who like clubs? who doesnt? why?

[Jakes]

time and time again, ive told myself im going to quit going to clubs. I dont like the music most of the time, i cant hear myself think, talking to people is next to impossible, theyre usually packed so full i cant even move, and there always seems to be people pushing me from every direction. And yet i keep finding myself there on weekends. It just seems wrong to stay home, and it really seems like thats where EVERYONE is, especially all the best looking girls. Im not sure why this is. Maybe the girls are there because they like to dance, and the guys are there because the girls are. Thats why i am i suppose. Anyways this his been going on since i was old enough to get in, i can honestly say ive never had a fun time. I usually end up leaving within an hour, feeling really depressed and thinking about all the hot girls that were there, and all the other guys that will be successful with them tonight, The more i do this the worse i feel because it seems to reinforce the notion that im going to be doomed forever to wanting girls i cant have. Ive been going through this for too long...

Has anyone ever survived and succeeded through a problem like this? I dont know what the solution is, on one hand, i want to just stop going, on the other hand, i feel like thats surrendering. Is it possible to force myself to have fun at these places? Because thats basically the biggest problem, Im doomed the minute i walk in because it sucks there. Advice i get from other people sucks, like finding other places to go, things to do. The hot girls are not at other places doing other things on saturday night. I guess the bottom line is, I dont want to be a one dimension person who can only enjoy himself in limited situations. Thats what id call...well....a loser.

Theres probably no silver bullet for this, but id appreciate anyones feedback, im just sick and tired of the happy horsesh*t advice that people who dont understand or care keep giving me.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

I avoid clubs because I feel I'd have the same experience.

 

[ChrizZ]

It´s true. I don´t like clubs either. It´s totally packed all the time and you can hardly move. However, picking up women is easy. Just get on the dancefloor.

 

[st_99]

Yeah, its all about the dance floor when it comes to clubs, thats where the hookups are made.. usually too loud to talk.

big problem if you cant dance.


Although they're still cool if you just want to listen to some loud music and watch some HB's

 

[arlanda]

Well, one of the reasons I avoid clubs is because I was never successful in that setting. So there you go

Of course, you are right about those places being packed, not being able to have a meaningful conversation because of the loud music etc. I know that if I put some serious effort into improving my club game I definitely would get some success but honestly I don't see what's so amusing about getting drunk and dancing to music I don't like.

I would also say that some people go there because 'everyone' is already there and otherwise they'd feel like losers.

Anyway, it's truth about the hottest girls being there but if you're looking for something more meaningful than just having sex I'm sure it would be really hard if your girl were into clubs and you weren't.

 

[DJDamage]

What you need to do is answer this question: What is the real reason I go to nightclubs?

It sounds to me that you don't really like nightclubs and only go there because it is a venue to pick up women. Now if this is a big reason then maybe you shouldn't be going to nightclubs.

There are other places that is much easier to pick up women, a place where you don't compete with anyone, places that you don't have to pay to get in and stay for 3 hours. Work on your game and screw the nightclubs. If women did not attend night clubs, most men wouldn't go there as a result.

Go to places you LIKE and ENJOY the activities there and it should be easier to meet women.

 

[d9930380]

I used to go to dance and get wiped out. After taking exctasy girls just seemed like a pain in the ass.

Recently I've been having mixed experiences (Friday night was really depressing) and it's for all the reasons you stated and I'm too old/lazy now to dance or take E. Now and again I can be arsed but that's becoming rarer and rarer.

As for scoring in the clubs with the extremely good looking girls. I wouldn't hold out much hope. They generally tend to be attention *****s who have a circle of friends allready at the club (some probably work there), it's their social scene and they aren't there to pull random guys - unless he's REALLY hot.

HOWEVER clubs are very useful if you want one-night stands with average girls, they get drunk, horny and caught up in the moment and it can be extremely easy.

