Why can't I meet a HB!!!!

[DoubleA]

Ok Ok. I am sitting here at work and I am wondering why I can't meet the type of girl I want. This is crazy. I can get noticed by HB but the only ones that approach me are Sperm Whales or if I do meet em they have like 2 too 3 kids and junk! What the hell is going on?!! Am I destined to just meet sperm whales and shortys with kids?! Anybody else in their late twenties out there feel as though they lost there spot and now the quality of women they meet are subpar for their standards? Or do I just keep hanging in there and by universal law fate kicks in this stuff balances out. Come on this can't be happening. Can you older guys give me some advice here??

 

[DoubleA]

This is a Rant....

Bump

 

[DankNuggs]

No, the fault lies with you being too big a pu$$y to go out and get what you want...Life lesson #1: You are responsible for your life and situation. No reason to ***** about it...

Goodlooking women deal with guys coming up to them all the time...They have to fend them off. Now why would they want the guy who's too afriad to go up and say hello??? Pot calling the kettle black for you to do nothing and get pissed when girls don't approach you....Your supposed to be a man, act like it...

 

[DoubleA]

Well

First of all, you don't know me CLOWN. I know HB. But I always get approched but the women aren't the women I idealize kicking it with. Second of all, SPANK NUGGS I'm more man than U on a bad day...SON. Believe it. A few years ago, I was gung ho about meeting HB's and would cop a number and still can. But the difference between me and U is thatyou'll run for the Punanny...I walk to it. All the chicks my age are out of shape / or have a rack of kids. I take care of myself. I just saw the last post saying fat chicks want male models...now I see this is a common thing. Besides who are you anyways...PUNK

 

[bp1974]

I'm finding the opposite.

As an AFC I was grateful for almost ANY attention, no matter how fugly.

Nowadays the quality of women seeking me out is going up and up. Plus 29 is a great age - I have the widest range to choose from: 24-40 is about my limit.

 

[NatureGuy]

I basically agree with DankNuggs on this
one. You largely determine your life and
situation in these matters. It's not always
easy to know what to change though.
And yes, 29 is a great age for this !

 

[DoubleA]

But do you guys feel as thought what's being thrown your way could be alot better at times? I mean I can approach any women I choose to you know. I have a cake job making decent money..(low 40's) and work with professional women...That's WOMEN... Do you hear me SPANK NUGGS?!! But the women I socialize with are totally differ from the ones I work with. But I refuse to date who I work with. The ones at work are 8.75-10. Outside they're 5 -7.90. When I was these cats age I could easily pull a 9 but now I'm stuck in bachelorhood with 5-7. I'd always thought the single would get better as the more stable I became after college. Maybe I should master my environment a little better.

 

[drixsa]

Re: Well

Originally posted by Rollo
Second of all, SPANK NUGGS I'm more man than U on a bad day...SON. Believe it.

its so funny when people go around yellin stuff like this around.

when someone says something like this its just so hard to belive them...anyone feel the same way?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Well, you don't specify how old you are. If you are in the 27-32 age range, this is the time for you the pull the best a$$ you can get. I suggest you go after young women in the 23-27 range or so. Under 22 they are usually too immature for guys your age, and usually they don't know what the hell they want, or are not willing to experiment and realize who's the goods. The older the girl gets, yes, the more likely she'll be out of shape, or has kids, or has too many hang ups about guys, etc.

This is the time where you are at your most marketable. You got a descent job, you still look good, you're not "too old" or "too young", its peak time. But when its all said and done, you are gonna have to go out there and take it. No HB is gonna come and approach you and tell you "Oh Rollo, you're so great, here take me." If you want to find that one girl for you, you're gonna have to search and go through a lot of prospects. She's not gonna knock on your door. Its up to you to do whatever it takes to get to where you want to go.

 

[NatureGuy]

Gangster has good advice.

 

[Big Pappy]

Just my opinion as an older man.

