why am I?

[sexy_kuta]

my last gf(my first) was an AW.. we lasted a month

i cut off all contact and everything.. deleted all her phone calls messages.. everything.

why am i

pissed off? still, like im soo mad for some reason and at the same time im upset but not deeply desspressed i can hold myself

but it has been a month already since we broke up

sometimes i feel fine.. then theres those days where i wake up and right away shes on my mind.. then it makes me sick deep inside.. .how could i let her do this to me.. before i met her.. i was the type that would say B*****es Aint ****.. i would be the type that would go and chase women and not give a dime about them

i treated her so good that she would always tell me slowly.. she doesnt want me to change.. i made her laugh soo much that i can remember the rhythm of her laughter than the sound of her voice...
how could i love a girl soo fast?

now i see myself in the mirror and i find out who i truly am.. im the type that would give a woman romanance...

i dont like chasing women,

how long will she mourn me?

why do i still have her on my mind?

what really pisses me off is that EVRry thing we did was fake.. the kisses.. the late night talks that lasted til 2 am..

the flirting.. the one on one talking when each other felt a lil down..

it was all fake to her...
to me it ment everything.. but now i see it in a different way and it pisses the hell off me... i am more pissed off about that then to find out she cheated on me...

last night i went to a social and i seen this girl.. who was lookin at me and making eye contact as i dance.. i was going to go talk to her but her dad was around...( in my culture.. its very hard to talk to a brown girl while her dad is around..) but one thing about this girl.. that she looked much like my ex.. the height.. looks.. everything..

WHY IS SHE STILL ON MY MIND?

please answer this


HOW LONG WILL SHE MOURN ME?

 

[spitkicker]

you're in the right place.

if you've only had one girlfriend in your life, then this feeling is normal.

You need to work at accepting yourself and strengthening all of your beliefs before you can connect with someone else again.

This is only 1 girl. there are many millions more..

Find other women, find hobbies, dedicate yourself to something else. Thoughts of her are only telling you that you don't have enough going on in your life right now.

 

[sexy_kuta]

i try my hardest to do other things..

i try to get out as much as i can
im always on the look out for women

like i used to listen to rap alot but when i met her

i was hooked up the slow songs like for an example slow wind by r kelly and "cant be without you" by marry J blige...

now everytime im listening to music and one of those songs come up.. i just change it without hesitation

everything around me reminds me of her..
i can hold myself.. im not going depressed or nothing its just.. it MAKES ME SICK to think about her... and if she calls and i dont pick up.. it bugs the hell out of me.. i would be wondering for days why did she call me and ****..

everytime she plays games it pisses the fuk out of me

i Learned alot from all of this..

i improved my game but some how i dont feel "stronger" like i look stronger. the way i act around women but i dont feel stronger cuz shes always on my mind

i try to keep myself busy.. i go to the gym work out and do other things and it helps but i cant contiue to do it just to get her off my mind.


how long does it last for an average person?

 

[spitkicker]

look man, everyone goes through this, no sweat. You aren't alone.

as for an average time, it depends on you. The more quality girls you pull into your life, the shorter it will last. Thats the truth. Until you start pulling other girls, you will be thinking about this one, thats how it works.

I laid a good amount of girls, but the last one, yeah, i still have some feelings for, whatever, it goes away with each new girl, and as you build inner strength.

YOU ARE TOO IMPORANT to be worrying about your past man. the present is a gift. If thinking about the past gets in the way of your present. STOP IT. its the same as worrying about the future, it doesnt help.

So when she creeps into you head, think to yourself "is thinking of her helping me right now? is it hurting? will these thoughts help me be happy right now?" the answer to all of these is NO.

and finally. never ever eveer ever ever never ever Regret your past. it happened. move on. you arn't your past. you are your now. and your future.

hope this helps

 

[sexy_kuta]

your right

i should be getting more women..

the more i pull the more she will go away

well thanks man for your input

i will consider it very well

 

[Turncoat]

I got your solution...

