Who ya gonna call? FLAKEBUSTERS!

[Naughty Ninja]

WHENEVER you get a chick who text flakes on you. You don't have to necessarily "not" reply.

Ex: "I can't make it this Saturday, sorry"

Instead of you = :nono: :cuss: :box:

Reply back: Relax. lol There's nothing to be sorry about babe =)

Or: lol. Don't worry about it. Everythings still cool with us. Talk to you soon babe. =)

You want to let her know in a nice way you don't mind. No reply she could take as you possibly being bvtt hurt and being the dude who "took his ball and went home".

Those replies show you won't put the pressure on her. She may feel relieved even IF she was PURPOSELY planning a flake.

You are the one in control of your emotions.

***Don't give me the lectures of "disrespect". You aren't the Teflon Don John Gotti. So get over it. Flakes happen. Show "understanding" and you may just flip it around and be pounding her brains out on the next possible meet.

By putting her "at ease" with those red reponses. Even IF she was doing it to be a pain in the ass. When you DO ask her again in a few days. She just might not flake as she'll remember you "understand she has a life too" and isn't going to pressure her in regards to who knows what else would run through her mind.

Try it out. You have nothing to lose.

(Yes. I did get carried away with the emoticons. And what??)

 

[Bible_Belt]

Not throwing a tantrum makes the girl think that you have someone else lined up to take her place, which is why I think it works.

 

[Mike32ct]

I've been toying with something similar to this. I've only tried it on two girls.

Here is an example with one girl...

HB: Actually I can't meet up tonight. I forgot that I was supposed to go Xmas shopping with my dad. Sorry.

Mike: ok np

Next time...

HB: I can't do Thursday. My gf broke up with her ex and needs me right now.

Mike: ok


Anyway, my experience with being forgiving of flaking is limited, but with both girls, they flaked twice, and we never got beyond a makeout. Clearly, it was a sign of low interest.

I think the Two Strikes Rule is sound. Maybe give her a free pass for one flake. If she flakes twice, she's done.

 

[Mr. Bond]

Two strikes rule is good...and not trowing a tantrum is important too. I still just ignore flake texts generally, but I did something else recently that I like.

I'm starting to play with a three strikes rule, and it's not just for flaking. My three strikes rule means if I contact her and our schedules don't line up or she can't/won't make time for me - that's a strike. A flake is also a strike.

Here's an example of how I just put it into use. I contacted a girl, tried to set something up with her, and found out that she was in Florida for part of the week (which was true) and she was working nights for part of the week. Our schedules didn't line up, so in my mind I call that a strike.

The following week I basically threw a hail mary and told her that we should hang out after our plans that night. I know this is very unlikely to work, but I was just curious how it would turn out.

So here's how our texts went after I left the bar with my buddy that night.

Bond: Oh $hit we're headed home and it isn't late at all! Leaving our new friends...be home around 11:15!

Girl: It's sort of late haha

Bond: Ooooh strike two

Girl: Strike two!? No!

(I ignore this, she texts me again the next afternoon)

Girl: So remember that time I said I work Sunday night...well I lied. I'm totally available.

(turns out she took off work for me, lol)

Bond: I'll see you on Sunday at 7:30. Dress casual but look hot.

(she starts asking me if I want her to wear skirt, yoga pants, etc...I bang her out tomorrow)

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I have a problem with this advice for two reasons:

1) Flaking AT ALL is a sign of VERY low interest. You're fighting an uphill battle from the start. Why? Just why? Answer that question.

2) Why set your ego aside for a game playing hor? Are you THAT pathetic that you put the idea of maybe, just MAYBE she will like you enough to meet up the next time ahead of your own pride? If you're annoyed, tell her off in a cool way. Don't throw a tantrum like an 8 year old child, but relieve your frustration. Don't bottle it up if she flakes last minute.

Don't be afraid to burn bridges with hors, because they're hors. They are wastes of skin. They won't amount to anything. Forget about putting them on the "back burner" with a roses-and-lollipops "it's okay if you totally disrespect my time" response.

Man up, burn bridges. If she's a typical hor, she will throw a tantrum in return because you didn't bow down to her like every other man in her life does. If she's a normal girl, she will like being put in her place by a man.

 

[Kbomb]

In the development of "game" learning how to get women interested in you is obviously a huge key. This is what most of you guys are missing. You need to attract her first. You are not entitled to women. If she flakes its because you did not put in the work or you failed at some point. She needs to be solidly attracted to you to get her interested, and it must be consistent. You come off as desperate and wonder why a girl flakes. Its you.

Of course there are also monster AW's and ill mannered girls, but your not a pu$$y right? You can take a little disappointment right?

 

[backbreaker]

I have a problem with this advice for two reasons:

1) Flaking AT ALL is a sign of VERY low interest. You're fighting an uphill battle from the start. Why? Just why? Answer that question.