Are you looking to get married? What do you care if a lady has some kids? Kids are great! And if you don't like them, you don't have to date them.

The thing about single moms is this:

They know quite a bit about life and sex. You can learn a good bit from them.

Gee, she's a mom? I guess that means she's had sex before! Ergo, you know that under the right conditions, she will have sex! Maybe not with you, but with somebody.

We all would love a woman with the flat stomach and trim thighs and no baggage from the traumatic years of adolescence. But you know what? I'm betting everyone has some baggage they carry around. Get to know a mom. She might have hot friends, you just never know.

You say that the pickings are slim. Perhaps they are. I know what that's like. In the wild, when the Lions can't find food, they go somewhere else. Change your playground if you want to change your playmates.

I know we all have differing views; when someone tells you what you don't want to hear, don't be defensive. Just read it, mutter something about the dude and move on.

Just my two cents.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'll give it to 'ya for specifically knowing what you want in a woman but in doing that, you will definitely lessen the pool of available women; and that's ok! Understand that with that, you will still have to walk through sludge but at least you know not to stand too long in one place and sink to the bottom.

I suggest just try to enjoy your trek through the goo but remember that you have to keep moving. The woman you want will probably not drop into your lap, you'll have to work toward finding her just as she will have to find you.

 

[DankNuggs]

Your inferences regarding myself seem to mimick your incompetance regarding the female persuasion, I'm not surprised.

Not that it really makes any difference, you should be able to spot good advice from any source, but to validate. I'm in my early-mid twenties and have a dynamic job in real estate development. I drive a nice car, have a nice place, and even work with WOMEN as you call them. Many are of the quality you speak of, and would kill to get it on with a hungry young entreprenuer.

I have never 'dated' a woman who has approached me. Why? Because there isn't a challenge, these types are generally the clingy, possessive 'i need a man' types from my experience. They are looking for wishy washy guys who don't have the cohones to become masters of their domain. I have little to no use for these women, beyond the free sex, I'm sure you would come to the same conclusion.

You seem very content to limit yourself to the stock of woman who make it convenient for you. And then whine about it. Becoming more and more stable as you age has nothing to do with becoming content. Hunger and passion drive our lives, and is the lifeblood of our souls. Women are attracted to this. They do not want to equate the term 'stable' with 'boring'.

So in conclusion:

I think you should read some pook and try to fire up the torch inside of you to go out, try new things, new experiences, new woman (perhaps gauge them on a scale more intricate than 1-10 on looks) And enjoy meeting them, failing with them, loving them, and living your life a little fuller than you did the day before.

This is what I'm doing, and since you "more MAN than me on your worst day" it would probably help you out. You seem like your in a rut. Become a man of action to get out of it....

Goodluck

p.s. "Spank Nuggs" ????? Well, I guess your still working on your creativity.

And for the record, YES, you do walk for "punanny" as you call it while I run. Thats why I'm ahead of you....When you're 50 and worn all the skin off of your right palm, you realize how far being a WISEASS got you....

 

[DoubleA]

Right

It's got me far enought to know that REAL LADY KILLERS don't need to point out the fact that how much of a DON they are. YEah...I admit that after I made the post this morning I realize how ridiculous it was. I don't regret meeting the women I meet because deep down I'm a humble person. Regardless of who they are. But I have a problem with cats who think they see the error in someone's technique or a stumbling block they take the time to respond in an arrogant way that makes them feel so much better because if WE KNEW THEM personally outside of this forum they're just little fish in a big pond occupied by bigger fish. The last time I checked not every Don/player/ jigga/ or whatever on this planet post on this site. Ok let's finish it. DANK...after reading the post and seeing I guess the assistance you were trying to provide. You did make sense. But let me tell you again. I wished I lived near 1/2 the clowns on this site who claim their game is SOOOOOOOOOO Tight. I really do. Cause I believe most are all talk, with nothing to show for it. Is it me or has this site gone from something informative too being a place of fabricated BRAVADO. Thank you all for responding and providing somekind of perspective.


