Who else HATES talking on the phone?

[Married Buried]

I really hate talking to women on the phone. When she calls and we just talk about random things, then I have nothing else to say, she still doesn't want to hang up the phone. I always have to make an excuse to get off the phone, and it's so obvious I just don't want to be on it anymore. She has never once been the one to says she has to go. Am I supposed to stay on the thing all day or night? Would rather save the talking for face to face.

Next time she calls I just won't answer, and text back after a few minutes. What do you think?

 

[AttackFormation]

I dislike talking on the phone and texting because it means I can't be physical with her which hurts my game. I also think it's more boring since I enjoy being physical and face to face more. Just keep calls short and don't text unless necessary.

 

[Married Buried]

I dislike talking on the phone and texting because it means I can't be physical with her which hurts my game. I also think it's more boring since I enjoy being physical and face to face more. Just keep calls short and don't text unless necessary.

What do you say when you want to get off the phone? Wonder what she thinks when I always am lying about reasons I need to get off the phone.

You can't just say "OK BYE" and hang up can you?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Who else HATES talking on the phone?

:wave:


That's a game all unto itself, avoiding texts, and phone conversations. Phone conversations are easier to avoid, since you can always be "in the middle of something". That's why whenever they call and say: what are you doing? even if you're sitting on the couch, scratching your balls, and actually doing nothing, then you make up something--------------------------> Give yourself an out: Hey babe (in a tone that you're happy to hear from them), sorry can only talk for a minute, I'm _________________.

 

[Married Buried]

I would rather text all day then have 1 phone conversation. I think she is going to call tonight and I am going to test out not answering and then texting back.

 

[AttackFormation]

What do you say when you want to get off the phone? Wonder what she thinks when I always am lying about reasons I need to get off the phone.

You can't just say "OK BYE" and hang up can you?

I don't lie about reasons I need to get off the phone, I talk to her for a couple of minutes and then tell her "man this phone **** is so boring compared to face to face, we'll talk when we see each other" and then hang up when I do pick up, or I plain don't answer. She'll get the drill after a while and ask why you never answer/never want to talk on the phone/etc. and you just tell her you think it sucks. If you want to be "romantic" then just change the wording from what I said to something like "I don't think being on the phone does us justice *name*, let's talk when we see each other instead".

 

[Married Buried]

I don't lie about reasons I need to get off the phone, I talk to her for a couple of minutes and then tell her "man this phone **** is so boring compared to face to face, we'll talk when we see each other" and then hang up when I do pick up, or I plain don't answer. She'll get the drill after a while and ask why you never answer/never want to talk on the phone/etc. and you just tell her you think it sucks. If you want to be "romantic" then just change the wording from what I said to something like "I don't think being on the phone does us justice *name*, let's talk when we see each other instead".

That's good i'll use it. I don't know how some guys say they stay on the phone for hours telling them they love them and all that crap.. that has go to turn off the women. I don't think I evewr heard a relationship working out in the long run when a guy was on the phone with her constantly. It has got to be like running a blow drier on her vag.

 

[LMFAO]

You need to set the frame in advance for any relationship.

I told one of my girls that I hate talking on the phone. She completely understood it and we only texted unless there was something important to discuss. She sent me naked pictures of herself once in a while.

Unless she was really horny of course. The advantage of phoning though is that when she was horny she pointed the phone at her naked legs for the whole 30 minute conversation on Facetime, other times she teased by phoning me after she had a shower - wrapped in a towel with one of her tits out. Then she told me about how she wanted to see my c0ck and that I shouldn't masterbate for a few days before seeing her and to drink pineapple juice so that it tastes good. She also said that if I'm interested in anal sex I can fvck other girls, as long as it's not obvious, and since it's just one time sex it doesn't mean anything. What a girl. :cheer:

Another girl I didn't tell her that and ended up talking to her on the phone every 2-3 days. To be fair, it worked out well as she's not a good texter.

