Who wants to criticize an online profile?

[Phyzzle]

Well, I'm alone in a new city after an international move AGAIN. My social life has been zoned for "suck" for the next 4-6 months, so I decided to put up a profile on Match, since I know several of the posters here swore by it at some point.

So far, I've sent a dozen emails, and have two dozen views, but no response. This is worse than it sounds, since there are perhaps 25 women in my age and distance range, about 5 of whom appear to be morbidly obese.

Maybe I don't know what I'm doing, since this is my first time trying it. So anyone who would do the favor of having a look, say so here, or PM me. I'd rather PM the link than broadcast to the world where I live and what I look like. (Put the criticism here, though.) Is anyone game? (I'm looking at you, Francisco.)

 

[guru1000]

95% of it is the pic. Take better pics.

If your pics are appealing, they will come to you.

 

[Phyzzle]

Here, take a gander. Do you think I should try different ones? Just snap one in my house?

 

[iqqi]

pm me the link

 

[guru1000]

Honest Opinion.

The gear is no good. Shows no style.

The hat, shirt , jacket and watch. The style says it all.

I sent you mine. That pic gets me 3-4 responses a day.

Put on a button down shirt with pair of true religion jeans and a stainless steel watch without the hat. Your responses will be night and day.

 

[guru1000]

Dont put that girl in the pic as well.

If a girl is going to be in a pic with you, make sure shes an 8.5 or better. This is an INSTANT FRAME builder or killer.

 

[Phyzzle]

Well, she's hot enough to me, heh, but you're right, it's probably better to just have a pic alone wearing more regular clothes.

 

[iqqi]

My kinda guy! Who woulda thunk it?

The pic is fine. I don't think you are the kind of guy trying to reel in bimbo blondes who would judge you off of having some asian chick standing next to you. I could only see that one pic. Anyways, I'd holla. You're cute!

You have some grammatical errors in your hangouts area. I LOVE New Orleans, by the way, for the same reasons. Also, your descript of what kind of girl attracts you is awesome.

 

[Phyzzle]

Yo, Francisco, not much room in your PM box.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Where is your pic?

 

[cedd]

I would like to, but where is the link ?

pm ?

cheers

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yo, Francisco, not much room in your PM box.

A few slots opened up but act quickly, they're going fast!!! :cheer:

 

[Phyzzle]

Hey, I believe in sharing the wisdom, so here was LovelyLady's suggestions:

1. You look handsome in your profile photo - you can really wear a hat! But.. your body language made me immediately think "He'd make a good friend".

2. Do not say how much $ you make - this is none of her business until you are talking about a future together, after you love each other.

3. Show your astrological sign - yes, it is girly, but you ARE talking to girls LOL.

Interesting. I have no compunction about showing how much I make, because I believe that it's not shallow to take that into account.

To me, keeping that hidden for a while is like a woman who won't post a pic, or her weight. I think I'll take a look at the other guys in the area and see what they do.

I'm going to send out a link to a pic. It takes a day to actually put one into a profile, because it has to be checked out by an employee to make sure it's not a c0ck shot.

Seriously, that is a big problem that these dating sites have.

 

[MacAvoy]

I agree with the hat wearing, however I also agree that first pic doesn't do you justice. I would make the effort to take a new pic, it will be worth it. If your in a small town with only a few prospects, I would take the profile down until you do so. That way your not shooting yourself in the foot before you start.

I would also remove the reference to "I've devoted the last few years to having as many odd experiences ... as possible", it makes you come across as weird or creepy, not attractive anyway.

Then I would play up your travel, that can be very attractive.

 

[wayword]

So far, I've sent a dozen emails, and have two dozen views, but no response. This is worse than it sounds, since there are perhaps 25 women in my age and distance range, about 5 of whom appear to be morbidly obese.

I think it's gotten wayyy too competitive these days.

A few years ago, you could get lucky with some desperate MILFs or girls looking for some alternatives.

But now, it's gone mainstream and so you have TONS of guys competing for "Sex and the City" type women with mile-long laundry lists to check off. And you can bet that the hot ones get 50-100+ messages a week from all these random guys.

So, it's just hardly worth the passive time anymore. Unless, I suppose you are a real physical specimen complete with cush lifestyle to offer.



Actually, what would be interesting would be to set-up a dummy profile with real hot pics and other desirable stats...and see what difference it would make. This has been done before (with predictable results), but it would be interesting to see if things are still the same...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I think it's gotten wayyy too competitive these days.

A few years ago, you could get lucky with some desperate MILFs or girls looking for some alternatives....

It's not nearly the competition that you think. Yeah, there's a ton of guys out there but there mostly AFCs who have no clue what they're doing. A funny profile and a decent initial email is all you need get get a woman's attention online. Not I'm just talking about dating sites and not social networks, those things are meat fests.

 

[MacAvoy]

I agree with Francisco. I've used online dating occasionally over the years when I don't have any live leads. I've always gotten good results? Why because I take the time to have a good profile and take the time to write a unique email. Its just like job hunting, you can put your standard cover letter but if you tailer it to the company, your going to have more sucess.

 

[Phyzzle]

Holy crap!

Thanks for your help! Since I made some changes, I've had two views, and TWO very warm responses from them. You guys are awesome; this is one of those times I'm really glad there's a sosuave.

I should try to put more specifics in the profile, but in a town this size, telling people exactly what my job is would be pretty much putting my work address and phone # with pics on a public website. (By the letter of the rules, people who work there aren't really supposed to be blabbing about it much.)

As for online dating in general, the last time I glanced at it was 2001. Back then, I saw a bunch of spam/fake profiles, and I didn't bother. But this month, even on the free sites I looked at, every profile appeared to be a legitimate person. (Some of you may know how I enjoy digging for the slightest hint of B.S.) So in that sense, it is better.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I should try to put more specifics in the profile, but in a town this size, telling people exactly what my job is would be pretty much putting my work address and phone # with pics on a public website. (By the letter of the rules, people who work there aren't really supposed to be blabbing about it much.)

Whoa, whoa, whoa... C'mon now, you want to write things that women could foresee themselves engaging with you, you're writing a marketing brochure. For example, how many vacation brochures have you read where the chef at the resort describes how many omelets he makes each day?

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As for online dating in general, the last time I glanced at it was 2001. Back then, I saw a bunch of spam/fake profiles, and I didn't bother. But this month, even on the free sites I looked at, every profile appeared to be a legitimate person. (Some of you may know how I enjoy digging for the slightest hint of B.S.) So in that sense, it is better.

The fake profiles stick out like a sore thumb. That doesn't mean that you don't need to qualify the women that are online. There will be those who are just out of a relationship and they are just looking for an ego boost. :nono: BOBTRG!

 

[Last Man Standing]

Picture looks good - although your face looks flushed - is it always that red?

With the description of the woman you want you are going to get some wild woman!!