Why am I dissatisfied with my dating life even though I am hanging out with multiple women?

[Jagellion]

Hey guys,

I am in a better spot compared to where I was a year ago. Learned a lot of stuff related to redpill, consumed a lot of podcasts and I am spinning plates and hanging out with multiple chicks. Careerwise, I am rising up and putting my investment years in a good manner. I was always working out but after meeting redpill, I am regularly working out for eight months and my body is really getting in shape. My bodyfat percentage lowered significantly. However, I still have that approach anxiety to stranger women. I did it couple of times but I am not consistent on the topic. What I mean is in order to me to speak with a unknown women can take up to five minutes. I just wait and if I get lucky and the woman does not leave, I say. The most beautiful ones are generally busy and just walk and go to their way so I miss the opportunity. How can I pass this issue? I want to be able to speak to a group of women or multiple women per day instead of pushing myself so hard and talking with only one every week. The issue is I know I am attractive and feel the looks or attention I am getting from women. So what is the problem here?

Thanks & Waiting for your suggestions.

 

[Stanley]

You claim to be red pill.... yet are using the phrase "Get lucky".......... Drop that to start.

If you have approach anxiety how is it you are spinning plates? Those two things rarely go hand in hand unless you are slaying off OLD.

I apologize, but from what you write you don't come across as a guy banging multiple women. Unless you are sleeping with some meh chicks which may be plausible given your

"Why am I dissatisfied" ...

Not a single person here can say with certainty why you are "dissatisfied", that is up to you and you alone to decide. Reflect and draw your own conclusion

Anyways...
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Take solace in approaching a stranger. They do not know you. They have no expectation of you and you should have no expectation of them. (If you do, you are already in a failing mindset). Who cares if you fail? Who cares if she rejects you? The only person that could care is you, but you shouldn't care. You just keep on keeping on and move to the next chick you fancy

Care less about whatever happens and just have fun with it.

Don't get in your ahead about it, just say screw it and do it. If you are putting women on pedestal then stop doing that.

There are ways to mitigate that view, but I don't think dehumanizing a gender or taking upon a mindset of superiority is healthy or conducive to getting laid. Instead adopt a mindset of confidence and self assuredness. Remove dependence on outcomes and simply do, stop thinking

The more you do it the less you care. Take rejections in stride and build resilience

 

[Jagellion]

Thank you Stanley for the suggestions, and I totally agree with the women I am messing around with around 6 SMV, and I am sure I can do better. Maybe that's why not talking to girls I see on the street every day makes me dissatisfied. The ones I hang out with are not old, but I am sure I can do better.

So where shall I start with meeting with ladies, pushing chairs, and talking to multiple girl groups, or how can I enhance my carelessness? How did you make yourself for the first step? Do you remember your experience?
It is clear that I have increased hate towards chicks after reading all these Redpill books, but I am aware I should not hate them due to their nature. I was in an LTR - blue pill conviction for five years, and if you consider my age, it is so much, and I am trying to do better every day. I know I cannot do a rainbow without a bit of rain, and I should change some of my characteristic traits because I still have the effects of blue pill conditioning. The question is, where to start?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The problem is you haven't failed enough. Success in anything comes from many failures first. You cannot become wildly successful at anything in life without going through failure first. People think failing is something to avoid but it simply is you learning lessons on the way to success if you choose to apply what you learned.

 

[CornbreadFed]

1). Your goals seem vanity based which won’t mentally satisfy you long term in the run. Classic victim of red pill/Andrew tateism. No matter what your bf is, your career, and how high your lay count is, you will never be mentally satisfied ever.

2). You are either lying to yourself or society. Maybe some points in your OP are bull shvt and you are just making a topic to cope. Or maybe you read point 1 and immediately dismissed it because you can’t handle the truth and want to look cool on the internet.

My two cents

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

OP, I’ve been juggling plates (up to 6) for years. It’s normal to have moments of “wtf am I doing?”

One lesson I’ve learned is that if you have a truly beautiful, sexy partner who is pleasant it completely changes your mentation. The first time I was able to manage to pull this off - not with a “oh she’s ok 7 but with a 8.5/9 the way infelt about everything changed.

No “oh I’m tired maybe an hour is enough”, no 70% boners, no “eh I’m tired tonight”, no schedule issues because you blatantly cancel out on the others. All it takes after a rip roaring session is to take one look at her and you’re ready to go again.

The experience made it clear why fleets of warships have been launched in the name of women.

 

[Jagellion]

Dear Backinthegame, thank you for your prompt response. I genuinely believe you are right. Maybe because I am trying my chance on ladies such as SMV 6-7 so I get less rejection is keeping me back. I have never thought of that. I have never tried my luck with a 9s or 10s, or the maximum I reached in terms of beauty was a solid 7, maybe 7.5. In terms of meeting girls, I am only hanging out with people I know or my friends now, which is really limitating. However, I am just starting new and I will definitely try to get rejection more. There was one suggestion that says try to get rejected by 20 girls in one day, maybe I can do that.

Hi Cornbreadfed, thank you for your response. I do not think I am in the level of Andrew Tate or any other Redpill guru so far. Nonetheless, I hope I reach to that point one day. Secondly, I really do not care about my reputation or the appraisal I will get from this forum. What will happen if people recognize me here? Will my balls grow so big that I cannot pass the doors? No, I am aware that the ideas of people really do not matter, and If I prove myself to a stranger or not, it does not make a difference. Of course, in real life, I think differently; image is everything, and I should protect my frame at all cost. But the problem I am struggling with here is that everyone around me is a blue pill and no one is interested in improving their status, physical appearance or game. I need to talk about this topic with people with a red pill mindset. In my workplace or my friends (because I recently moved to a new country, my friends are inevitably my colleagues), it is impossible for them to think of a life where there is no wife, kids, no mortgage. For them, talking to a stranger chick who is 10 is like a crime. I am not blaming them because I was one of them before meeting with Manosphere, but I will not stay in the mud with them and get help from people who genuinely care about their and society's masculinity.

Hey Pierce, keep up the excellent work! Up to 6 plates? That's crazy for me now lol! How do you find time to spend for them or how do you manage? Even two is relatively complex for me because of my current tempo. You are correct that once you hang out with a hotter lady, you push your limits much further than you would do with your average ****buddys. Kindly teach me how so I can go on that path as well.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

You are overthinking human interaction. That is all it is.

If you, like most men, approach women with agenda you are effectively putting yourself in a win-or-lose position.

If you approach women without an agenda and are simply curious what they are about you have nothing to lose but much to win. You will either get to know a new person and their mind or you might hit it with her and so on.

You have to understand that no one is above it or below you in a deeper sense. We all have fears, insecurities, pains, struggles, wins, and things we are proud of. Regardless of how "attractive" or "high status" you are, you are still a human being. Take your interactions to that basic level.

Genuinely approaching someone will always get you farther than with an agenda. Remember that.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I honestly don't think you're as confident in yourself as you believe you are. I think that + a combination of just not having much experience socializing with strangers or women in general.

For myself, the fact that I have plates that gratify my ego/validate me sexually.. makes it so friggin easy for me to talk to women. Why? because i have 0 care what the outcome is because --worse case scenario, ij us hit up one of my plates and go bust some nuts. So I don't see why you would have a problem other than you might not be super confident in your social skills.

Are you going out alone or with a friend? With a friend makes sh.t so easy for me.. I'm at a point where talking to and taking women home is second nature nowadays. ofc i been doin this for over a decade.