Why Can't i get girls anymore?

[yungahdubz]

K, heres the deal.

I'm average looking, although i do have a pretty massive schnoz , i'm not too hung up on my looks though.

If you met me in real life, i could quite possible be one of the funniest people you ever meet. I find it really easy to make people laugh, although i sometimes find it hard to convey that when i first meet someone.

I wouldn't call myself popular, although i do have a fair amount of popular friends.

I don't really use 'techniques'. I'd say i'm pretty ****y and funny, and will whip out some push/pull if needs be, but i don't think of these as techniques anymore bacuase it comes naturally to me, I hardly ever do this stuff consciously . I also kino people quite a lot, although maybe not as much as i should when i first meet them.

I have an alright social life, although i could spend more time out.

Now ... why aren't i getting girls?!

If i'm honest, i've never approached a girl for the sake of approaching and getting to know the lass, ive only approached if i've needed something from her, e.g. the time. If i was a girl, and a random geezer approached me for a good ol' chinwag, i'd be a bit freaked out. I've never approached a girl at a party either though, but thats a different situation to the street. I reckon its because i'm nervous, and don't wanna look like a fool in front of my mates. I spose i care what people think too much.

My mate who is 6"3, great body, and very good looking gets girls left right and center. I've read about the place that looks don't matter, but i only believe that to a certain degree when it comes to high school. I reckon thats why i don't approach, the two of us compete over loads of stuff , and he always comes out on top when it comes to girls due to his obvious advantage, so i refrain from approaching so as not to like a ****. At a party yday he got with 2 girls and fingered one! I feel like the equivalent of that sexy girls fat/ugly best friend, but with a willy.

What do you guys think i should do to improve, before my balls explode.

 

[yungahdubz]

I just read through the thread and i came off as though all im after is a bit of fanny, which is true to a certain degree xD.

But seriously, that's not all i want.

I've sorted out other aspects of my life.

I've gone from being that guy who could have been great when i was older, to actually being great. I'm predicted A's in my subjects, which I'd have had no chance of gettin working the way i was a year or two ago, but now an A is the least i'm hoping for.

I don't sit at home all day, that was something i did a few years back but i've managed to improve my social life vastly, although it's not where i want it to be yet.

I work out 3x a week, have stylish clothes, and may just have the best hair you've ever laid your lookers on.

I'm far from well off, and find it hard to come by money which is a big factor as to why i don't go out as much as i'd like. Although i haven't yet got a job, i've spent hours looking and being interviewed for one, so it's not that i'm not trying.

So i'm not some lardass who just reads theory at home all day whilst my grades decrease, social skills deteriorate and friends fade away.

I genuinely want my life to change for the better .

 

[More Cowbell Please]

You must be persistent if you want anything in life. Even if you have less talent than the next guy, you can always out work him. 9 out of 10 times it's the guy who stays motivated and persistent who gets what he wants in life. That goes for anything. Reach for the f*cking sky and don't ever give up no matter what. Believe that you can do it if you only try harder and don't ever get down. Keep in a positive state of mind and don't give a f*ck what other people think. And of course, keep your mind sharp by constantly engaging it and challenging yourself every day. And one more thing. Drugs and alcohol kill your game. Stay one step ahead of the crowd and steer clear of those two game killers. Some people would disagree with me, but they are just depending on a chemical that will not help them instead of their natural abilities.

 

[More Cowbell Please]

I work out 3x a week, have stylish clothes, and may just have the best hair you've ever laid your lookers on.

I can tell you have two qualities in particular: confidence and motivation. Two very important things to have in life at any level in any situation.

 

[SinJester]

How much are you TRYING to get girls? Unless you are very gifted they don't just fall into your lap. I bet you mate doesn't sit at home all day and have girls come to him all the time.

 

[yungahdubz]

How much are you TRYING to get girls? Unless you are very gifted they don't just fall into your lap. I bet you mate doesn't sit at home all day and have girls come to him all the time.

That's the thing, i don't know what to do. I'm in the friends zone with most girls at my school because the sexy ones, i've never had the bottle to go upto in my earlier school years, and just sort of became friends when i was forced sit by them and stuff. And the girls who i want to get with now wern't sexy a few years back, but now they have started doing their make up, hair its completely changed the way they looked, its quite amazing really, but i've known them for years now and have become good friends.

