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I don't get caught up in all the hysterical about how much easier women have it and how everyone is out to get men overall, but this **** here had me shaking my head.

This is how easy it is for women to get laid today. One of my wife's friends, not even ****ing like HOT. she's cute. she's bangable but she's not a smoke show or anything.. she's like i'm bored. I want to go on a date. she gets on facebook and says 2 words "who's single" and within 1 hour she had like 5 different dudes she's convoing with and countless more she could be if she so chose.
 

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I could do the same thing. But the women would all be used-up single mommies. Then again, I bet she's going to get some real winners, too.
 

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You have to keep in mind men and women have different objectives in dating, generally speaking.

Men want to bang a lot of girls and have variety.

Women want to get a high value man to commit to them.

So for a woman to bang a lot of guys or a man to find one girl to commit to him is relatively easy, but they are not what either one ideally has in mind. Women dont brag to their friends about slutting it up with randos on facebook just like you or I (hopefully) wouldnt brag about being in a monogamous relationship with some girl.
 

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women can get a date and a fvck easier than men...so what?

I'd still rather be a man. We win in the end.
 

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i'm not saying that men can't get laid.

i'm saying that the playing field is not remotely the same and i chuckle every time a woman tries to give a man dating advice or complains about how hard it is to find a man
 

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I can have just about ANY woman I want when I'm dating someone. I'm not one of those people who always has to be in a relationship, I'll go months or a year or two being single. When I do start dating someone though all of a sudden I'm noticing more women go out of their way to notice me, there are tons of single women all of a sudden (when I was single they all had boyfriends.lol), they go out of their way to talk to you, yet this time they somehow leave out any mention of a boyfriend. I went out with the girl I'm seeing to a redneck bar the other night. I was sitting at the bar by myself minding my own business, she had gone to the bathroom. Within 30 seconds of her walking off I had TWO very decent looking girls sit down beside me and introduce themselves and strike up a conversation. This would have NEVER happened when I was single. Ever. Now all of a sudden I'm approachable and easy to talk to it seems, even though I'm the same dude I have always been.lol Girls that have rejected me in the past or would have rejected me, now are all of a sudden interested and seek me out. It's fvcking laughable!
 

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backbreaker said:
so what did you do lol? did you number close?
no, didn't have time.lol The girl came back and made sure they knew I was with her.haha They left right after she came back. I knew what was up, I wasn't oblivious to it.
 

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no, didn't have time.lol The girl came back and made sure they knew I was with her.haha They left right after she came back. I knew what was up, I wasn't oblivious to it.
Because your value is raised by having a girl with you and the confidence that gives you.

When women say they cant find a man, you are confusing their intent with your own, and they are not the same. What they mean is they cant find the RIGHT guy - alpha, self-confident, etc. that they would want to fight for. They obviously do not mean they cant find ANY guy.

As men we arent as concerned with the right fit and the challenge of a confident woman, we are interested in looks and variety.
 

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jurry said:
Because your value is raised by having a girl with you and the confidence that gives you.

When women say they cant find a man, you are confusing their intent with your own, and they are not the same. What they mean is they cant find the RIGHT guy - alpha, self-confident, etc. that they would want to fight for. They obviously do not mean they cant find ANY guy.

As men we arent as concerned with the right fit and the challenge of a confident woman, we are interested in looks and variety.
The funny thing is I'm not acting any different than when I was single. When these two girls approached me I was sitting at the bar watching tv, next thing I know they sit down next to me and say "what's your name?". They knew I was with the other girl cause they saw me with her all night.
 

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i feel you. but i mean, like i'm married. there is a difference between acting like you don't give a ****, and truely, not giving a ****. women can sense it. i go out to the bar, and truely, i have zero ****s about the women in the bar. i don't pretend like i'm not looking, i'm not looking. and women notice. women notice a man who looks like he has his **** together not paying them attention, dong his own thing. that's sexy to a woman.
 

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backbreaker said:
i'm not saying that men can't get laid.

i'm saying that the playing field is not remotely the same and i chuckle every time a woman tries to give a man dating advice or complains about how hard it is to find a man
^^Bingo.

