Why Am I So Picky?

[Plinco]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Personally I think it goes back to when I was at that age and not having very much success with the young ladies, so now my inner psychology is convinced that the age group and their characteristics is a value worth pursuing and thus the emotional and physiological response I get. Those convictions I have are so embedded into my psyche that even after trying to rationally contemplate I have not been able to change what I am sexually attracted to. Or maybe I’ve gotten too spoiled and average girls don’t do it for me. I don’t do porn, haven’t looked at that since mid-2017 unless I have had permanent brain damage from it. Or maybe I have low testosterone levels but I don’t have any other symptoms (I have regular morning erections, high energy, etc.). I’m getting my testosterone levels checked anyway.

I made a thread about my beauty of an f-up when I married a woman that I don’t feel sexually attracted to; What the f was I thinking… she’s a really nice lady, loves me and all. I care about her but I don’t love her. One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

It would be great if I could reverse my biological age back to 20 but that technology isn’t there yet though.

So how deep of a hole am I in?

 

[roaming shark]

Sounds like you want your cake and to eat it to. Unless you are a millionaire and look really good physically, at your age it’s going to be very difficult to get a young woman to join your program for the long term.

I would advise you get some high quality therapy from a man preferably, but not some beta chump.

Ultimately you desiring younger women is not special or unique ( literally all of us men want a hot young 21 y/o), your problem is that it’s effecting your self image and how you want to live. In other words, you are over valuing them. Which makes sense, and is not exactly easy to course correct. Again therapy.

What do you want? Kids? If not, then there’s no reason you can’t find a attractive woman of various ages to get with long term. I am curious tho, why you are so fixated on such a narrow age group.

Lol; you may have a coming to Jesus moment in your future. I wish you the best tho for sure dog

 

[Plinco]

What do you want? Kids? If not, then there’s no reason you can’t find a attractive woman of various ages to get with long term. I am curious tho, why you are so fixated on such a narrow age group.

I would like to have kids.

Why such a narrow range? I think that's the peak and I think of the women I get as a symptom of what I have going on.

Lol; you may have a coming to Jesus moment in your future. I wish you the best tho for sure dog

It's the buildup of frustration that I have been having for a few years now.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Your expectations are unrealistic. Just like the women you are over valuing yourself

 

[Robert28]

Let me ask you this. Are you attracted to women in their 20’s before you know their age? What I mean is say you see a girl you think is hot and she turns out to be 23 instead of 21, so you automatically get turned off? I don’t blame you not wanting women over 30. I don’t anymore either but not because of looks, they act too manly and are too damaged for me, plus they think their sh!t don’t stink.

 

[Plinco]

Your expectations are unrealistic. Just like the women you are over valuing yourself

I think so too. That's something that I have tried to change without much success. I have a habit of reverting back to overestimating myself in my thought process.

 

[roaming shark]

I would like to have kids.

Why such a narrow range? I think that's the peak and I think of the women I get as a symptom of what I have going on.



It's the buildup of frustration that I have been having for a few years now.

I understand. Honestly I need to work on myself to ideally not back myself into a similar corner of frustration and doubt.

Do remember you have only a single life (most likely). Getting some real clarity on what you want would surely help. Because sex is literally like 1-2 hours of time spent a week right, maybe a little more at most. But then what? If you want more, then you need to expand your age range. Weather you think you “like” them or not. Appearance is only part of it. Albeit a large part.

 

[Plinco]

Let me ask you this. Are you attracted to women in their 20’s before you know their age? What I mean is say you see a girl you think is hot and she turns out to be 23 instead of 21, so you automatically get turned off? I don’t blame you not wanting women over 30. I don’t anymore either but not because of looks, they act too manly and are too damaged for me, plus they think their sh!t don’t stink.

I do a rough estimate most of the time. I could be wrong about the ages by a little bit. Sometimes I see a woman that looks attractive that looks like she is in her late 20's

 

[Plinco]

I understand. Honestly I need to work on myself to ideally not back myself into a similar corner of frustration and doubt.

Do remember you have only a single life (most likely). Getting some real clarity on what you want would surely help. Because sex is literally like 1-2 hours of time spent a week right, maybe a little more at most. But then what? If you want more, then you need to expand your age range. Weather you think you “like” them or not. Appearance is only part of it. Albeit a large part.