Nowadays if i'm forced to interact with a girl, e.g. seating plan or working in a group with them then i make a good impression which usually leads to initial attraction, but it soon fades away.

I do flirt/tease girls in school but it doesn't really lead to anything.

So the only way to meet girls is by parties, where i'm too ***** to approach a girl, because i don't wanna look like a fool, it's a vicious circle i've gotten myself into really :kick:

 

[The Grey Fox]

Hey man, first of all I'm 16 and in the UK too, infact I can really relate to you, because out in the 'field' so to speak I am a funny guy, and pretty good looking although not spectacular.

To touch on your point about being able to flirt but it not leading to anything, I had this problem for ages. What it all boils down to is pretty simple:

In order for it to lead to something, you've got to lead it to something

I don't know how much of the community you have been exposed to or what kind of 'game' interests you but one fairly general process most systems agree on is -

1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Seduction

First off you need to be able to approach girls. I suggest getting a mate if you can who is also interested in bettering themselves and doing at least the first few weeks of the bootcamp with them, but only if the person can be trusted.

Before I had the realization I mentioned earlier, I would struggle to get past attraction. There is one girl (whom I really fell for) who I shared an obvious attraction with for months, but because I didn't know how to take it to the next stage she ended up getting with some other guy (uglier,less interesting and lower social value than me) and I'm not going to lie I was absolutely crushed at the time.

Eventually I learnt to get to the comfort stage, me and the above mentioned girl are great friends now but nothing more, she actually lost her virginity to that guy who 'stole' her from me as well.

Anyway to give you some solid advice here, you know she's attracted when the girl basically comes walking over to you all the time (opens you if you will) and you guys flirt consistently, or when you walk away from her or briefly ignore her and she gets annoyed about it and comes to get you etc etc.

From here you try to find or build at least 3 commonalities with the girl, also it's great to have some sort of in-joke between just the two of you to really bolster the personal connection, you can still be flirty with her but now you should be concentrating more on being comfortable with each other.

I'm still trying to get a grip of seduction and escalation better because I still have trouble moving towards a relationship or sexual encounter. I find I have good connections with a few girls right now and can sense the tension but can not take it to the next level.

when I do sort this out I should successfully have the process of going from meeting a girl to getting serious with her handled and when i do I hope I can give more advice.

Overall form the sounds of it, you seem like a great guy who has all the foundation there, you just need to bolster your 'game'.

I hope I don't come off to much like the 'lardass' you mention with this but I like to break stuff down and in the past few months I have been more involved in PUA stuff than don juan but I too strive for a better life in general.

I don't go to a gym but I go running twice a week and do my dumbbells and presses every night. I get along well with everyone who isn't simply a horrible, aggressive person (like a surprising amount of people are, our age in the UK(chavs)).

I Have a good group of friends, go out every weekend. I still need to improve in this area though to get to your level by the sounds of it and I should start with getting a hobby and a job to get some £££. From there I can sort out my wardrobe better. Thanks ... TGF

 

[yungahdubz]

I hope I don't come off to much like the 'lardass' you mention with this but I like to break stuff down and in the past few months I have been more involved in PUA stuff than don juan but I too strive for a better life in general.

I don't go to a gym but I go running twice a week and do my dumbbells and presses every night. I get along well with everyone who isn't simply a horrible, aggressive person (like a surprising amount of people are, our age in the UK(chavs)).

I Have a good group of friends, go out every weekend. I still need to improve in this area though to get to your level by the sounds of it and I should start with getting a hobby and a job to get some £££. From there I can sort out my wardrobe better. Thanks ... TGF

Fair do's if you wanna break stuff down, I analyze stuff all the time when it comes to lifting. What i meant by i was just reading loads of material but then just staying in most of them time.

If you want to get into lifting then i suggest lookin at the H+F section (and not doing presses every night, muscle imbalances and over training!) or give me a PM.

I tend to get on well with most people too, even the odd chav as well

Cheers.

 

[yungahdubz]

Cheers for ur reply More Cowbell Please ^^