Why direct openers are killing your game.

[Hamdivitru]

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/174s88r

What do you guys think, I think this is true, I would like your opinion on this.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

No.

Thinking that telling a woman she is cute gives all your power away is coming from a simp frame: OMG you're so cute, I'll do anything to sleep with you.
Real frame to adopt: you're cute, what else do you have going for you, i.e. you caught my attention, can you keep it?

Anything can be an opener so it's pointless to debate the best one. Focus should be more on closing than opening and I don't know any indirect closes. Get direct earlier in the interaction if you value your time. What's the point of having a "great indirect" conversation for an hour that ends up going nowhere? Screen for mutual interest early and often

 

[Bingo-Player]

Direct or Indirect

Openers are all about execution , attractive women are usually expert at picking up on subtle body language cues , tone of your voice , posture , eye contact , confidence

IF you nail all of them subtlties or even some of them it really doesn't matter what you say chances are she will submit

If you approach her and are jumbling sentences, slouching and avoiding eye contact yes you are going to get rejected very fvcking quickly

Women tend to struggle to describe what they are really attracted too I mean they have a rough idea physically, but really they are just waiting for some ****y guy to come over and show them what they want

Women being instinctively submissive get very excited when a guy has very little interest in pleasing her and a lot of interest in pleasing himself

Its why ****iness & cheekiness is the number one route to poon

When I have been in my best form I have literally opened a woman and started touching her and talking about sex within 15 mins and she's gotten very excited she wants to sleep with me

Conversely when I've been more timid I can literally feel the woman pulling away from me both physically and emotionally

Perception is everything and a woman's is very mouldable

 

[characternote]

The direct vs indirect debate is as old as PUA itself. When I first got into game all them years ago, alarm bells instantly rang when every single 'expert' seemed to disagree with each other about literally every tiny nuance of 'game' (direct vs indirect being 1 of thousands!).
That should have been warning enough to know that it's all basically bro science.

But long story short, direct vs indirect?.....it's basically irrelevant.

Both will work swimmingly if she thinks you're good looking, you are her type, she's attracted to you etc. And both will fail if she's not.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Do you think any of these losers actually approach women? You gotta be out your mind lol

I literally gave these idiots free game and only a handful of them listened. The best hope these duddes have opening a woman and being successful in approach is meeting their escort for the first time

 

[Epicenter]

Do you think any of these losers actually approach women? You gotta be out your mind lol

I literally gave these idiots free game and only a handful of them listened. The best hope these duddes have opening a woman and being successful in approach is meeting their escort for the first time

I think whoore game is more fun than normal game. Normal game is not a game it is work. That is why some guys become weirdos with the game project.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

I think whoore game is more fun than normal game. Normal game is not a game it is work. That is why some guys become weirdos with the game project.

What exactly is whoore game? Exchange money and receive services... I see no game involved. You trying to game hookers into giving you freebies? If free sex is the goal might as well game chicks who don't charge in the first place

 

[Epicenter]

What exactly is whoore game? Exchange money and receive services... I see no game involved. You trying to game hookers into giving you freebies? If free sex is the goal might as well game chicks who don't charge in the first place

I give you an example from table tennis. It is one of the most fun sports. Normally one wants to play with guys who are better than you and you want that they give you an advantage.

In normal life it is hard work to get to the level that good players accept you. On the other hand if you pay a personal trainer you can get what you want. You can train the way you want and don't have to worry that he acts like an asshoole.

Another example jiu jitsu. Look at Zuckerberg. I am quite shure he reached a decent level. I am shure he got there with personal trainers. He did not play the normal game he played the game how he wanted to play.

Another example learning languages. It is annoying to find foreigner who wants to help you learning the language. On the other hand learning a language is fun if you have your personal trainer.

It is like having the option playing a videogame in easy mode. Or different versions of it.

I was in the Philippines I told this one guy that I like Japanese porn because the girls resist in the porn. What he said was but that is not how it is in real life.

Right why should we have to give a fuuck about real life if you can buy a porn actress who plays YOUR game.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I give you an example from table tennis. It is one of the most fun sports. Normally one wants to play with guys who are better than you and you want that they give you an advantage.