I'm a psych major, and there is a laughingly easy yet garanteed way to get rid of your feelings for her. It's called "Primal Therapy". This method is so fast she'll be outta your mind in a day.

This is what you do:

You know when a character from a movie gets pissed and starts beating **** up and feels better? That technique is quite effective. Get a boxing bag and beat the hell outta it all the while thinking about that girl. Let your anger, pain, heartache EVERYTHING out on the bag and scream when you hit it. This releases all the energy you have for her. Do it with full force, let yourself go, be an animal for 15 min. When you finish, reap the effects. You have essentially dissapated her from your mind using a primal projective therapy.

I would recommend the boxing bag over firearm-gunrange shooting or glass breaking. Whenever you feel feelings for her, take it out on the bag. Within a day, you'll see how much better you'll be feeling. I've done this countless times when i'm pissed, and the negative feelings fully vanish soon afterwards.

Hope i was of some help...

 

[sexy_kuta]

haha i love to fight

that wouldnt be hard to do at all

i might give it a try

 

[SeldomSeen]

Originally posted by sexy_kuta
my last gf(my first) was an AW.. we lasted a month

i cut off all contact and everything.. deleted all her phone calls messages.. everything.

why am i

pissed off? still, like im soo mad for some reason and at the same time im upset but not deeply desspressed i can hold myself

but it has been a month already since we broke up

sometimes i feel fine.. then theres those days where i wake up and right away shes on my mind.. then it makes me sick deep inside.. .how could i let her do this to me.. before i met her.. i was the type that would say B*****es Aint ****.. i would be the type that would go and chase women and not give a dime about them

i treated her so good that she would always tell me slowly.. she doesnt want me to change.. i made her laugh soo much that i can remember the rhythm of her laughter than the sound of her voice...
how could i love a girl soo fast?

now i see myself in the mirror and i find out who i truly am.. im the type that would give a woman romanance...

i dont like chasing women,

how long will she mourn me?

why do i still have her on my mind?

what really pisses me off is that EVRry thing we did was fake.. the kisses.. the late night talks that lasted til 2 am..

the flirting.. the one on one talking when each other felt a lil down..

it was all fake to her...
to me it ment everything.. but now i see it in a different way and it pisses the hell off me... i am more pissed off about that then to find out she cheated on me...

last night i went to a social and i seen this girl.. who was lookin at me and making eye contact as i dance.. i was going to go talk to her but her dad was around...( in my culture.. its very hard to talk to a brown girl while her dad is around..) but one thing about this girl.. that she looked much like my ex.. the height.. looks.. everything..

WHY IS SHE STILL ON MY MIND?

please answer this


HOW LONG WILL SHE MOURN ME?

she wont mourn you because you arent dead.
how was everything fake? Was there a reward for qoing out with you? She went out with you it didnt work out for some reason and its over. Maybe the fact that she's getting over it so easy is why it still eats at you. Best thing to do is learn from it. Figure where you went wrong or where she went wrong and learn

 

[sexy_kuta]

she only cared for herself,

she talked to me just to get attention

she never talked about me

she went out with me to get attention

from her friends..

then she dumps me for the stupidest reasons ever

but i blame myself for all that

i let her do it to myself..

i kissed her ass to much

i was too nice

she plays too much games too

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

Originally posted by sexy_kuta
she only cared for herself,

she talked to me just to get attention

she never talked about me

she went out with me to get attention

from her friends..

then she dumps me for the stupidest reasons ever

but i blame myself for all that

i let her do it to myself..

i kissed her ass to much

i was too nice

she plays too much games too

sounds like a selfish attention *****. The best way to deal with those girls is jealousy. Smile to their face while telling them that you're going out with the hottest girl you've ever met usually gets them steamed. LOL! And then say 'goodbye, hope everything is fine in your world' Whatever you do dont show anger.

 

[KontrollerX]

"why am i

pissed off? still, like im soo mad for some reason and at the same time im upset but not deeply desspressed i can hold myself

but it has been a month already since we broke up

sometimes i feel fine.. then theres those days where i wake up and right away shes on my mind.. then it makes me sick deep inside.. .how could i let her do this to me.. before i met her.. i was the type that would say B*****es Aint ****.. i would be the type that would go and chase women and not give a dime about them"

You probably have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Being involved in a relationship with a person who has a Cluster B Personality Disorder in this case Histrionic can and often does do this to a person.

