Why can't I decide?

[SayWhat]

Most of my threads have become about my emotional state, this is one more.

I have to decide to move for my work or another location which I can commute to every day. The moving is not that far and on my days off I would come back home.

I still live at home with my mom at the age of 27. On one hand it's time to take a next step in my life, on the other I find it hard to leave my mom. I'll be the last sibling to leave home and thoughts like, what if she falls of the stairs in the morning, no one will be there. Will she know I love her although I'm a very introverted guy and show my love through small indirect things (I never say it, besides once last year).

The move will only be for a couple of years, after that I'll move back closer in the same village. It's hard as her mother suffered from dementia and although she's not that age yet, I want to enjoy as many moments as I can.

Some other things that is going on with me. I love my family, but I can't go all day with them as I barely say anything and it takes so much energy from me. I know that if I would be a 'normal' extroverted guy I wouldn't mind such events. I think I feel ashamed for them for who I am as they probably all want me to be more talkative and join them more.

Honestly I have days I just burst in tears for who I am, this is not how my dad wanted me to be, his is not who I want to be. I tried and read so much, but I feel it only gets worse. I even tried a psychologist, but nothing.

 

[Dingo]

Saywhat...

Alpha or Beta... Introvert or extrovert has nothing to do with loving your mom. That is admirable and she is lucky to have you.

Now you leaving is a good thing... Even if she seems sad I bet you your mom deep inside will be happy and even a bit proud. You're not going to be far. Come visit on weekends. Get her a cell phone and make sure she will always carry in case of emergencies.

No question you need to work on yourself..... We all do.... Read up on catastophizing..... it will help. http://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-catastrophizing/

Good luck....

 

[LiveFreeX]

I still live at home with my mom at the age of 27. On one hand it's time to take a next step in my life, on the other I find it hard to leave my mom.

Meh, stick around with your folks and stack your bank account. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living at home, especially on the weekends.

Are you a man or a woman?

 

[SayWhat]

Meh, stick around with your folks and stack your bank account. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living at home, especially on the weekends.

Are you a man or a woman?

I definitely want to stack my bank account, I know what I want in life and I want it as soon as possible, to achieve this I need a decent amount of cash. But I feel this change would be a possibility to change myself as well. We'll see, the decision is now in the hands of the company.

I'm a man.

 

[SayWhat]

Can I get some more opinions?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Didn't read your description just the title.


It's because you're indecisive.

 

[SayWhat]

Didn't read your description just the title.


It's because you're indecisive.

I am indeed because each option has equal advantages and disadvantages. I want to stay at home because of my mom is a very huge factor though.

 

[Arcturus]

Stay home. Save up money. All the women in the world won't mean a thing once your parents grow old and eventually pass away one day.

 

[Julian]

I just recently moved back home after living away for the last 6 years. I say follow your heart bro. Stay home an stack money, then buy some land. build your home there and find yourself a good woman and knock out a few kids and live a simple happy life there together and move your mom there too

What do you mean by "this isnt how your dad wanted you to be?" Is he not around? RIP if he has passed. Sorry for that. Dont blame yourself for your short comings, just work on getting better and improving everyday