In normal life it is hard work to get to the level that good players accept you. On the other hand if you pay a personal trainer you can get what you want. You can train the way you want and don't have to worry that he acts like an asshoole.

Another example jiu jitsu. Look at Zuckerberg. I am quite shure he reached a decent level. I am shure he got there with personal trainers. He did not play the normal game he played the game how he wanted to play.

Another example learning languages. It is annoying to find foreigner who wants to help you learning the language. On the other hand learning a language is fun if you have your personal trainer.

It is like having the option playing a videogame in easy mode. Or different versions of it.

I was in the Philippines I told this one guy that I like Japanese porn because the girls resist in the porn. What he said was but that is not how it is in real life.

Right why should we have to give a fuuck about real life if you can buy a porn actress who plays YOUR game.

You might be on to something. Be warned that most members here are against men paying prostitutes.

 

[Epicenter]

You might be on to something. Be warned that most members here are against men paying prostitutes.

If they want to work hard I think that is ok too. When I was young I did it too but I am not shure if it is really worth it. Many times it is just ego shiit. This is why many sound like psychopathic children.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

I give you an example from table tennis. It is one of the most fun sports. Normally one wants to play with guys who are better than you and you want that they give you an advantage.

In normal life it is hard work to get to the level that good players accept you. On the other hand if you pay a personal trainer you can get what you want. You can train the way you want and don't have to worry that he acts like an asshoole.

Another example jiu jitsu. Look at Zuckerberg. I am quite shure he reached a decent level. I am shure he got there with personal trainers. He did not play the normal game he played the game how he wanted to play.

Another example learning languages. It is annoying to find foreigner who wants to help you learning the language. On the other hand learning a language is fun if you have your personal trainer.

It is like having the option playing a videogame in easy mode. Or different versions of it.

I was in the Philippines I told this one guy that I like Japanese porn because the girls resist in the porn. What he said was but that is not how it is in real life.

Right why should we have to give a fuuck about real life if you can buy a porn actress who plays YOUR game.

You want to pay a hooker to live out some fantasy, go right ahead. But don't confuse that with game. Your reply confirms that there is no actual game involved. And you aint training for sh1t by pay for play... If you train actual game you can roleplay your fantasies with a girl that isn't charging by the hour

 

[Epicenter]

You want to pay a hooker to live out some fantasy, go right ahead. But don't confuse that with game. Your reply confirms that there is no actual game involved. And you aint training for sh1t by pay for play... If you train actual game you can roleplay your fantasies with a girl that isn't charging by the hour

Most than not most PUAs are traumatized mental cases. They don't live a fantasy they live a nightmare. Think of Mystery or recently Rambo with his gay meltdown.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

Hahaha no one here is idolizing Mystery or Shambo.

Some guys who are struggling will read your post and think, "yea, why should I have to put in work on improving myself when I can just pay escorts?" Like I said, treating yourself with a hooker every now and then is your prerogative. However, it is not a replacement for putting in the work and leveling up as a man!

 

[Epicenter]

Hahaha no one here is idolizing Mystery or Shambo.

Some guys who are struggling will read your post and think, "yea, why should I have to put in work on improving myself when I can just pay escorts?" Like I said, treating yourself with a hooker every now and then is your prerogative. However, it is not a replacement for putting in the work and leveling up as a man!

I would prefer to learn jiu jitsu like Zuckerberg not being by being beaten daily in the hood.

I think one can learn pickup skills better in countries like Philippines where girls are much more natural and human than in the West. I think pick up skills can be learned more professionally with acting classes and personal trainer and so on. If you are 4 and you don't have the 'help' you might burn out and end like a weirdo.

 

[Bigpapa]

But long story short, direct vs indirect?.....it's basically irrelevant.

As long as you are calibrated

Being direct for too long can backfire easily ( like looking desperate )

If you gonna be direct you also have to go with the mentality that @Captain Redbeard mentioned “ you look cute, what else is there that should keep me interested?”

Going indirect is backword engineering the same mindset. You are interested in other stuff then you “ realize” that you like her and start escalating

 

[Ricky]

I think direct can kill a bit of the fun for women

i do run direct in spanish and other languages i am learning since i am not fluent enough to run traditional game