2) Why set your ego aside for a game playing hor? Are you THAT pathetic that you put the idea of maybe, just MAYBE she will like you enough to meet up the next time ahead of your own pride? If you're annoyed, tell her off in a cool way. Don't throw a tantrum like an 8 year old child, but relieve your frustration. Don't bottle it up if she flakes last minute.

Don't be afraid to burn bridges with hors, because they're hors. They are wastes of skin. They won't amount to anything. Forget about putting them on the "back burner" with a roses-and-lollipops "it's okay if you totally disrespect my time" response.

Man up, burn bridges. If she's a typical hor, she will throw a tantrum in return because you didn't bow down to her like every other man in her life does. If she's a normal girl, she will like being put in her place by a man.

my first real adult girlfriend flaked on me 2 times before finally going out with me.

under normal circumstances i probably woudl have nexed her but when talking to her i didnt' get the vibe she wasn't interested. but on the third time i told her look babe, i want to take you out and if youd ont' want to go out with me than that's fcine but i am going to pick you up tomorrow and we are going to go out or else you will enver hear from me again i'm not going to chase you if you aren't interested. she came and the rest is history.

she was flaking beucase she hadn't gotten over her x she just broke up wtih. they dated for almost 6 years, she was 26 and and this has been the only guy that she has been with as a grown woman so i cut her al ittle bit of slack. a little.

what i am saying is, life isn't black and white. you have to develop a common sense o meter. it's like when i am selling website's for my company i have a set of rules that i use to see who i want to deal with but i can also use common sense to break a rule if i feel it's worth it. like i normally wont' take a client who has fired a previous developer beucase more times than not beucase it tells me that they are not doing their r4esearch before hiring someone OR at best they aren't able to give good feedback but everyone in a while i break that. or when am betting on horses i dont' bet on dirt races but every once in a while i see a race that is just too good to pass up

you have to be flexible and have common sense.

 

[sageproduct]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Naughty Ninja again.

I have a problem with this advice for two reasons:

1) Flaking AT ALL is a sign of VERY low interest. You're fighting an uphill battle from the start. Why? Just why? Answer that question.

2) Why set your ego aside for a game playing hor? Are you THAT pathetic that you put the idea of maybe, just MAYBE she will like you enough to meet up the next time ahead of your own pride? If you're annoyed, tell her off in a cool way. Don't throw a tantrum like an 8 year old child, but relieve your frustration. Don't bottle it up if she flakes last minute.

Don't be afraid to burn bridges with hors, because they're hors. They are wastes of skin. They won't amount to anything. Forget about putting them on the "back burner" with a roses-and-lollipops "it's okay if you totally disrespect my time" response.

Man up, burn bridges. If she's a typical hor, she will throw a tantrum in return because you didn't bow down to her like every other man in her life does. If she's a normal girl, she will like being put in her place by a man.

It's not about disregarding the two-strikes rule, in fact I see absolutely zero conflict between this advice and the two-strikes rule. It's just about showing that you're unreactive when she flakes.

I think it's stupid to "call her out" or "put her in her place" for wasting your time, flaking, etc. She's not going to give a sh1t, and it's sure as hell not going to change her in the slightest or teach her a lesson. Say it yourself flaking is a sign of low interest, well if she has no interest, then she doesn't give a damn what you say or if you go ghost

It's not about "bottling it up" either. If there are emotions that need to be "bottled up", there's too much investment already anyway. I do think it's true that men who are VERY successful with women are also VERY familiar with rejection, and consequently, flaking. So a Don Juan has been flaked on so many times that it truly doesn't bother him too much, just like how a professional should be able to handle losses and shortcomings in their chosen profession with relatively little emotion

 

[Naughty Ninja]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Naughty Ninja again.It's not about disregarding the two-strikes rule, in fact I see absolutely zero conflict between this advice and the two-strikes rule. It's just about showing that you're unreactive when she flakes.

I think it's stupid to "call her out" or "put her in her place" for wasting your time, flaking, etc. She's not going to give a sh1t, and it's sure as hell not going to change her in the slightest or teach her a lesson. Say it yourself flaking is a sign of low interest, well if she has no interest, then she doesn't give a damn what you say or if you go ghost

It's not about "bottling it up" either. If there are emotions that need to be "bottled up", there's too much investment already anyway. I do think it's true that men who are VERY successful with women are also VERY familiar with rejection, and consequently, flaking. So a Don Juan has been flaked on so many times that it truly doesn't bother him too much, just like how a professional should be able to handle losses and shortcomings in their chosen profession with relatively little emotion

^^^ He gets the point^^^

You keep your cool and then make plans for yourself or with someone else if they flake. If chicks see you throw a tantrum it'll turn them off more.

You don't let people KEEP flaking on you but then again brush that dirt off your shoulders and don't get pissy about it.

Hell flaking goes on ALL THE TIME with even friends. I've flaked countless times on people too. That's pretty much how it is these days. No need to drive yourselves insane over it. Water under the bridge.

Keep cool. And invite them out some other time. They just MAY see you as having your own life as well as understanding they have one too as "fvcked up" as they were to your wittle feewings.

