Why am I ghosting women.

[BadBoy89]

Been going on quite a few dates here and there, but I’m wondering what the hell is wrong with me, or if there is something wrong.

I got my Personal Trainer, Caucasian, ridiculously hot, great body, just turned 30. She is a Yoga instructor too. Been out a few times and texted her to go out 3rd time, she got back to me next day and she countered with 3 different days. I didnt respond. I didn’t care. What is wrong with me? Any normal guy would jump, skip and scoop at the opportunity and I ghosted her. I’m thinking maybe because she is 30 and not 27, but it’s not that big of a difference.

I got another Persian girl supposed to meet this week. She is 30 and wants to get married have kids. Not that interested. Again, if she was 27 or younger I think I would jump, but for some reason “30” and I lose interest.

Is something wrong with me? Thoughts?

 

[manfrombelow]

Question: Did you or did you not fvck the yoga chick?

 

[BadBoy89]

Question: Did you or did you not fvck the yoga chick?

Not.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are putting away too much importance on age IMO. Who cares? If you like spending time with her, the sex is good and she checks enough boxes, then a 3 year age difference is ridiculous to dismiss someone over, in my opinion.

 

[Dr.Suave]

You feel like you can pull younger and you rather pass these opportunities. No need to over analyze.

 

[espanish]

2 possibilities
you have abundance and don't need to satisfy yourself using these women
you watch porn and don't need to satisfy yourself using these women

if possibility 2 is true, don't jerk it for a week. you will be happy with any hole

 

[SW15]

I got my Personal Trainer, Caucasian, ridiculously hot, great body, just turned 30. She is a Yoga instructor too. Been out a few times and texted her to go out 3rd time, she got back to me next day and she countered with 3 different days. I didnt respond. I didn’t care. What is wrong with me? Any normal guy would jump, skip and scoop at the opportunity and I ghosted her. I’m thinking maybe because she is 30 and not 27, but it’s not that big of a difference.

I got another Persian girl supposed to meet this week. She is 30 and wants to get married have kids. Not that interested. Again, if she was 27 or younger I think I would jump, but for some reason “30” and I lose interest.

Is something wrong with me? Thoughts?

Yes, something seems off. You didn't mention anything about the Persian woman's looks. If she's mediocre looking, I could understand a bit.

The personal trainer/yoga instructor seems like a solid prospect, even as a 30 year old. You're pushing 40 (if not 40 already) according to your profile. A 30 year old ridiculously hot and fit woman is a solid prospect for a man around 40 years old. If it's not too late, I would set up that 3rd date with her. You didn't mention her pushing for married life and babies yet.

2 possibilities
you have abundance and don't need to satisfy yourself using these women
you watch porn and don't need to satisfy yourself using these women

if possibility 2 is true, don't jerk it for a week. you will be happy with any hole

No porn and no mbate is always a good idea.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You feel like you can pull younger and you rather pass these opportunities. No need to over analyze.

Honestly I'd rather have someone I have a good vibe with than someone hotter. Been with enough hot chicks and none of them are in the top 5 in terms of amazing sex

 

[Stuffnu]

What’s her number?

 

[BadBoy89]

Yes, something seems off. You didn't mention anything about the Persian woman's looks. If she's mediocre looking, I could understand a bit.

The personal trainer/yoga instructor seems like a solid prospect, even as a 30 year old. You're pushing 40 (if not 40 already) according to your profile. A 30 year old ridiculously hot and fit woman is a solid prospect for a man around 40 years old. If it's not too late, I would set up that 3rd date with her. You didn't mention her pushing for married life and babies yet.

Persian girl is average.

Yoga instructor - definitely not pushing for marriage. I said the word last time and she freaked.

I actually think the problem is I don't want to spend the money. It's ridiculous, I spend money on such worthless things, and then when it comes to taking a girl out, I don't want to spend the money.

What can you do.

 

[SW15]

Yoga instructor - definitely not pushing for marriage. I said the word last time and she freaked.

I actually think the problem is I don't want to spend the money. It's ridiculous, I spend money on such worthless things, and then when it comes to taking a girl out, I don't want to spend the money.

What can you do.

You can ditch the Persian girl and not give it a second thought. However, you need to continue the interaction with Personal Trainer/Yoga instructor. Spend the money, Unless you've taken a bad beating in the stock market since January (worse than most), spend the money. She's a good option.

 

[Bandolero]

Do you have another girl on your mind ? Oneitis or in love with somebody?

 

[derby1]

if possibility 2 is true, don't jerk it for a week. you will be happy with any hole

i did this, slayed a chubby chic, and lifted like schwarzenneger in the gym.

prob the best 4 days of my life. life was real good.

dont underestimate this advice OP

 

[logicallefty]

OP, perhaps you are pulling in women because subconsciously you are really want a girlfriend or wife, but they aren't really the women you ultimately want?

 

[Baibars]

I think you’re THE ultimate alpha male. You have so many options that you don’t give a single **** anymore. All members of this forum should look up to you

 

[kavi]

With girls 30+ if they are into you, you can be that guy they can marry and live with and have kids. You play for polygamy and get a group of them together and that can be the goal. Otherwise what are you doing just looking to get laid?

 

[BadBoy89]

OP, perhaps you are pulling in women because subconsciously you are really want a girlfriend or wife, but they aren't really the women you ultimately want?

Yep, this is likely most of it. No way I get with the Yoga instructor; she likes Sky diving and white water rafting and camping, I'm more about expensive hotels and restaurants.

But still, just to be seen with her, social proof goes up. Ah well, can't win them all.

 

[BadBoy89]

With girls 30+ if they are into you, you can be that guy they can marry and live with and have kids. You play for polygamy and get a group of them together and that can be the goal. Otherwise what are you doing just looking to get laid?

Not really, unless the girl is under 30. Not that I'm young either.

 

[manfrombelow]

Not.

So there's almost nothing to discuss from your story.

You did not fvck her, that's the fact.

She declined your initial date offer but also offered back alternatives herself, but for some reasons you chose to "ghost" her, that's the fact.

See? Nothing to discuss. You asked strangers on the internet a question only yourself can answer, which is "Why am I ghosting women"

I mean WTF? Now we are supposed to read your mind too???

 

[manfrombelow]

Yoga instructor - definitely not pushing for marriage. I said the word last time and she freaked.

So you mentioned the marriage topic with a girl you did not fvck? And she freaked. (How dare she overreacted like that)