Well it's actually not even just looks. It has to do with energy that young women have too. Not always, but a lot of times women have an energy that declines after about 23-ish. Going on dates with these young women are 10X more fun.

 

[roaming shark]

Well it's actually not even just looks. It has to do with energy that young women have too. Not always, but a lot of times women have an energy that declines after about 23-ish. Going on dates with these young women are 10X more fun.

Def cannot disagree with that. It’s disturbing how stark the contrast is for women in different age brackets. We’ve all read Rollo’s work.

To be frank, what frustrates me a lot is weight. So many women are just medically overweight and or obese as they age. Just statistically. This unfortunately makes it very slim pickings more so than already.

Get more clarity on what you want man. That’s the key. Write it down.

 

[Plinco]

Def cannot disagree with that. It’s disturbing how stark the contrast is for women in different age brackets. We’ve all read Rollo’s work.

To be frank, what frustrates me a lot is weight. So many women are just medically overweight and or obese as they age. Just statistically. This unfortunately makes it very slim pickings more so than already.

You gotta fat shame them. Save their lives from diabetes.

Get more clarity on what you want man. That’s the key. Write it down.

Do that already

 

[Robert28]

Well it's actually not even just looks. It has to do with energy that young women have too. Not always, but a lot of times women have an energy that declines after about 23-ish. Going on dates with these young women are 10X more fun.

In my experience women in their 20’s are way more open minded and willing to try new things and please you than old worn out women. Old worn out hoes just want starfish sex. No thanks. I need to spice things up and experiment, that’s where young women shine.

 

[Plinco]

In my experience women in their 20’s are way more open minded and willing to try new things and please you than old worn out women. Old worn out hoes just want starfish sex. No thanks. I need to spice things up and experiment, that’s where young women shine.

Girls who are 18 and 19 are more eager to please in the bedroom

 

[Plinco]

You are not alone or in a hole. Im the same way. My peer group is nasty. The hotties have plowed the wall and thankfully I got some decent genes as I age.
I prefer younger women as well. Keep working hard. Women will **** older men if you are not creepy or super needy.

37 is not old bro. Do the work and if you are good you can be successful with the ladies

I appreciate the encouragement. I also want to hear the downside too so I'm not just posting this to get people to encourage me.

Right now I'm focusing on getting my life back together, getting my business going, looking to invest some money, getting my health back together, looking for a new acquaintance circle. I lost all of that in 2020. Before that I was banging college girls

 

[SW15]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Personally I think it goes back to when I was at that age and not having very much success with the young ladies, so now my inner psychology is convinced that the age group and their characteristics is a value worth pursuing and thus the emotional and physiological response I get. Those convictions I have are so embedded into my psyche that even after trying to rationally contemplate I have not been able to change what I am sexually attracted to. Or maybe I’ve gotten too spoiled and average girls don’t do it for me. I don’t do porn, haven’t looked at that since mid-2017 unless I have had permanent brain damage from it. Or maybe I have low testosterone levels but I don’t have any other symptoms (I have regular morning erections, high energy, etc.). I’m getting my testosterone levels checked anyway.

I made a thread about my beauty of an f-up when I married a woman that I don’t feel sexually attracted to; What the f was I thinking… she’s a really nice lady, loves me and all. I care about her but I don’t love her. One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

It would be great if I could reverse my biological age back to 20 but that technology isn’t there yet though.

So how deep of a hole am I in?

When you were 18-22, you were not doing well with 18-22 year olds. Now at 37, you feel like you were robbed of a great experience. That's normal.

At 37, getting a 30 year old is an accomplishment. 18-22 is very difficult to pull off at 37.

If you can get an attractive 30-35 year old who is childless and semi sane, that's likely your best option.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Personally I think it goes back to when I was at that age and not having very much success with the young ladies, so now my inner psychology is convinced that the age group and their characteristics is a value worth pursuing and thus the emotional and physiological response I get. Those convictions I have are so embedded into my psyche that even after trying to rationally contemplate I have not been able to change what I am sexually attracted to. Or maybe I’ve gotten too spoiled and average girls don’t do it for me. I don’t do porn, haven’t looked at that since mid-2017 unless I have had permanent brain damage from it. Or maybe I have low testosterone levels but I don’t have any other symptoms (I have regular morning erections, high energy, etc.). I’m getting my testosterone levels checked anyway.

