Girls are NOT afraid to pick up guys, believe me. I don't pick up on women anymore because of it.
Yes, I am somewhat good-looking but it's really the attitude I project that gets me in their pants. I've had my occasional off-night/bad mood and gone home empty-handed plenty of times.
Here's the gist of what you need to do (clubs):
1. GO ALONE- Yes, this is a big, big step for some of you. The wing system does not allow any female comfortable room to approach. If you can work it out, go together but follow the same plan and maybe touch base every 1/2 hour or so. This also greatly increases the chances that what may not be working for you could be working for him in spades. Once someone has locked in on a few feel free to wing away.
2. POSTURE- "I f'ing own this place, welcome to my home". That's not to say that you actually spend so much time there that the bar/club owner has decided to cut you in on the profits, it's saying that you're as comfortable here as you are in your own living room. Nothing can shake you- head up, shoulders back and an easy, relaxed look on your face will speak volumes about you. You're not throwing off the desperation vibe, even though it may be eating at you inside.
3. EYE MOVEMENT- Again, this takes some practice.. your objective is not to get immediately pounced on at first glance. You want to survey the scene in small chunks and make direct eye contact with the girls you find attractive. Not a 'stalker' type of stare, but a concentrated 1-3 second glance. Usually this is done while your walking by each other, maybe it's while you're checking out the dance floor. The idea is to not look away like some scared rat, you have to register her face in your mind, turn your head and pretend like you forgot about her already. I typically imagine looking right through them most of the time.
Don't keep looking back either.. try to get the same visual repoire going with another woman nearby or simply go to another area.
STAGING- This is usually the hardest part. You have to do all of the above AND find a few places where you can hang out and rotate between. You don't want to be making eye contact and then hiding in the corner. It's imperative that you return to these areas (every so often) and maybe even repeat the eye contact cycle if you catch her looking again (this takes some practice with your periferals). This is because you want them to be able to find you. You've planted the seed however they are going to get derailed by every Tom, **** and Harry along the way if they have to search you out.
Kind of like fishing, you really just have to throw the bait out there and wait.
HER APPROACH- Smile, you just got singled out. She needs immediate reassurance that you're not an axe murderer, that you don't have some speech impediment or the like. Exchange names and go immediately to ****y/funny mode- remember, she's curious why you're here alone. Typical reasons~ Friends were supposed to meet me here, long week at work and just felt like getting out, thinking about having a company party and told some of the guys you'd check it out, etc. THE RESPONSE WILL ALWAYS BE: "Wow, I wish I was secure enough to go out alone".
So now she's met a nice looking, secure guy with none of the obvious flaws she's used to. She's put HERSELF out there and it matters whether you like her or not so she's going to do everything she can to sell herself to you (does this sound familiar to anyone?) and the only thing you can do from here on out is to F it up.
I hope that makes some sense.. I could probably go on for a few pages.
