Why are women so unforgiving when it comes to male baldness?

[bcollarmechanic]

im curious, when did you start to notice youre hair thinning, im guessing early 20s?

reason i ask is because in the 29-30 pics it looks like your hair line is pretty high up, girls in general dont like that because it shows more balding than shaving your head

basically shaving your head can be an option not a necessity and a girl wouldnt know which one it is, but trying to hang on to what hair you have left basically advertises youre going bald

nonetheless its all in your confidence, your confidence shot down when you started shaving your head, go to the gym thatll help you regain some confidence

 

[bcollarmechanic]

Its one of those instant nexts for some women, like height. Was texting a hottie off Tinder and she says "you have an amazing body, how tall are you?" I told her, then not a word from her afterward haha

happens to me all the time im pretty short and a lot of girls dont give me the time of day because of it

 

[rum]

But heaven forbid we say 1 thing about them looking a little chunky. Yet all of us need to look like Brad Pitt circa 1994

nowadays however you can do something about baldness. As soon as you see it creeping in...proopecia, rogain. Or of you have the $ go get the surgery. Not the cheapo plugs but plop down the $15,000 that hollywood stars get. The surgery that doesn't leave that landing strip scar

 

[zekko]

Its one of those instant nexts for some women, like height.

The OP definitely looked better in the earlier pictures with hair, I think. Like you say, certain things affect a woman's first impression of you. However, these initial impressions can be changed. I think that "A girl knows within five seconds if she is going to fvck you" business is largely bvll****. I'm sure we all know stories where a girl did not like a guy at first but then they ended up together.

I'm not the best looking guy on the planet either. I mean I'm not ugly, but I find I'm not handsome enough for my looks alone to attract. So usually girls will have to get to know me before they get attracted to me.

I know a bald guy, and he has one of the prettiest wives of any guy I know. He's not rich or anything either. Ultimately, women go for you because of who you are, not for how you look.

 

[rum]

Its one of those instant nexts for some women, like height. Was texting a hottie off Tinder and she says "you have an amazing body, how tall are you?" I told her, then not a word from her afterward haha

The worst thing about it is most cvnts won't even accept guys that are even average height. No it's got to be 6'0 and above (I've even seen 6'2 and above on dating sites)

It's not enough to be taller than her when she's not wearing shoes, but you'd better not be eye level when I'm in 4 inch heels. No troll, you'd better be way taller than me because I want to feel small and girly. Oh and if you say I've put on a few pounds I'll be on the arm of that $175,000 a year tax attorney so fast it'll make your $125,000 a year broke-ass head spin

 

[The Duke]

Dear Baldy-

I'm in the same boat as you, similar looks and shave my head. I've noticed 3 categories out there. 1. Women that will never date a guy who is bald and shaves his head. 2. Women that never considered it but got to know you and all of the sudden find it attractive. 3. Women that think bald guys are hot.

I've always brought plenty of other things to the table and it just isn't a problem. Been with plenty of girls that make the whole room notice.

I'd definitely say your look is not the problem. I'd look in other areas(social skills, confidence, how you make people feel, body language, etc)

 

[Heisenberg]

I hope OP is paying attention to all these responses like Espi's.

I'll add another anecdote. About 3-4 years ago I was dating a hot, smart, successful girl. My hair was starting to thin and because I had confidence issues (which, sidebar, is ultimately what ended that relationship) I would often bring it up. I'd point out my receding hairline and talk about my future as a bald man. This would prove silly as I have not lost any more hair since (maybe genetics, maybe some of the hair products I use, or maybe it's still coming).

ANYWAY, this girl thought me fretting about losing my hair to be ridiculous. One time she came home from a night out with the girls and told me how, at one point, the conversation turned to bald men. She said every single girl there agreed it was a non-issue, and many of them actually found bald men attractive.

 

[jurry]

I think superficial/physical shortcomings such as baldness or height or whatever the case may be are an excellent chance to prove your confidence and "status" to women. Theres a good RSD video about acting like the fat bald CEO. Ultimately women arent going to care that much about the physical, they are going to care about how you carry yourself and how soaked their panties get in response to that.

"That guy is short and bald and he talks to ME like THAT?? How can he do that? Whats going on with him?! I need to find out why he is so confident."

 

[rum]

I think it's a very small minority of women who find bald men sexy. Probably less than 10% of females

Proof is in the pudding. How many hot women are with guys who have hairlines like Costanza and Patrick Stewart?

Only if those men are ridiculously loaded. And even then the women have somebody with Johnny Depp hair on the side.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I think it's a very small minority of women who find bald men sexy. Probably less than 10% of females

Proof is in the pudding. How many hot women are with guys who have hairlines like Costanza and Patrick Stewart?

