

I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?

Girls play games because guys allow them to. You think every guy who has a girlfriend puts up with that crap? No, they grow a pair somewhere in between puberty and watching porn.

 

[ohnoes]

I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?

If it is stressful you aren't doing it right. You are too attached to the outcome. Relax. Play. Have fun. ~Spin some plates~

 

[Scars]

The truth is, I don't think all girls are conscience of it, and it's sometimes "unintentional". Sure, you have your attention wh0res and gold-diggers.. But for the most part woman act off pure emotions. There's a couple reasons to explain her hot/coldness. The first one purely being a sh!t test. She may also take an interest in you one day, but is also keeping her options open by talking to other guys and sways her attention to another. It doesn't necessarily mean she faked those emotions. It's just what felt right at that moment in time. Sometimes she needs to rationalize to her friends and even herself why she likes you. It may not make sense to her, but it's how she feels. Sometimes her logical mind might win for a moment and she tries not speaking to you. All this means is that you need to work on raising her IL towards you.

To be blunt.. I think woman are too stupid to play games. And the girls that try, and call themselves "playerettes" make me laugh completely. They still abide by the same laws as every other woman. Watch them closely. They will brag about playing a "player" one day, then two weeks later they're heart broken. What happened? Thought you had things under control woman! My facebook is flooded with girls from high school who act like this.

To be a player you have to keep a calm, logical, and rational mind. Woman are incapable of this.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, I have a couple of chicks I'd planned on getting with last night or tonight. Right now, it ain't looking so good, and it's almost all on them. THEY were the wishy-washy ones. They both know each other, one of them I've already fvcked back in February. I do not think that either one of them knows I'm trying to get with either one of them last night or tonight. The one I haven't fvcked just blew off our plans last night after weeks of texts/messages. She had very believable excuses, but com'on, but I showed her that I believed her and let her go do whatever she had to do last night without a fuss.

The other one, who I have already fvcked, well she messaged me today about tonight. I can't seem to make contact with her now. These b!tches don't LISTEN whatsoever to what I say about MY Life. They are SO wrapped up in their lives that if I tell them When I'm getting home from work, they'll either forget, or it just simply goes in one ear and out the other, OR they are intentionally sabotaging our plans. Are women really this forgetful? or so in total disregard for the words you utter about yourself and when you can do what??? It's like I'll spell it out to them and they STILL don't remember or take into consideration that I can't do anything until I get off of work. And these b!tches don't work. Some do, but they all seem to have holes in their workdays where they can just fly off the cuff and go do something and then come back to work later, because they're women. We men can't get away with taking longas5 breaks like that, I think.

They. simply. don't. listen.

Most of them have sh!t for brains, and it's a wonder any of their children get the proper attention or care considering how forgetful they are when it comes to My time. It's a wonder how any woman remembers what a professor is saying to pass a test when they are so god damned forgetful when it comes to remembering any simplest of simple points I've tried to get across to her hard-boiled egg brain.

I think that my successes have come when a woman is READY to hear what I have to say. They have to be focused which is rarely what they do for very long. If I catch one of them when they are rarely focusing, then I may be able to get the ball rolling to get laid.

 

[Voice]

Tough question. I was doing an interview with a few female friends on this about a year ago and it was pretty insightful. Most of the time it just comes down to women having conflicting and unpredictable emotions, and trusting them over their sense of logic.

However, here's the irony. The only girls who have ever kept my interest are the ones who DO play mind games. When a girl lays it on the line and tells me she's really into me and is always available, I get complacent, start losing interest and kinda push her to the background while I see what else I can get.

You have seen a thread I started about a woman playing hard to get with me. As much as I hate to admit it, her games have spiked my interest in her. Wheras I have a bit of a stalker at the moment. She's an 8 in looks, nice personality and great conversation, but she literally begs me to give her a chance. She's told me I can do anything I want to her sexually too and said to me "tell me what I can do for you to win you over". In my head I'm thinking she might be good for a rainy day, but for now i have no interest in her at all.

It's just human nature I guess. Most women know this and they know by playing hard to get, they can increase interest levels and appear more valuable.

Excellent post. Such a simple concept and yet many can't grasp this. Looking back at my experiences I agree 100%.

I hardly ever give out rep yet it says I have to spread it around before I can give you any more.

 

[st_99]

IMO, what we call "playing games" I think is just part of the female inferiority complex. I mean, lets face it, males are the dominant species, women know it and so you'll always have them "acting funny" They never know a successful guys intentions, which is why they are always seemingly testing and acting weird. That's my theory.

 

[Jariel]

She may also take an interest in you one day, but is also keeping her options open by talking to other guys and sways her attention to another. It doesn't necessarily mean she faked those emotions. It's just what felt right at that moment in time.

I think this is VERY common. When talking to some female friends about this, they admitted this was one of the biggest reasons they go hot and cold. I also know it's the reason many girls have gone hot and cold with me because they often ended up in a relationship or patching things up with their ex not long after going hot and cold with me.

It's not something we want to believe, but it's so true.

 

[Jariel]

Excellent post. Such a simple concept and yet many can't grasp this. Looking back at my experiences I agree 100%.

