Why Did An Aussie Nerd Marry A Fat Ugly Woman

KoalaKing

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This is one of the saddest true life stories that you will ever read on this website, yet it is so common, that it makes me sick.

His name is, Andrew, he is very highly educated, has a great job, a nice house etc, yet he is as boring as hell.

He wears expensive clothing, yet they are to formal, he looks very old fashioned, dull, and there is no coolness or colour in his choice of outfits at all, he looks like he has come out of the 1920's or something.

Not only this but he comes accross as the nice guy wuss who is not prepared to be at all adventurous, he is also a wimp, he does not look very strong at all in his physical build, and his temperament and personality declare the weakness of a man who couldn't fight to protect himself, and who would be a push over in a physical bout if you punched him.

He seems very nervous when he speaks, his body language is very poor, and no hot babes would ever desire to be with him.

The worst thing about him is that he has accepted this terrible predicament of which he has found himself trapped in to the point that he has only just recently married a fat ugly 3 or 4 out of 10 woman, who is as lifeless and boring as he is, and who very few other guys would want to even fu-ck on a one night stand to knock their rocks off, let alone marry.

The thing about this is that although he is not a hunk himself in any stretch of the immagination, he could have made himself become a lot more appealing to the hottest babes, had he chose to wear some more colourful fashionable and trendy clothes, built his body up by pushing some heavy weights at his local gym, took up some boxing or martial arts training so that he had the confidence and know how to fight and protect himself, retrained his voice so that he spoke like a man, rather than the wuss that he is, as well as read self help books and dating guides to build up his low self esteem into a much more outgoing and powerful X Factor type personality that would have made him so much more appealing to the best looking members of the opposite sex.

I see this very same scenario so often in life and I wonder why these type of wimpish wussish nervous nerdy type of guys like, Andrew, continue on down this same devastating path to the extent that they marry a fat ugly woman that 90% of guys wouldn't even fu-ck on a one night stand.

Why don't they change and become the type of AlphaMale that the hottest babes desire, is this man, just very lazy or can't he see any way out of this devastating existence, it is a very sad thing to see. :mad: :confused: :mad:
 

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most people don't believe change is possible. it's difficult AS ALL HECK to imagine that things can be AT ALL DIFFERENT from what you've known YOUR WHOLE LIFE.

this is one of the reasons why people are obese and live that way. all previous experience has taught them to live life a certain way and they cannot imagine it being any different.

this is a HUGE issue that needs to be addressed in schools and stuff. the reason why exhortations to "expand your mind" and perhaps travel, read etc are so valid.

to come to understand that change is indeed possible and you needn't live out the rest of your days exactly as you have known it.
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if the guy was smart, he would have f'd her rotten, gained some confidence and momentum and then try and slingshot his way up... instead of marry her for heaven's sake.

personally, i can really relate though.... the world seemed to me to be a big scary place that i had no handle on and timidity and avoiding contact with it marked most of my life too. i'm just breaking my way out and telling myself i can handle it... but it's still somewhat scary.

delta

p.s. cynically speaking - well, it turns out it's true - there IS INDEED SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE.

and "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, mever make a pretty woman your wife, in my particular point of view, get and ugly girl to marry you"

p.s.2. this aspect of life doesn't necessarily have the same significance to all people... maybe he is or will be ok with it.
 
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right on the money

Delta said:
most people don't believe change is possible. it's difficult AS ALL HECK to imagine that things can be AT ALL DIFFERENT from what you've known YOUR WHOLE LIFE.

this is why people have such a difficult time moving on after a LTR ;)

They cant believe/imagine that there can be a life (usually better) afterwords...

Reality check!
 

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i was kind off in the same both. i used to go for girls way below me looks wise, i never understood why i never got attention form attractive females, even when i was built to perfection in the gym. i then realized down the line that i had given up and i settled for anywoman who gave me the look ,mostly they were ugs.. fastforward two years later after improving my grooming and fashion style. ug's are even scared to look at me now even some hbs. the mind is a powefull thing as you think so really shall you become. the worst part about all this was that i was goodlooking all along but lacked the confidence or style sense to pull it off ever since i was a teenager but now its my turn to shine. i hate guys who feel sorry for themselves and guys who limit themselves you can always improve something.
 

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Lot to do with how they were raised and well DNA. Not a nice thing to say but it's true. I can be an arrogant, cheap ******* and I'll be the first to admit it but never been taken for a ride by some trick (yet :D). Never had oneitis or spent more than few bucks and a week per girl. Yea I got a low success rate and aint the most populer guy around. As you can guess I didnt have a very friendly envoiurment growing up so basically dont really care what people think if it doesnt directly effect me.

Now some people were just brainwashed into running the rat race and having a dog,3 kids and a crapy garden. The main problem IMO is they dont realise there's something wrong, they think that's just how things are suposed to be.

My 2 cents
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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So why is it that you(KoalaKing) want everybody to be Alpha male? That's like saying nobody should work at McDonalds. That's just life, those type of people need loving too.

Concentrate on yourself and don't ask stupid questions.
 

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If it's you man, just say! We understand!

-AudiTy =o
 

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vp171s said:
So why is it that you(KoalaKing) want everybody to be Alpha male? That's like saying nobody should work at McDonalds. That's just life, those type of people need loving too.

Concentrate on yourself and don't ask stupid questions.
This is so true. If everyone was a hip/cool/alphamale don juan, the world would be horribly undeveloped. We would have no people willing to work in the worst jobs (because those jobs aren't cool). We would have no computer geeks to develop the technologies we are using now. Our lives would revolve around developing our social lives.
There is a place for everyone in the world, not all people necessarily desire to change.

--Mission
 
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