I made a thread about my beauty of an f-up when I married a woman that I don’t feel sexually attracted to; What the f was I thinking… she’s a really nice lady, loves me and all. I care about her but I don’t love her. One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

It would be great if I could reverse my biological age back to 20 but that technology isn’t there yet though.

So how deep of a hole am I in?

Having this awareness will go a long way. You are allowed to be picky, as long as you understand the consequences. Personally I'm not afraid of being alone or dying alone, and I'm eternally grateful for my freedom as a single man.

If any woman wants to cuff me, it'll have to be a very appealing package that adds to my life, and takes little away. I keep my body, mind, threads, and bank account in check with what I would expect my dream girl to like, and filter accordingly.

I'm in a similar boat, early 30s but loving the college crowd. I have more to offer than most men in that demographic, so I see nothing wrong with spitting game at young girls.

If you enjoy your life greatly, then being picky is your obligation, because that feeling of joy is extremely valuable. There's nothing wrong with wanting only 18 year olds, especially if you're thinking practically and rationally. Just keep yourself in check, you are a prize after all. Make sure there are no doubts that you're a catch.

 

[metalwater]

Same exact question back to you @Robert28 . If you met a woman over 30 and she was hot, feminine, submissive, seductive and supplicating, would you auto reject her because of her 30+ age?

Don't say women like this don't exist; they most certainly do. It's unfortunate you haven't met any but 30 is still young and for the record, I happen to know 20ish women who are quite masculine (straight women) and full of themselves (i.e think their sh!t don't stink).

It's not age that makes a woman masculine or feminine, manly or full of herself, but rather her nature, her general personality.

they don't exist.

in the girl's own mind she might be one, but only in the same way that a high-value man is awesome to himself.

a woman alone must become a bit like a man inside to survive if she has no man to care for her.

the attributes we are talking about do not map with survival in solo mode. that/those are masculine strengths.

different races have different ages that the changes occur at, but all have the changes at some point.

sometimes we call it maturing as the veils of understanding fall away and we see more and more of the truths. It's really an age and experience thing. very mature women trade maturity for innocence. the innocence is what is so very alluring. the wisdom and skill of knowing how to are different from the innocence of not knowing.

 

[Plinco]

Same exact question back to you @Robert28 . If you met a woman over 30 and she was hot, feminine, submissive, seductive and supplicating, would you auto reject her because of her 30+ age?

Don't say women like this don't exist; they most certainly do. It's unfortunate you haven't met any but 30 is still young.

I happen to know 20ish women who are quite masculine (straight women) and full of themselves (i.e think their sh!t don't stink).

It's not age that makes a woman masculine or feminine, manly or full of herself, but rather her nature, her general personality, how she was raised and other factors not related to age.

My opinion of course based on my own life and behavior I have witnessed from my peers and other women.

Relax. Everyone has different interests. There's a lot of men out there who like mature women; nothing wrong with that.

 

[metalwater]

How about hearing it from the men she dates and has relationships with? Not invalidating your opinion or experience but I fail to understand how a woman can be feminine and submissive, etc at 29 and then she wakes up on her 30th birthday and is suddenly masculine?

Doesn't jibe with my own experience or my life.

it's not all at once, it occurs over time. she doesn't even notice but a man that she meets once at 20 and then once at 30 will notice if he is experienced enough to see and feel it.

her progress to solo success is exactly the thing that leads her away.

It's the same for men, the ever safer more stable no risk mode that men move into is exactly the opposite of desire and the flame burns lower.

when a woman sees a man, the huge flame is attractive. when a man sees a woman, the small flicker only trying to start to burn is the one. when it is already burning and raging in flame it's like a man.

if she is ever so lucky and is with a man with a raging flame she will never need or want to have her own. won't even occur to her. she will only want to join in the man's fire.

whenever I hear about women that are proud to be stronger than the man they are with, I cringe in every way possible.

I am guessing you are over 30 as am I.

 

[Plinco]

At 37, getting a 30 year old is an accomplishment.

So if that kind of age gap is an accomplishment, do I get a metal for a bigger age gap? haha