 

[i am me]

wtf? so many people who dont like clubs...only been to a few cus im young but i love going...its just fun cus the setting is jus kinda loose n theres hot girls goin around. i cant really dance besides grinding n stuff but i got rhythm so i can fit in. its kinda like my school dances except u can dance with anyone there basically...

and when the musics bumpin, it always gets me feelin in a good pimpin mood

 

[Unregistered]

I despise clubs with every fiber of my being.

 

[Aegis]

Wow, every topic I've wanted to make today has already been posted by somebody else a few hours earlier. I guess everyone else had the same experience yesterday...

Anyway, clubs piss me off. For once I'd just want to go to a place where I can actually talk to people. In clubs, I usually just end up walking back and forth and having a drink every time I get to the bar. It's boring. Then again, it's probably cause I'm not much of a dancer. I guess I'll experiment with that for a few weeks and see if things change.

 

[PRMoon]

I love clubs. They're how I pay my rent...and my car insurance...and my cell phone bill....and my credit cards.

Oh and when you work for nightclubs you get play A LOT more easily.

"Hey you girls are hot! Who wants free drinks?!" Way easier fighting the battle from the winning side.

 

[donjuanjovi]

I despise clubs with every fiber of my being.

Same here.....
From what I saw the one time I went, it's packed to the brim with desperate guys trying to pick up skanky girls.

 

[Le Parisien]

I love going to dance clubs. Two years ago, when I was till in college as a young graduate student, I would go out three times a week. In average two out of three would be to dance clubs.

I think you are going to dance club for the wrong reasons. Whatever your motivations are, if you don't like dancing, you will most likely hate it to death.

There's a reason why it's called "dance club", you are supposed to dance, not talk talk and talk some more with routines and patterns and sh*t. It's like going to the movies and complaining that you can't have nice conversations about the movie during the projection...:crackup:

- Being a good dancer who also enjoys dancing a lot, I can say that the biggest reason why I go to dance clubs is to have a very good time. When the music is right, I can just feel the adrenaline pumping...

- Hot girls come second.

- And the ego boost I get out of it comes third. You know when you are at least decent looking and really good dancer, the whole club, girls and guys alike, will check you out. You will be the center of attention. If hot girls get tons of attention by simply being hot and flaunting it in front of everyone, you can do the same with your charisma and body language through good dancing.


Through my clubbing experience, I've learned a few things that I'd like to share with you:

- Clubs can be hell on earth for very average or below average girls and below average guys in the looks department. Because it's literally a meat market, it's very brutal, no bullsh*t, no courtesy, no "nice rejections", it's a "winner takes all" setting. If you are a 3, you are not one third of a 9, you are nothing! If you are a 9, you are everything! It's especially true for girls. Unless you genuinely love to dance, I'd suggest fat/ugly girls and short/fat/ugly guys to stay clear from clubs, it's too much to take.:yes:

- Clubs have the highest concentration of HB9 and HB10 for the reason mentioned above. It's the best place for them to get ego boost and attention. It's the very place where the advantage of being a hottie is overwhelming. A HB9 will have at least 20 guys throughout the night who will try to dance with her, hit on her, and beg for her attention or "favors", a UG5 will stay there, all by herself, alone, drinking, and totally ignored by the crowd. Can you imagine any other human social setting where's so brutally good/bad depending on whether you are hot?

- Like some others have said, and contrary to public belief, the majority of the HB10 and HB9 are not there to hook up with some random guys. They can already do it during the day if they wanted. They are there for the atmosphere. They get a kick out of "you can look but you can't touch". They feel "loved" and "desired" without risking anything on the line.

- The HB10 and HB9 who are there genuinely because they love to dance can be spotted quite easily. They wear light or no makeup, jeans (tight jeans of course ), tops and comfortable sneakers. Sure trendy and feminine sneakers, but sneakers nevertheless. As opposed to "colorful" makeup, short skirts, highheels etc...