 

[In2theGame]

Depending on the situation, I love talking to girls on the phone. I dont mean rambling on about Bullsh*t but maybe I have always had a way with words and charm that always worked in my favor of having girls riled up after talking with me. I dont know how i used to do it but when i was in my late teens, early 20's I have always managed to turn the conversation from normal banter to flirting and ultimately having her wet lol I cant count how many chicks i have made play with themselves on the phone either in bed, in their car or at a friends house. Ive done it with recent girls also but now that im older, i just hook up with them in person. It also depends on the girls personality, If shes boring as a door knob then it can get stale unless you spice it up but for the most part, If you know how to talk very flirty with charm, most likely than not you will have her thinking about you a lot after the phone convo.

 

[Married Buried]

Well I managed to talk to her for 20 minutes or so and then used the line the guy above said about "lets talk face to face talking on the phone is so boring".. She was like "well I like hearing your voice" blah blah blah, I had no response for that so I just said "i like hearing your voice too it's a nice voice" or something STUPID like that.

So the convo went on a few more minutes i managed to cut it off. I really feel like a jerk for doing that all the time.

I didn't answer when she called but she left a VM to call her and then she called again after 10 minutes what was I supposed to do except answer.

I don't think I handled the convo THAT bad but after hanging up I always feel dirty like I didn't handle the convo well, i think it's in my head.

One thing I love about this one is she HATES social media, she actually doesn't use facebook or anything else.. how rare is that.

 

[dasein]

Eh, I hate it. My career has always involved immense amounts of phone time and I've even had times in life where I had an anxiety type phobia response to a ringing phone, no kidding. I'm often on the phone when posting to this forum... don't tell my clients. My cellphone ringer is off 90% of the time. OTOH, if there is any aspect of my sex life that is true genius it is my phone work. I have had some truly amazing things happen after one or two phone calls from an OLD site or regular meeting, things that people wouldn't believe, over 30 years. So it's a weakness and strength at the same time, love hate.

So, what I have learned:

1. If you are good on the phone use it to close and use it generally. "Good on the phone" means "can you come over? Don't leave me hanging" after a couple of calls, or they start sending naked pics without you asking or wanting to do phone sex. If you are a "chatter" or "20 question player" on the phone, you aren't good on the phone. If you aren't good on the phone, use it only to make facetime plans. The way I have learned this is by listening to friends talk to women on the phone compared to me talking to women on the phone. Play to your strengths, if you don't make women wet on the phone, do other things and avoid phone/text.

2. When they say "want to hear your voice" it means they are struggling with limerence. Everyone on the forum should read the wiki page on limerence. DON'T LET THEM USE CONTACT WITH YOU TO REDUCE LIMERENCE, especially once you are sleeping with them. In rational man mind, you think you are doing good, giving her what she wants, getting her to feel more and more strongly about you. NO, you are killing attraction, killing it DEAD. IMO, every single contact that is not face to face with a woman you are sleeping with call, text, IM whatever, kills sexual response when you get together.

3. So, you have to talk to them some or they won't continue fing you, how do you do it? Be PROACTIVE. "I got five minutes break, and they are all for you." Give them plenty of five minute intervals to avoid 1 hour bleh. If you do this right, you only have to talk 5-10 minutes every other day or so to women you are sleeping with, and you can avoid the dreaded "goodnight" and "good morning" regimen, you can avoid the routine which is attraction killing andtime wasting. Call them first and avoid the long chatty BS.

Hope this helps.

 

[pete101]

i absolutely hate talking on the phone.. detest it.. doesn't matter if it's a girl or a guy.. so limits my options work wise. stresses me out.

a girl calls to check in on you to check what you're doing if she's been cheated on before.. she compares it to previous relationships she's been in.. also just to vent so you give her the attention listening to her BS. i prefer texting tbh because i can reply when i want and it doesn't prevent me doing something else like if i'm watching the game or something.

i usually just tell them i hate talking on the phone from the offset.. not that it matters they'll still wanna talk as that's what's expected from a bf but that's fine as long as they realise the reason i'm not talking on the phone or whatever is because i dont enjoy it and not because im doing something on toward.

setting the frame that you're a busy guy etc is prob best like LMFAO says above. gives you plausible reason to avoid their calls. but your behavior needs to be congruent always.. if u dont have time for calls then u cant really be texting back immediately either.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I had good practice in my days as a beta orbiter growing up as a kid on land lines... anyone else remember hearing your name being screamed out loud? "ISAAC .. TELEPHONE!"

