why can't i just fook! ( crazy vent rant)

[Packers2010]

ok. so today is my birthday, it was an ok day. i went out to lunch read the paper and got a new shirt witch is ok.

lately i have been hitting it up hard and I'm tired. very tired. so tired it's a Friday night on my birthday and I am staying home.

i went to sleep for a bit in the afternoon, i was so tired. ( hitting up the club too much) after i woke up i got really moody. i mean. REALLY moody. i was so horny i just wanted to ****, but because my game isn't at a level where i can just **** girls. ( i bet if i ever got to that stage i would blow it because i have so many issues.) i was testing one of my girls and i just flipped out.

i mentioned her on here before a few times. we haven't dont anything and i met her a few times. at the start of our texting it was very sexual and we sext. now she won't even do jack. so today i just lost it with her while being all dead and groggy. all she dose is text me random ****. she opened me the other day with " i hate red shoes" i hadn't spoken to her in a week or so.

of course me at the time texting everyone. ( i got a few number off pof and okc. ) i just texted her. i got into a fight with her because nothing was moving foreword. ( yes i have tired) so i just lost it. i don't need some girl to text me friend ****. I JUST WANT TO ****.

i don't know what happened as i was dazed. i'm looking back now and she said

" you intrigued me, i had fu with you, i dont want to **** you or anyone else for that matter"

i got off a bit more then she tells me

"I've held back with my texting because that would be cruel"

this isn't a thread about the girl, because I know she is lost. I want to know why I get but hurt of this shiot! why do i do stupid shoit like this! i texted all my other girls. one couldn't come out because she was house sitting. i asked to come over but got a no.

and one girl told me she was going on a date tonight. so it looks like i'll have to work faster with this one. this girl is the one that looks most promising.

i'm still such a needy little focker. i don't play the victim card any more because i feel like I'm not. i just feel like like ****. i just want to **** and bounce. i feel liek girls and playing all these games with there shiot tests and there " slut " card which they play at EVERY opportunity with me!

i'm so angry right now. maybe it's becuse i feel like i have to change my WHOLE personality just to get the girl. while they sit there and flake on me. ( the first person to tell me, it is what it is. i will cut your balls off. I shouldn't have to! though I am going to)

I just want to be normal instead of a fook up. every girl i know runs away from me because i do this. just ask my onetits girl who concerted me this week. we just ended up fighting. she siad something and i took offence to it. she pretty much siad i would fook any thing that walks ( not true) then once i told her to show me some respect. she went off and called me a pin ****. ( i was being a semi **** to her though, i was talking about the times she was slutty with me. haha. only cos i liked them.)

i'm ****ing sick of girls wanting to talk to me and not **** me! all they want me to do is sit there and give them validation all day! ( yes i do have friends who are girls. if i didn't do this stupid **** i would have AN ARMY of girls who are my friends) i wouldn't even need guy friends. i'd just be there " lets just be friends guy who is straight and not gay" come to think of it, if i was gay this wouldn't even be an issue.

I just want to be a normal kid. who dosen't have these issue. i have massive Anxiety when talking to girls. i can approach them. say hello then 3 mins in. that's it. boom i get the anxiety and it's game
over.

i made a thread about getting pills to help with this. everyone was against it. maybe i should just get some counselling or something. i guess I'm just so outcome dependant that it not that cool. i also don't believe in the process yet. or believe i can do it because i haven't seen results.

right this second, i feel needy. like i need to text that girl and tell her i'm sorry for going off at her. i did tell her i was in a bad mood and to forget about it before. this is what i have to deal with.

will some one please help me. i just want to be a normal guy. i feel like i won't be now.

 

[GotED?]

Question I have for you are:

1) how old are you (younger girls 25 or less are messed up anyways)

2) how do you dress yourself? Are you always looking laid back or dressed to intimidate? If you want women to look at you sexually, you sometimes have to dress for the role that fits the frame you want to express outwardly.

3) do you smile too much? Sometimes men who have a naturally 'nice' guy appearance and face, smile too much and it gives off a 'safe' feeling for women who treat you just like that - a safe friend. Stop smiling too much if you do, and be a bit of a threat to women around you if you have a naturally friendly looking face. Masculinity = threatening to open her legs wide open and getting her wet. Smiling face doesn't do it sometimes.

4) How strong is your eye contact and firmness of voice in conversations? Most of women's unconscious attraction to a man is through these non-verbal interactions. You hear a lot of women talk about a man they are wet for "I don't know... there's just something about him... can't figure it out...". That is because attraction is mostly unconscious, although initially women will judge you by appearance, they are attracted and hooked by more than just that.

5) Do you worry too much about rejection? Fook the outcome and put that in your mind, the rest comes easily, and away with anxiety.

Good luck.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[cordoncordon]

Before anything, can you post a pic or two of you so we can see what we are working with here?