- Clubs can be one of the best hookup places if your standards are low or you have no standards at all. After feeling worthless for hours at the club, the average 6s or UG5 will easily put out just to feel "loved" by guys. Especially the fat ones. Just pay attention at the closing time, how many UG would still linger there when the music is out, hoping that some guy will make them "feel better"... Field-tested and approved by some of my friends...:yes: :crackup:

So the bottom line is:

1) Don't go if you don't like to dance

2) Don't go if you are really short/fat/ugly

3) Don't go there for the sole purpose of picking up girls

4) Happy clubbing guys!

The only times I didn't enjoy going to dance clubs was when the music was really crappy or when the place was so packed that you can't even move, let alone dance...

 

[skip2mylou781]

clubs are VERY easy to explain

you will be good at hooking up with HOT girls at clubs if u have the following:

a)status

b)GREAT looks

c)GREAT dance skills

if u are just some shmo showing up at the club, dont expect to hook up with anything above an hb6

for clubs u NEED certain materialistic things (such as status o rlooks) to get ur foot in the door

if u can break dance, u got it made too!

 

[L777]

clubs are VERY easy to explain

you will be good at hooking up with HOT girls at clubs if u have the following:

a)status

b)GREAT looks

c)GREAT dance skills

if u are just some shmo showing up at the club, dont expect to hook up with anything above an hb6

for clubs u NEED certain materialistic things (such as status o rlooks) to get ur foot in the door

if u can break dance, u got it made too!

hmmm, again, wrong.

a) I'm a broke, 1st year student

b) I'm average looking

c) I dance like Bez from the Happy Mondays ie. so bad its funny

...yet I've had 3 ONS's this term so far with a 7, 8 and 8.5, just through regular game. And I know for a fact this would be more if I didn't enjoy getting hammered so much.

Skippy, if you have an opinion, please don't post it as a fact, its just not cool. Cheers.

 

[Jakes]

you all have some great points, suggestions and opinions. thanks alot guys

 

[cyp6]

im am a club promoter in las vegas... love clubbing because girls are begging to hang out with you after you get them in for free. and they treat you like a celerbery tooo.. but i used to hate going clubbing too for the same reasons that are stated above.

 

[Centaurion]

^ lol yeah I love it too when girls treat me like a 'celebery'!

The reasons for why I don't like clubs :
- too crowded
- too loud music
- b!tch shield on max
- I blow when it comes to dancing (imagine the Carlton dance from the Fresh Prince)
- it doesn't suit my personality and pick up operandus, as my strong points are a class A personality and my unbelievable excellent conversation skills, which doesn't work too well in a club setting.

 

[realsmoothie]

It might depend on what kind of clubs you guys are going to.

I hate the hiphop or top 40 type clubs. They attract dumb blonde b*tches who are all about status and looks. Screw that. And the music sucks.

I really like electronic or alternative or 80's clubs/nights. The clientele usually is older and has far more of a brain and you can actually talk to them. There's less Chachi type guys in polo's and spiky hair just waiting to get drunk and frustrated and fighty.

 

[L777]

It might depend on what kind of clubs you guys are going to.

I hate the hiphop or top 40 type clubs. They attract dumb blonde b*tches who are all about status and looks. Screw that. And the music sucks.

I really like electronic or alternative or 80's clubs/nights. The clientele usually is older and has far more of a brain and you can actually talk to them. There's less Chachi type guys in polo's and spiky hair just waiting to get drunk and frustrated and fighty.

yea I reckon you're going to the rock type of clubs. Of course if you go to a hiphop club then the girls are gonna want gangsta type guys. Just go to an indie club - they play half hiphop and half indie in my favourite club every night of the week, and the girls are hotter than in hardcore hiphop clubs imo, more down to earth, instead of silicon blond bimbos with too much make up.

Although this is the UK, where hiphop ain't as popular. But I did manage to get a shag from a regular, RnB/hiphop club this summer in SF (City Nights it was called), but i think that was due to mainly to my British accent.

You also gotta remember the main point of a nightclub: to have fun and get wasted. If you find going to a club a chore that you HAVE to do so you can "sarge", then you got a seriously f.ucked up perspective of the world.