I hardly ever give out rep yet it says I have to spread it around before I can give you any more.

Thanks man. Sometimes we men have to admit, we're not totally innocent when it comes to playing games either.

 

[Htienvu]

Having read all the replies, my conclusion to solve this problem is:

Don't give a shiet, spin lots of plates.

 

[DonGorgon]

I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?

cause they are drunk on the power they get from having a monopoly on the supply of vaginas .. for every 1 woman looking for sex there are 15 men looking for sex so you have many desperate men willing to do alot to get access to vaginas and that is where their high value and power comes from

women love being able to BS men and demand lots of things from them and treat them like crap all cause men art trying to get to the vagina playing these games is a power trip for women and as long as the demand and supply ration is so skewed most relationships will not work out..

Tough question. I was doing an interview with a few female friends on this about a year ago and it was pretty insightful. Most of the time it just comes down to women having conflicting and unpredictable emotions, and trusting them over their sense of logic.

^^^then there is that angle... but again women can only get away with such attitudes cause they have so many more optoins to replace every dude they piss of so they have no reason to act in a cool stable manner..

 

[Poonani Maker]

^^^then there is that angle... but again women can only get away with such attitudes cause they have so many more optoins to replace every dude they piss of so they have no reason to act in a cool stable manner..

This is so valid. They could care less if they piss you off (so don't EVER get pissed off unless you want to go out in flames, what I mean by that is don't waste your energy). Now US, on the other hand, MUST NOT be worried (or walking on eggshells) about pissing them off (which is Easily done these days) because every other guy is walking on eggshells to not piss them off. This sets you apart. I've realized this. This may not be why I get a lot of pvssy, but at least I know who I am and a maintain my integrity and thoughts not bending to their stupid silly little pea-brained ideas or behaviors.

 

[thevilittletroll]

The truth is, I don't think all girls are conscience of it, and it's sometimes "unintentional". Sure, you have your attention wh0res and gold-diggers.. But for the most part woman act off pure emotions. There's a couple reasons to explain her hot/coldness. The first one purely being a sh!t test. She may also take an interest in you one day, but is also keeping her options open by talking to other guys and sways her attention to another. It doesn't necessarily mean she faked those emotions. It's just what felt right at that moment in time. Sometimes she needs to rationalize to her friends and even herself why she likes you. It may not make sense to her, but it's how she feels. Sometimes her logical mind might win for a moment and she tries not speaking to you. All this means is that you need to work on raising her IL towards you.

i agree with this whole heartedly. i would say about 85% of women dont even realize that they are playing games. the same thing with s.hit tests, i dont think they even realize they are doing it. even the attention w.hores dont do it with the intention of hurting your feelings. they do it cause it gives them a positive emotional feeling, and its done on a sub-concious level. if women thought about this with their logical mind, knowing that it pissed off every guy, do you think they would still do it? probably not. as far as gold diggers go, i believe these are the girls that have figured it out with their logical mind. because they are female, even gold diggers can be gamed. thats what "game" is all about, triggering their emotions. if you can learn to trigger her emotions, any woman can be "gamed"

 

[thevilittletroll]

this is another reason women play games...women enjoy being the object of our desire and love to be persued. women enjoy the chase, a challenge, and the element of drama. they all fall hand in hand. here's an analogy: if you are playing a video game thats way too easy, and you beat the game in one day. you get bored with it and never play it again. its no longer a challenge. thats where women throw in the hot/cold tactics. its not that they are not attracted to you, they just want to see if you are willing to play along. if you fail the s.hit test and get upset, she will end the game. its just a s.hit test and is a little jab just to get a reaction from you. i still believe most women do this sub-conciously. as far as the drama goes, some women will knowingly, logically, and intentionally f.uck things up to create drama in the courting process. this is done in the same context as the s.hit test but on a much higher level of intesity. its just another obstacle for us as men to overcome. i'm not sure where women got the idea to do this intentionally? but i blame tv, movies, trashy romance novels, and magazines like cosmo. think about every chick flick you've ever seen. whats the one thing that they all have in common. boy meets girl, they fall in love, there's some kind of drama that happens where there's no way they can be together, but in the end they some how work through the drama, get back together, and live happily ever after. if you learn how to pass these little "obstacles" and i know they are a pain in the ass, you will be much better for it. after reading this post just be aware that 99% of all women play these little reindeer games, prepare yourself, know that its coming, so you will know how to win the game.

 

[GreyedOut]

I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?

Girl I'm dating now doesn't play games.

She rarely answers her phone/text during dates.
She hates facebook and never logs on.
She always replies to my texts and if there's a delay she always apologizes.
She lets me know when she's available to hang out and never flakes.
She never tries to make me jealous.
She understands I'm busy and works around my schedule.
She offers to drive my way and pays on dates.

I don't do games. I've been working on my self-improvement pretty well that I can actually be that picky. I refuse to settle for that garbage. I'll take the girl out for a great time, have fun,light and witty conversation. But I expect respect and I will respect her right back.

You should have enough going on in your life that you instantly realize the unneeded stress from games/drama takes away from the better things in life.

Life's too short. Enjoy it.