It may be tough to find her DREAM man. But just to get a date or dinner or some company/attention or just sex, is SO easy for women that it's not even funny.
 

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Mike32ct said:
It may be tough to find her DREAM man. But just to get a date or dinner or some company/attention or just sex, is SO easy for women that it's not even funny.
most women spend their entire lives looking for their DREAM man but most don't find him because most of them had left him in their PAST. lol!

Dates for women(average or hot) are easy especially with the thirsty orbiters on their social media and dating sites accounts. But most easy things are boring, that's why the real DJ enjoy the game when he finds a hard target to play the game with because that's usually fun and amusing but you should not give a fvck and let go of everything when the game ends but most men struggle with these two last things .
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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jurry said:
You have to keep in mind men and women have different objectives in dating, generally speaking.

Men want to bang a lot of girls and have variety.

Women want to get a high value man to commit to them.

So for a woman to bang a lot of guys or a man to find one girl to commit to him is relatively easy, but they are not what either one ideally has in mind. Women dont brag to their friends about slutting it up with randos on facebook just like you or I (hopefully) wouldnt brag about being in a monogamous relationship with some girl.
Great response. I think nismo should just close the thread now. If it isn't we will hear whiny betas talk about how hard it is to get laid if you're a man.
 

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jurry said:
You have to keep in mind men and women have different objectives in dating, generally speaking.

Men want to bang a lot of girls and have variety.

Women want to get a high value man to commit to them.

So for a woman to bang a lot of guys or a man to find one girl to commit to him is relatively easy, but they are not what either one ideally has in mind. Women dont brag to their friends about slutting it up with randos on facebook just like you or I (hopefully) wouldnt brag about being in a monogamous relationship with some girl.
Here's the rub.

If a man were to do this on facebook, he'd be lucky if he got a quarter as many responses.

A man wins if sex happens. A woman wins if she has a man's attention. If a woman loses an orbiter, that's like a breakup to her.

NEXTING is different too for both sexes. The man is being NEXTED when:

1. She stops responding
2. She starts seeing someone else
3. She just wants to be friends
4. She flakes without trying to see you again
5. And so on, as long as sex did not happen

Because he is not in a position of power. You need to have sex with a woman to have power over her, or at the very least, she's chasing you and wants you.

Let's admit it, when a woman is playing games, and we delete her number and block her, we think we're NEXTing her, but most likely she did it first. What we men are really doing is rejecting her offer of being an orbiter. But somewhere along the way, there was failure on the man's part 9/10 times.

At the end of the day, it's all about the woman's interest level.
 

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om1xr said:
most women spend their entire lives looking for their DREAM man but most don't find him because most of them had left him in their PAST. lol!

Dates for women(average or hot) are easy especially with the thirsty orbiters on their social media and dating sites accounts. But most easy things are boring, that's why the real DJ enjoy the game when he finds a hard target to play the game with because that's usually fun and amusing but you should not give a fvck and let go of everything when the game ends but most men struggle with these two last things .
Good point.

A big ideal that used to be discussed on here, but now, not so much is Amused Mastery.

If that's unfamiliar to any of you, I strongly advise you do some research.
 

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I think the true measure of a DJ is a man who is just as confident walking into a bar by himself as he is with a hot chick on his arm.
 

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jurry said:
You have to keep in mind men and women have different objectives in dating, generally speaking.

Men want to bang a lot of girls and have variety.

Women want to get a high value man to commit to them.

So for a woman to bang a lot of guys or a man to find one girl to commit to him is relatively easy, but they are not what either one ideally has in mind. Women dont brag to their friends about slutting it up with randos on facebook just like you or I (hopefully) wouldnt brag about being in a monogamous relationship with some girl.
This. The result is that men will never understand what's it's like to want what women want and women will never understand what it's like to want what men want. It's a fundamental difference due to the fact that eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap.

Men can get turned on by a body part or even a geometric shape. Men's ideal life would be banging a hot new chick every few days. Women simply cannot fathom this.

And men can't fathom whatever it is women want. "Getting laid easily" is not what 99.99% of women want.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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