If you are unable to shake these bad feelings you may need to seek out some help ie a counselor or psychiatrist.

I know it sucks man but this is an example of the destruction these awful women leave in their wake.

Like children spilling milk and breaking the glass its contained in by dropping it on the floor these girls are not very different.

They ruin lives, create horrible emotional pain and leave others to clean up the mess.

They are sorry when called on their actions but only to the extent that a child is sorry and its not a deep sorrow with maturity and thought behind it.

Like most of their actions their sorrow only exists in the moment. It quickly passes.

"i treated her so good that she would always tell me slowly.. she doesnt want me to change.."

All part of their bull**** make you happy at whatever cost even if it means lying or just saying whatever it takes. The little things to draw you in.

"i made her laugh soo much that i can remember the rhythm of her laughter than the sound of her voice...
how could i love a girl soo fast?"

Same here. I always made my HPD laugh a lot but of course I found out I wasn't the only guy who could make her laugh in such ways.

As for the love...

Well you could love yourself which is what you were loving as that was what she was projecting.

Us loving them so much simply means we had not loved ourselves enough.

"now i see myself in the mirror and i find out who i truly am.. im the type that would give a woman romanance...

i dont like chasing women,"

All the good qualities you thought she possessed are really the qualities that you yourself possess. Start to consciously believe it even if you thought you did before. Really love yourself more because that is crucial to overcoming an HPD's awful hold on your life and emotions.

"how long will she mourn me?"

She won't. She only mourns the loss of attention but since people are interchangeable objects to her she can get that attention from anyone. No guy is unique or special to her just sources of Narcissistic supply. This applies to any friends she has as well. All mere objects for her to use or throw away like garbage.

"why do i still have her on my mind?"

This is why...

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq68.html

"what really pisses me off is that EVRry thing we did was fake.. the kisses.. the late night talks that lasted til 2 am.."

Mine would talk to me for 5 hours at a time and I was stupid enough to go along with that. A past guy she used once talked to her all day. We did all this because they made us feel so special like we were the only guy for them. We felt we met our soulmate when really all we met was a cruel partial psychopath in the same Cluster of personality disorders as the Hannibal Lecter character no joke.

"the flirting.. the one on one talking when each other felt a lil down.."

HPD's don't have empathy so she did the flirting stuff because thats what she's seen men react to. She did this to ensure you would stay around. Even if you made it clear you loved her regardless she would still do the flirting to try and keep you around because the lack of empathy makes her not be able to put hersellf in your position and see how much you truly loved and cared for her as a person. HPD's often suffer with severe depression which is combatted by them with severe alcoholism and talking to guys for hours on end so they don't have to think about how much they hate themselves and why they cannot be happy.

"it was all fake to her...
to me it ment everything.. but now i see it in a different way and it pisses the hell off me... i am more pissed off about that then to find out she cheated on me..."

I hear ya.

We really wanted them to value us as much as we valued them but the only thing they value is attention and distractions. They cannot stand to think about what type of person they really are for one second because it brings them so much pain to know that the majority of their life actions don't simply make them a bi*** but an evil human being plain and simple.

"last night i went to a social and i seen this girl.. who was lookin at me and making eye contact as i dance.. i was going to go talk to her but her dad was around...( in my culture.. its very hard to talk to a brown girl while her dad is around..) but one thing about this girl.. that she looked much like my ex.. the height.. looks.. everything..

WHY IS SHE STILL ON MY MIND?"

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

"please answer this

HOW LONG WILL SHE MOURN ME?"

I'm sorry but she won't. Only the loss of attention which is easily replaceable for them.