I remember falling asleep on the phone as a kid. Talking all day and night Lol... new school and all that texting..

I love talking on the phone... wish more chicks were comfortable with it.

 

[SmooveMooves]

If you don't like talking on the phone, simply don't do it.

I don't know why so many men have trouble operating on their terms or their whims.

I know it sounds self-centered or selfish, but you guys need to start putting yourself and what you like first.

Her: But I like hearing your voice...

You: And I like seeing your face but we can't always get what we want when we want it.

Her: *Shocked your being a man*.....

You: Yeah, so like I said, I don't really want to talk right now, we'll talk more Tuesday when I see you.

*End call before her response*

You do what you want and what your comfortable with.

Don't want to talk on the phone? Don't.

Don't really feel comfortable visiting her family for Thanksgiving dinner because you think its to soon. Don't go.

Don't want to go to that Broadway play because, well, you fvcking hate Broadway? Don't fvcking go.

Your the leader of the relationship, everything should be on your terms. This doesn't mean be a díck, this just means be assertive.

Sure being assertive may lead to some arguements or disagreements but she'll respect you more for it.

And besides arguments and disagreements are healthy she craves that shít.

 

[Married Buried]

If you don't like talking on the phone, simply don't do it.

I don't know why so many men have trouble operating on their terms or their whims.

I know it sounds self-centered or selfish, but you guys need to start putting yourself and what you like first.

Her: But I like hearing your voice...

You: And I like seeing your face but we can't always get what we want when we want it.

Her: *Shocked your being a man*.....

You: Yeah, so like I said, I don't really want to talk right now, we'll talk more Tuesday when I see you.

*End call before her response*

You do what you want and what your comfortable with.

Don't want to talk on the phone? Don't.

Don't really feel comfortable visiting her family for Thanksgiving dinner because you think its to soon. Don't go.

Don't want to go to that Broadway play because, well, you fvcking hate Broadway? Don't fvcking go.

Your the leader of the relationship, everything should be on your terms. This doesn't mean be a díck, this just means be assertive.

Sure being assertive may lead to some arguements or disagreements but she'll respect you more for it.

And besides arguments and disagreements are healthy she craves that shít.

You had me until you hung up on her before her response. That is rude as hell! I like what you did before that though.

 

[zekko]

I hate talking on the phone period, it's got nothing to do with women. Most annoying contraption ever invented.

 

[In2theGame]

I had good practice in my days as a beta orbiter growing up as a kid on land lines... anyone else remember hearing your name being screamed out loud? "ISAAC .. TELEPHONE!"

I remember falling asleep on the phone as a kid. Talking all day and night Lol... new school and all that texting..

I love talking on the phone... wish more chicks were comfortable with it.

I miss those days so much man. I was fortunate to have my own phone line in my room so if girls or friends were calling me late, it wouldnt wake up anyone in the house. If a girl was thinking about you and really wanted to talk to you, There was no mistaking it, she HAD to call your direct phone line. Not that texting bullsh!t like it is today. If you called her and there was no answer, her caller ID would show that you took the initiative and called her earlier and if she wanted to, she would call you back. If plans were made on the phone, They would usually be set with less flaking because if you had already left, she cant text you that she cant make it or whatever. If you were on a date, she wasnt constantly on her phone checking, FB, Tweets or texts. Today, the young generation has it TOUGH! in dating because of all these obstacles to overcome. Like i have always said, Technology is a great thing but can also be a big fvcking problem. Women are easily distracted as it is, Throw in all these social websites like facebook, twitter with the addition of texts and messages on cell phones..... forget it, its a fvcking mess.