Has it occured to you that the brother you consider a loser is pulling better quality wins with women than you because he is more open minded and has a more positive vibe than you? Sometimes what we view as strength is actually a major weakness. If a “loser” is filling his cabinet with trophies then clearly he isnt a loser. Similarly if a self-certified “alpha winner” is pulling 5-6s at best, then he needs to check his definition of a “winner”.
I sense your brother is a happy-go-lucky guy whose positive attitude and embracing personality endears him to people from all walks of life. Your so-called ‘masculine non-conformism’ is clearly doing you no favours. It may be time to restrategise. Dont continue to use the wrong mathematical formula, hoping that it miraculously will produce a correct answer. 1+1 is always = 2.