Just a tip. Not the end all be all of dealing with a constant flakey chick. If they keep wasting your time and setting up or agreeing to plans and backing out. THEN you can blow them off period.

 

[Fatal Jay]

I always send "f@ck off" and delete their number afterwards

I don't care about the chick thinking im mad,she flaked on me

 

[Poonani Maker]

I always send "f@ck off" and delete their number afterwards

I don't care about the chick thinking im mad,she flaked on me

I use, instinctively, both NN's and Fatal Jay's, plus just ignoring her message cause I've got too many texts flyin every day anyway. Sometimes I just turn off the sound on my phone while at work cause it's so annoying, And co-workers, higher-ups etc may not be able to get quick contact with me but so be it.

I believe "fvck off" is just as viable as NC and NN's lines, just do whatever comes naturally in your mind. There are POF in the sea. If you have value, these hoes will wanna meet. They're bloodthirsty to TAKE value from a man, whether it's his clout socially or monetarily. 9 times outta 10 it's not about love i.e. what you initially said to her to get her interested via a compliment or a ribbing/banter that was innovative to HER ears, unique and imaginative, a comment on something she most likely had never thought of, be-cauzzze most women, as we all know here, can't really observe a God Damn thing that's original or invent a damn thing that's useful to the human condition, in the long run, and not simply as an article in a magazine or newspaper or academic journal that makes some big whig's daughter or granddaughter Look so brilliant...a woman "invented" this idea or device or concept/theory/entire field of study. Ok, I think women have "created," intricately, and on a high level, "the art of flaking." This could be used in sales seminars. Chapter I: Ways to build extreme value in your product when some bright-eyed eager sap who isn't bringing much value is, nonetheless, there before you to suck bone-dry for everything he's got. If he won't go away, make good Use of him while he's here.

 

[Purefilth]

An alternative to f@ck off is just a one word message.

NEXT

Love to see the hamster run on that one!

 

[Fatal Jay]

here's a dope one,after she flakes text this

"the phone carrier you just contacted deleted your number, goodbye"

 

[SamTheHobit]

Don't even reply.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

^^^ He gets the point^^^

You keep your cool and then make plans for yourself or with someone else if they flake. If chicks see you throw a tantrum it'll turn them off more.

You don't let people KEEP flaking on you but then again brush that dirt off your shoulders and don't get pissy about it.

Hell flaking goes on ALL THE TIME with even friends. I've flaked countless times on people too. That's pretty much how it is these days. No need to drive yourselves insane over it. Water under the bridge.

Keep cool. And invite them out some other time. They just MAY see you as having your own life as well as understanding they have one too as "fvcked up" as they were to your wittle feewings.

Just a tip. Not the end all be all of dealing with a constant flakey chick. If they keep wasting your time and setting up or agreeing to plans and backing out. THEN you can blow them off period.

But you and BB are not getting MY point.

My point is that I refuse to go OUT OF MY WAY to SUGAR-COAT my response to a flake. I will say what's on my mind. I don't care if she gets butthurt. I'm not constantly playing a game in my head just for that chance I might get laid in the future. I just don't really care. That's my point.

I'm not going to inconvenience myself to purposely go after a fight with a girl. I will generally ignore her. But if it comes up in conversation, I will be pretty blunt.

Yes, there are exceptions to every rule BB. However, if you do a poll, I bet you will find that the LARGE majority of the time a flake leads to generally NC.

Let's do a poll if you want.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Don't even reply.

Generally I agree with the above. However, I found a gem that's even better. Although most people won't believe me because the consensus is that NC is better. However, I have laid this line on a flake and it really butthurt her:

"Do I know you?".

Butthurt city. And THEN you go NC bro. lol

 

[PlayHer Man]

An alternative to f@ck off is just a one word message.

NEXT

Love to see the hamster run on that one!

Hahahah... that's funny. And a guy with lots of options can do that and get away with it. Never kiss female azz.

I don't usually send angry texts back. If a girl flakes via text I usually reply like this:

HER: "Hey, I can't make it tonight.. my dog is sick"

ME: "Ok"

Silence is golden. This is something I've learned over the years with girls. They get their power from knowing where they stand with you. I like to keep them confused about where they stand. Say less and make them wonder.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Generally I agree with the above. However, I found a gem that's even better. Although most people won't believe me because the consensus is that NC is better. However, I have laid this line on a flake and it really butthurt her:

"Do I know you?".

Butthurt city. And THEN you go NC bro. lol

Hahahahahahah!! I love it.

Reputation points for you.

 

[zinc4]

I just don't see what the big deal is if she flakes...it just means she either has low interest or something really came up...sometimes i have to flake on people as well, usually because of low interest on my part, though...if you have other options it shouldn't really matter that much.....

I just say no worries with a smiley face and then move on to other people unless they initiate in the future...

 

[ArcBound]

Naughty Ninja, you know I have your number on speed dial whenever I get a sh!t test coming my way