 

[sexy_kuta]

so the best thing is go try to meet other women

the more the better for me
i can see my self doing the right things now and im feeling better than before (alot better) i just cleaned the whole house and i feel fine, i guess imma get out more often and meet other women

at least she didnt call me this week, i hope she never calls me again

thanks alot for your input.. i will be reading them over and over until i get them in my head

 

[oobm]

takes time bro... My philosphy is this... Sitting at home and being sad/mad won't help. Go out and meet new girls to have a good time with.

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

you're main reason for hurting is due to a blow to your ego from a lack of control. When you arent into control of something it puts a feeling of fear in you. Fear that you've lost something or no longer are in control of a situation. Thats what causes people to cling sometimes. Only time makes it go away, and of course a new lady in your life.

 

[jigga23]

Dude I just broke up with my GF. She was a major AW. We would cycle through being close then her doing fvcked up things espically in the beginning shes prob cheated on me just not 100% sure. Everytime she would do something fvcked up I would tell her im not tlaking to her anymore and wouldnt' call her. She would act like she doesnt care and be selfish. but she would call later on saying sorry. We dated for 1.5 years. we broke up like 3 times. everytime she says she needs space or shes stressed out and would just cut off contact for a tiny bit. I would attempt to talk to her leave a message or two and tyr to say something. she wouldnt respond. So i would just say fvck it. Stop calling and one time i even changed my number. But she got it from someone and ended up contacting me again. Got back together with her again. now its that part of the cycle says shes stressed out doesnt know what she wants so i was living with her for like 7 months i moved all my sh*t out told her ill call her when im ready i probably wont ever call her she might call me in a couple of days but still fvck it AW's are fake and a waste of time. the cool thing is cause all the fvcked up sh*t that happened i just think about it and it makes me say fvck that b*tch and she can be miserable by herself or with some other chump. I do feel a little upset but nothing major and this is my first serious gf and i lived with her. crazy stuff. I got stories to fill a book some funny as s sh*t

 

[sexy_kuta]

FUK DAT *****



i dont need her

 

[El Don]

Correct me if I am wrong but I was under the assumption that AWs only want attention from you. Some guys though I see are talking about actually dating them and kissing them etc. I thought AWs only used you for attention but never dated or never did anything physical as far as kissing or sex because they didnt see them that way and didnt see them as relationship material. So its actually possible that she is still an AW even though you have a relationship with her?

 

[n00bPimp]

The only reason why she is still on your mind is because you let her be on your mind. If you want to stop thinking about her what you must do is the following:
STOP THINKING ABOUT HER.
Find something to distract your mind. Everytime you start thinking about her just tell yourself to stop and try to think about something else. Thinking about her is going to make you miss her more. So just quit it and find something else to think about.

 

[sexy_kuta]

Originally posted by n00bPimp
The only reason why she is still on your mind is because you let her be on your mind. If you want to stop thinking about her what you must do is the following:
STOP THINKING ABOUT HER.
Find something to distract your mind. Everytime you start thinking about her just tell yourself to stop and try to think about something else. Thinking about her is going to make you miss her more. So just quit it and find something else to think about.

your right man and im already doing it

man i feel great haha

i met a few girls today online.. just chatted up thats all but i feel much better

and for the guy who asked what they did

my hoee only let me kissed her and feel her up, of course she talked about birth control and that she wanted to take it later on but i told her that she should take it soon then shes like i dunno

so they talk about sex but dont deliever

she talked about giving me something speical on the next time i see her which was a blow i think but i never got a chance to see her

so I would like to say this once more..

FUK THAT BIITCH

 

[sexy_kuta]

one thing that made me soo happy is I learned lots

like I never EVER thought about women like this.. im not saying i got a negative thought about them

its just they are way more than they seem..

and i improved my game by far..

like holly shiiit i just wanna go out and test my game cuz im so confident that it will work

so i learned lots.. of course she was my first but i had to start somewhere right?

i kissed her ass too much and let her control... for an example i would be eating then she would call.. i would stop eating just to talk to her.. now if that would happen again.. i would simply say phone back im eating

so yea thanks alot.. like alot guys you have no idea on how much u changed my Whole perspective about women.. they are fun you just gotta play right