 

[zinc4]

ok. so today is my birthday, it was an ok day. i went out to lunch read the paper and got a new shirt witch is ok.

lately i have been hitting it up hard and I'm tired. very tired. so tired it's a Friday night on my birthday and I am staying home.

i went to sleep for a bit in the afternoon, i was so tired. ( hitting up the club too much) after i woke up i got really moody. i mean. REALLY moody. i was so horny i just wanted to ****, but because my game isn't at a level where i can just **** girls. ( i bet if i ever got to that stage i would blow it because i have so many issues.) i was testing one of my girls and i just flipped out.

i mentioned her on here before a few times. we haven't dont anything and i met her a few times. at the start of our texting it was very sexual and we sext. now she won't even do jack. so today i just lost it with her while being all dead and groggy. all she dose is text me random ****. she opened me the other day with " i hate red shoes" i hadn't spoken to her in a week or so.

of course me at the time texting everyone. ( i got a few number off pof and okc. ) i just texted her. i got into a fight with her because nothing was moving foreword. ( yes i have tired) so i just lost it. i don't need some girl to text me friend ****. I JUST WANT TO ****.

i don't know what happened as i was dazed. i'm looking back now and she said

" you intrigued me, i had fu with you, i dont want to **** you or anyone else for that matter"

i got off a bit more then she tells me

"I've held back with my texting because that would be cruel"

this isn't a thread about the girl, because I know she is lost. I want to know why I get but hurt of this shiot! why do i do stupid shoit like this! i texted all my other girls. one couldn't come out because she was house sitting. i asked to come over but got a no.

and one girl told me she was going on a date tonight. so it looks like i'll have to work faster with this one. this girl is the one that looks most promising.

i'm still such a needy little focker. i don't play the victim card any more because i feel like I'm not. i just feel like like ****. i just want to **** and bounce. i feel liek girls and playing all these games with there shiot tests and there " slut " card which they play at EVERY opportunity with me!

i'm so angry right now. maybe it's becuse i feel like i have to change my WHOLE personality just to get the girl. while they sit there and flake on me. ( the first person to tell me, it is what it is. i will cut your balls off. I shouldn't have to! though I am going to)

I just want to be normal instead of a fook up. every girl i know runs away from me because i do this. just ask my onetits girl who concerted me this week. we just ended up fighting. she siad something and i took offence to it. she pretty much siad i would fook any thing that walks ( not true) then once i told her to show me some respect. she went off and called me a pin ****. ( i was being a semi **** to her though, i was talking about the times she was slutty with me. haha. only cos i liked them.)

i'm ****ing sick of girls wanting to talk to me and not **** me! all they want me to do is sit there and give them validation all day! ( yes i do have friends who are girls. if i didn't do this stupid **** i would have AN ARMY of girls who are my friends) i wouldn't even need guy friends. i'd just be there " lets just be friends guy who is straight and not gay" come to think of it, if i was gay this wouldn't even be an issue.

I just want to be a normal kid. who dosen't have these issue. i have massive Anxiety when talking to girls. i can approach them. say hello then 3 mins in. that's it. boom i get the anxiety and it's game
over.

i made a thread about getting pills to help with this. everyone was against it. maybe i should just get some counselling or something. i guess I'm just so outcome dependant that it not that cool. i also don't believe in the process yet. or believe i can do it because i haven't seen results.

right this second, i feel needy. like i need to text that girl and tell her i'm sorry for going off at her. i did tell her i was in a bad mood and to forget about it before. this is what i have to deal with.

will some one please help me. i just want to be a normal guy. i feel like i won't be now.

Trust me..stay away from the pills...those things will trap you in a h%ll of their own and getting off some of them can be borderline impossible...especially benzos...i was on Ativan, an anti anxiety or benzo to help me sleep and after only 2 months of daily dosage i became dependent on them and couldn't get off without withdrawals and my anxiety and sleep soon both became much worse requiring me to up the dosage to even feel normal each day...it took me 2 years of hell to get off them and my nervous system is still messed up from them! Stay away from them....trust me...girls will be the least of your problems.

 

[Packers2010]

1) how old are you (younger girls 25 or less are messed up anyways)

i am 23

2) how do you dress yourself? Are you always looking laid back or dressed to intimidate? If you want women to look at you sexually, you sometimes have to dress for the role that fits the frame you want to express outwardly.

that is true. though right now, i have balck skinny jeans on ( i got them for my birthday so comfy) and a pink with blue collar polo ( it sounds worse then it it is) i dress A LOT better then i did like 2 years ago. i was THE WORST! now i try and look " normal" or "Plain" i guess

3) do you smile too much? Sometimes men who have a naturally 'nice' guy appearance and face, smile too much and it gives off a 'safe' feeling for women who treat you just like that - a safe friend. Stop smiling too much if you do, and be a bit of a threat to women around you if you have a naturally friendly looking face. Masculinity = threatening to open her legs wide open and getting her wet. Smiling face doesn't do it sometimes.

hmm.. I'm not sure. I don't think i smile at all. maybe i do it when i am so nervous. so it turns out to be a lot.