Only if those men are ridiculously loaded. And even then the women have somebody with Johnny Depp hair on the side.

Too bad PUAhate isn't still around. You'd fit in perfectly over there.

 

[Mike32ct]

I think superficial/physical shortcomings such as baldness or height or whatever the case may be are an excellent chance to prove your confidence and "status" to women. Theres a good RSD video about acting like the fat bald CEO. Ultimately women arent going to care that much about the physical, they are going to care about how you carry yourself and how soaked their panties get in response to that.

"That guy is short and bald and he talks to ME like THAT?? How can he do that? Whats going on with him?! I need to find out why he is so confident."

What happens when she finds out you're not a CEO?

I'm not trying to be critical. Just an honest question.

 

[JoshSway]

I'm 32. Been balding since 21.. finally bit the bullet and shaved my head. I would say that I have noticed some negative effects but not nearly as much as I expected. It definitely has hurt me with younger women (early-mid 20s) but I think it has actually helped me with women in the 35yr range. Net net I would say it is a negative versus when I had hair but not that big a negative.

 

[JoshSway]

I think it's a very small minority of women who find bald men sexy. Probably less than 10% of females

Proof is in the pudding. How many hot women are with guys who have hairlines like Costanza and Patrick Stewart?

Only if those men are ridiculously loaded. And even then the women have somebody with Johnny Depp hair on the side.

Unlikely true, the percentage who don't care is quite high. I went through hundreds of profiles on match.com while researching my online dating e-book and over 80% of women put 'no preference' for hair, and even of those who specifically desired a guy with a certain hair color, 25% explicitly included bald. And even some who don't include it in preference don't care. I know because I just went out with one the other day and closed and she had a preference for guys taller than me and guys with hair.

 

[jurry]

What happens when she finds out you're not a CEO?

I'm not trying to be critical. Just an honest question.

Well the idea is that you are a CEO in attitude, you dont actually need to be one.. The confidence is whats important. She will be attracted to that and want more, not necessarily because you have power or money. You can be confident even if you're a bum, and show her that you know how to live life and enjoy it, and that she will be lucky to spend some time with you. Think Leo in titanic type of thing.

 

[zekko]

"That guy is short and bald and he talks to ME like THAT?? How can he do that? Whats going on with him?! I need to find out why he is so confident."

Why IS he so confident?

I guess from your answer to Mike32ct above, it's just because he decides to be. That was one of the things I picked up from this forum early on that I found helpful: The idea that confidence was a choice. It's kind of like positive thinking.

That said, I think at some point you have to actually have something to bring to the table.

 

[jurry]

That said, I think at some point you have to actually have something to bring to the table.

Right, im not saying fake it til you make it, the confidence should be genuine. We should all be confident, why wouldnt we be? We see a sexy girl and suddenly its all over and shes too good for us.. Because she is genetically lucky? No, she is just one more girl in a sea of millions, what makes HER worth YOUR time??

We are all equal, different but equal. Confidence should not be an issue, just do you and if she isnt into it, cool on to the next.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Well the idea is that you are a CEO in attitude, you dont actually need to be one.. The confidence is whats important. She will be attracted to that and want more, not necessarily because you have power or money. You can be confident even if you're a bum, and show her that you know how to live life and enjoy it, and that she will be lucky to spend some time with you. Think Leo in titanic type of thing.

Exactly. Same premise as neg. WHY is that guy not kissing my a$$ like all of these other guys are. There must be something special about him.

 

[foreverAFC]

the thing about being bald is that its a masculine look overall, so there will always be a share of women who find it attractive. again, this is why getting in shape is important too, you increase that masculine look. you want to look masculine, but if you are bald and dont hit the gym then you will look more like someone who is suffering from an illness.

 

[zekko]

We are all equal, different but equal. Confidence should not be an issue, just do you and if she isnt into it, cool on to the next.

I don't really believe that we're all equal. We all have different sexual market values.

As an example, guys here seem to like to look down on other men and laugh at their attempts to game "ha, ha, he's just a beta orbiter, he's no threat to me". In one way that's naive, but in other ways there's some truth that some guys are more desireable than others (just as an HB7 will be more desireable than an HB3).

I do agree with your second statement, however. Take your shot, you might make a good fit. If not, try the next one.

 

[sambwoy]

You look fine. Who are these women saying you look horrible and other cruel things? I have trouble believing adult women would behave that way - especially when you're a normal looking dude. Maybe if they were in grade school.

There aren't many places in this culture where women get pulled aside for disrespectful and rude comments to guys' (or other gals) looks, regardless of age. I battled with this in my late teens and twenties, being in environments with real girls, and watching the TV and everyone seemed blind to it. It did no good for my psychology or self-esteem. Ever watch Sex & The City? I don't care what the media and society say, the genders aren't equal.