"A man's got to know his limitations" - Dirty Harry

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Re: Right

Originally posted by Rollo

Rollo, where in the DC Metro area do you live?

 

[Big Pappy]

I think that the real pearls of wisdom are in the DJ bible. Unfortunately, there are some cases where the instances are "specific" in nature and we present our case study and hope we get some good perspective from those who are wiser than we are.
If you were to look at me, you'd see a big guy with a smile for the ladies. You wouldn't understand why young hotties are throwing themselves at me on rare occasions. Not even sure I do. All I can say is this weekend has really shown me that absence does make the heart grow fonder. Show them a good time, pull back, and wait for them to find you. If they had any interest level, they will. Some will even apologize when the did nothing wrong, wondering why your hobbies got so demanding all of a sudden.

Like any free advice, you take it with a grain of salt. I'm a slow moving DJ, I don't rush in 3 seconds - that seems desperate to me.
I only number close after I have had some really fun conversation with a girl. I don't date that much, because most of the ladies I'm into will come see me at the Pub when I work and buy their own booze. I can hook up with them later if I choose.
No sense me spending my cash when I don't have to.

It's all about social proof. Until I got lucky with a friend who turned into a friend with benefits, I got no action -- at all. Once the lady bartender saw me laying the mack down on the hotties booty, the whole bar knew about it within the week. The women started looking at me as more than just a big guy with a smile.

It can happen for you, too. Read what Pook has to say. If you strive to improve yourself, what have you lost? Nothing. What will you gain? The whole world and each woman in it.

Good luck

 

[DankNuggs]

Rollo- The way I think about it, every post filled with boastful comments is coming from a chump who feels the need to fill their void of an ego through an internet forum....Its really pathetic.

Like everything else in life, its not difficult to spot the fakers.

Its sophmoric to feel like you know anyones situation who posts here. All you can give is your own interpretation of their situation.

When I felt in a huge rut, to quote Tupac "everywhere I go, I see the same hoes..."

Just changed my venues, got some new hobbies and tried to switch it up...It works...

 

[DoubleA]

CBear...

I live in the Washington D.C. Area....Alexandria, Va too be exact.

 

[DoubleA]

Nuggs..

I never said I DID KNOW..but it did sound as if you have all the answers the after hearing you spit about how much of a p*&^y I am. Look, I come to this site not to flame cats but read on how guys here have taken the necessary steps to make changes in their lives for the better. I think it's great personally. I control my own environment. I even read today the post about fat chicks wanting a male model...it helped put things in perspective. My advice to you is too realize that you are still a small fish in a big pond swimming with bigger fish. Ya game is only as good as you. My mistake was letting your comments get under my skin. You may live in Cali where the girls come correct because they feel as if they're in competition with each other. I am told cats who head out to Cali live it up because the game runs smoother. In DC, every woman regardless of age feels that they personally have the Golden Coochie. It's just different so they feel they can command alot. Only DC Metro cats can feel me or even comprehend. It's just the game.

Dank, that garbage you talk only carries so much weight with me. I realize that now. Even if I met you I would tell you because the advice I asked for was from cats my age who, like you're just doing now, slept with bangin girls and whatnot. You're not the first to feel invincible ...I'm just realizing that it's not going to last forever because things change. And I will accept it and adapt to it. After this post, I realize now what I have to do. I just needed to clear my head. Nuff Said.

 

[Doppel]

You are just making excuses for yourself if you mention Washington DC as a handicap. Girls here are far more open than Chicago or New York. Also, white girls are open to guys of any race for the most part unlike many ladies in the cities I mentioned above. Go live somewhere else for a while instead of just dreaming and you will see that you are pretty damn priviliged to live in a great city like DC with the large numbers of young professionals/students/great nightlife that we have here.