Who pays on the date.....?

[Flyguy3663]

I personally would NEVER pay for a first date. I work hard for my lute and wont just fork it over for someone I just met. I met this girl like 2 weeks ago and we went to the movies. On the lone to buy the tickets I asked her "so do guys usually pay for you?" she was like yeah sometimes but I dont mind paying for myself. So I just bought my own ticket and she payed for hers. Just like that. She was into me from the moment we met so little stuff like that made no difference. We have hung out like twice since then and on Tuesday at her house we kissed and had dry sex for maybe 1 and a half hours.

Yea trickynick I am the seducer but I also gotta show her from the getgo that I respect myself and work hard for my money and show her I am not gonna try and buy her affection. If she is a cool girl then she will offer to pay or go half and half. If she wants you then the money isnt gonna matter shes just gonna wanna be around you.

The bottom line in my opinion just as wildthang said is spending money on her will not change her interest level in you. And how many of you would be content with paying for EVERY date you go on?

 

[JIMMMY T]

Money, Money, Money...sick of it. The guy always pays for the first date. Trickynick is right. The guy asks the girl out he pays. When he does he better get some kind of "thank you" if he doesn't drop that bytch.

To me its trivial. If you can't afford to go out dont go. Twenty, thirty even 100 dollars whats the difference. I make sure I have fun on every date I go on, I like to eat drink and enjoy the atmosphere, if the date goes good thats a bonus.

Its like an investment some reap dividends others don't. There are definitley more important things to worry abou then a couple of dollars.

 

[DonJuan'sGirl]

Bottom line:
when a girl pays she's not interested!!!
End of discussion!!!!
(unless you've been dating over a month)
and that is that....if you want to disagree, that is fine...but don't cry when I say 'I told you so' when sh*t doens't work out!!!

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[aurora]

I firmly believe based on my past experiences that its not an absolute that if a girl pays she is not interested. I have gone out with girls who were definitely interested in me including girls I had sex with on the first date, who did pay. It all depends on the circumstances.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Originally posted by DonJuan'sGirl:
Bottom line:
when a girl pays she's not interested!!!
End of discussion!!!!
(unless you've been dating over a month)
and that is that....if you want to disagree, that is fine...but don't cry when I say 'I told you so' when sh*t doens't work out!!!

Sorry DJGirl, but you have absolutely not clue what you are talking about regarding this subject.

I offer to pay half of the first date no matter if I think that the guy is a loser and I am going to dis him at the end of the night OR whether I think he is the best thing since sliced bread and I can't wait for him to take me out again.

I paid for the first date with the man I plan to marry. Where the interest was so high I thought my head might pop off.

The reason I pay for half? Because I have money to and we don't know each other very well. There is no need for virtual strangers to be buying me things. It is the same reason that I don't let guys buy me drinks at bars. Never have, never will.

But, for some women, it has nothing to do with interest level. It simply has to do with personality.

 

[Flyguy3663]

Originally posted by DonJuan'sGirl:
Bottom line:
when a girl pays she's not interested!!!
End of discussion!!!!
(unless you've been dating over a month)
and that is that....if you want to disagree, that is fine...but don't cry when I say 'I told you so' when sh*t doens't work out!!!

That is total BS. If she wasn't interested then why would she pay? Uh hello that makes zero sense. Like I said I dont spend money on women. Never have and dont think I would unless it was for a girlfriend for valentines day or her birthday. As far as I'm concerned if her interest is high and she likes you then you really cant do much to change that unless you start talkin dumb crap or being a jerkoff.

I WILL NEVER PAY FOR A FIRST DATE , no matter how hott the girl is. Go ahead and spend your money on her and be a "gentleman". You wont get any more than a guy that she likes that doesnt pay for her. Its reality people. WAKE UP

 

[DonJuan'sGirl]

okay, you can all disagree....but that is fact AND I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!!!!
Go ahead and disagree....that's your right

but in the end you will not end up with the girl who pays.....
as for Verybadgirl.....she must be the exception, but she DOES NOT symbolize every woman....infact she signifies a very small group.....the MAJORITY of woman who pay for the date, DO NOT HAVE HIGH INTEREST....maybe A LITTLE intrest...but not enough to stay with you for the long haul.........and that's all....everywhere you go you are going to find exceptions, but you can't base your future actions on an exception

go figure

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Look Deeper and You Shall Find What You Seek

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Originally posted by DonJuan'sGirl:
okay, you can all disagree....but that is fact AND I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!!!!
Go ahead and disagree....that's your right

but in the end you will not end up with the girl who pays.....
as for Verybadgirl.....she must be the exception, but she DOES NOT symbolize every woman....infact she signifies a very small group.....the MAJORITY of woman who pay for the date, DO NOT HAVE HIGH INTEREST....maybe A LITTLE intrest...but not enough to stay with you for the long haul.........and that's all....everywhere you go you are going to find exceptions, but you can't base your future actions on an exception

go figure

Actually, I can show you a whole host of women that feel the same as I do... my friends.

But, if I were a man, I wouldn't settle for a woman who wasn't mature enough to pay for dates occasionally.

Just my point of view though.

 

[Master of the Universe]

It seems to me, that both camps are right in this one.

From my personal experience, I have found women with very high interest level who expect me to pay, and women with very high interest level who offer to pay or split the bill. And conversely, I have found women with very low interest level who expect me to pay, and women with very low interest level who offer to pay or split the bill.

The bottom line here is that who pays does little to change interest level, for the better or worse.

In all circumstances that I can remember, I have always paid for the first date. I don't do this because I expect the girl to be more interested in me, but rather because it's something that I enjoy doing.

So how do I find out if a girl is a gold-digger or not? Well, sometimes I'll surprise them and take them to some place like McDonalds. The ones with low interest level will not be happy, hence giving me the signal to drop them.

And the ones with high interest will be just as happy if I took them to a fast-food joint or five-star bistro.

So guys, in my opinion at least, who pays is not so much an indicator of interest level, or lack thereof, and it won't affect interest level much either. Instead, do what makes YOU happy.

Master of the Universe

P.S. One point though, if you're paying for most of the dates, which is fine if you so choose (as I have), then you need to make sure that the girl is somehow contributing to the dating process/relationship as well. For example, she might cook dinner on the third or fourth date. I have dated girls where I paid for dates, but they brought me flowers, gift, etc on future dates. The point being, that she has to put some effort into the relationship, otherwise she won't value it as highly.

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[Squy]

how is the dutch method?

 

[dip]

i DO pay for the first dates with girls

it dosent show a nice guy, it shows a CLASSY guy, whiich is what a DJ really is.

if you are not going out as a date, and jsut friends, pay for the first date, and if she says "No !! let me pay!" say "hah, you can pay when you take me out next weeek

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