4) How strong is your eye contact and firmness of voice in conversations? Most of women's unconscious attraction to a man is through these non-verbal interactions. You hear a lot of women talk about a man they are wet for "I don't know... there's just something about him... can't figure it out...". That is because attraction is mostly unconscious, although initially women will judge you by appearance, they are attracted and hooked by more than just that.

i have to admit i am having trouble with this. at the moment, my goal is to " get the hole idea of opening down, first" though I think that's the wrong way of going about it. most of my sets last an average of 3 mins then they fizzle out. my wing the other day told me that i don't show my intent when talking to girls, IE: saying " your cute" so i'm still on the friend to friend frame not man to women.

5) Do you worry too much about rejection? Fook the outcome and put that in your mind, the rest comes easily, and away with anxiety.

I've been rejected before so it's ok... i guess i feel like I'm not " allowed " to do this. like I'm not " good enough" or " cool enough" to be going up to girls and talking to them. i feel it all the time.

i can open the set and feel fine then move to the topic of what she is drinking and then boom it just hits me and i eject from the set even if i just need to keep going a bit and it would hook.


i remember last time i was truly in state. it's funny, it was the first time in ages i had got a make out in the club ( i start hitting up wings and going out regally) it felt like a person in me told my brain to do something and he allowed me to do it. but when i'm out of state I just can't do it. it's like my brain says no.

I don't know.. the past 2 weeks i have been hitting it up hard and have become so tired. my only successes have come from online game, i got 3 numbers. which all of them texted back. though i think i will only get one date. due to the other 2 living for far from me. i texed the one who lives close to me on Friday to ask what she was doing. she told me she was going on a date. so i will have to work fast with her if i want anything... though i think i will just Chode out ( get so nervous that nothing happens) and go home. depends what her personality is like too.

i have also lowered my success criteria too. if i get less blow outs then fizzled out sets ( finding it hard to hook atm) then it's a good night. i have been getting them a lot lately witch is good, though, i approach most girls at the bar in the club. so they just be polite to me and get there drink then bounce.

i think I'm not showing enough intent. i don't get up into the girls face enough ( get close to her when speaking) and just general kino. i guess i have been working on the courage to go up an approach.7

maybe i'm just scared of doing it because I've never done it before.

 

[Packers2010]

Before anything, can you post a pic or two of you so we can see what we are working with here?

i can, but i don't see the point. look shouldn't matter?

 

[NeedToImprove]

i can, but i don't see the point. look shouldn't matter?

yet they do. i know that, you know that. everyone who tells it doesnt is lying.

 

[Packers2010]

yet they do. i know that, you know that. everyone who tells it doesnt is lying.

perv.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-d-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/309834_517253231647966_1576006737_n.jpg

i took this pic today

 

[YAboi]

use ur friends for social proof

 

[YAboi]

u have wat it takes. gotta relax

 

[cordoncordon]

i can, but i don't see the point. look shouldn't matter?

Oh but they do my friend, they do.

So when you go to hit on a girl, it doesn't matter what she looks like? As long as she is good on the inside?

Looks are 99% of what first attracts you to a person, and probably 60-75% of what keeps you with a person.

Don't let any of the PUA's or guys trying to sell you a "how to pick up girls" dvd tell you otherwise.

And please, for the love of all that is manly, never ever wear black skinny jeans with a pink polo again. I think I remember now that I think of it what you look like when you posted a pic in a prior thread. That would NOT be a good look for you.

In edit: just saw your pic. Yeah that is what I remember, though it does look like you have lost some weight, so good for you. You should go with the more hipster style, that would fit you much better than black skinny jeans with a pink polo.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Date more Chinese girls

 

[AlphaGhost]

You need to relax, you seems to put ***** to high on a pedastol
Do you do anything that doesn't involve chasing ass?

I have faith, once you start to focus on bettering yourself all the birds will come in. no homo, although the pic is dark, your not ugly and that enough to get a girl nowadays lol. Just dont over obssese over anyone, walk like you **** is 15 inches long and your life will do a 180

chucch

 

[Mr. Bond]

Your problem is a lack of self esteem and confidence. You don't truly feel like you deserve these women. No matter what you say, your body language and tonality will reveal what's going on in your mind. Communication is less than 10 percent verbal.

Forget about your looks. As long as you're well groomed and dress well, they don't matter. They might in online dating, but in the real world they don't matter.

Continue practicing with women, but stop running yourself into the same brick wall over and over. Try some different approaches just for the hell of it. Meet women in different places. They're everywhere.

Most importantly for you - improve yourself. You need to realize that your problems lie within your mind. Time to tackle them. This was my biggest problem - and has been the key to my success with women (and even better, the rest of my life).

Here's a thread I made of inner game material. Take a look at it. I will be updating it in the coming weeks as I finish with the current material I'm working on.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=201160

 

[YAboi]

shave ur beard dude majority of girls dont like beards

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Shave your beard.

Get a tighter haircut.

Lose the Herbly collared shirts.

Get in the gym and at least get your upper body more cut and lose the chunkiness.

Once that's done, where tighter fitting shirts. Sometimes plain t-shirts look great if you are fit (I prefer grey and black plain t-shirts).

Save your sneakers for the gym. Get some nice dress shoes. I found an excellent pair at a Goodwill for $5

Hit up the vintage clothes stores and you can find some really unique jackets and shirts.

The style of glasses you have are not helping you either. They almost scream, "lousy lay, IT specialist". Get contacts if you can, but if not, get better frames.

Work on body language, posture. Read up on that stuff if you have too.

All of this won't get you laid, but it will vastly improve the first, second, and even third impressions women get of you. They notice this siht.

I've done all of the above, and new women now openly comment on how much they like how I put myself together. I've gotten attention from several new women in the last 3 years that I might not have before, or at least it would not have been sexual attention.

My friends have noticed too, but do not give me much crap about it. Still, I have improved my body and looks over the last several years and it helps greatly. You have to be persistent, though.

Good luck!

 

[Packers2010]

use ur friends for social proof

if i had a decent list of friends. i would. i have like one friend i ca depend on. that's it.

 

[Packers2010]

Oh but they do my friend, they do.

So when you go to hit on a girl, it doesn't matter what she looks like? As long as she is good on the inside?

Looks are 99% of what first attracts you to a person, and probably 60-75% of what keeps you with a person.

Don't let any of the PUA's or guys trying to sell you a "how to pick up girls" dvd tell you otherwise.

And please, for the love of all that is manly, never ever wear black skinny jeans with a pink polo again. I think I remember now that I think of it what you look like when you posted a pic in a prior thread. That would NOT be a good look for you.

In edit: just saw your pic. Yeah that is what I remember, though it does look like you have lost some weight, so good for you. You should go with the more hipster style, that would fit you much better than black skinny jeans with a pink polo.

it wasn't pink it was purple. i guess it clashes with the jeans though I just got some nice blue ones too now so it will look better then them

what's more hipster then wearing skinny jeans anyway.

i thought hipster was just a joke, what do you mean by that as in to " dress more hipster" i always hipster was a fad.

 

[Packers2010]

You need to relax, you seems to put ***** to high on a pedastol
Do you do anything that doesn't involve chasing ass?

I have faith, once you start to focus on bettering yourself all the birds will come in. no homo, although the pic is dark, your not ugly and that enough to get a girl nowadays lol. Just dont over obssese over anyone, walk like you **** is 15 inches long and your life will do a 180

chucch

I have LOTS to focus on. though school doesn't start till feb 6. i just get in these moods sometimes. this was a bad one. i live in such a toxic environment right now that it's hard to stay positive all the time. though i am positive like 95% of the time. so

 

[Packers2010]

Shave your beard.

Get a tighter haircut.

Lose the Herbly collared shirts.

Get in the gym and at least get your upper body more cut and lose the chunkiness.

Once that's done, where tighter fitting shirts. Sometimes plain t-shirts look great if you are fit (I prefer grey and black plain t-shirts).

Save your sneakers for the gym. Get some nice dress shoes. I found an excellent pair at a Goodwill for $5

Hit up the vintage clothes stores and you can find some really unique jackets and shirts.

The style of glasses you have are not helping you either. They almost scream, "lousy lay, IT specialist". Get contacts if you can, but if not, get better frames.

Work on body language, posture. Read up on that stuff if you have too.

All of this won't get you laid, but it will vastly improve the first, second, and even third impressions women get of you. They notice this siht.

I've done all of the above, and new women now openly comment on how much they like how I put myself together. I've gotten attention from several new women in the last 3 years that I might not have before, or at least it would not have been sexual attention.

My friends have noticed too, but do not give me much crap about it. Still, I have improved my body and looks over the last several years and it helps greatly. You have to be persistent, though.

Good luck!

how do i get a tighter haircut? it's cut short and looks good.
i have been thinking about changing my frames. though i get compliments on these frames. so. i need to fina a pair that screams " i'm in finance don't fook with me" hahah.

i do have plain shirts. though i don't " fill them out like a body builder" what's wrong with plain polos? good for going into clubs with.

@ everyone who said i should shave my beard. i look like A KID if i do.