Which bible to read

[dcastillus]

I was wondering if someone would be willing to give me some advice on what my next move should be with respect to my current situation, I’ve typed down the break down of my most recent and most painful relationship below. I feel like I’ve completely lost myself and resorted to being an AFC, I would like to get my life back together and am not sure if I should start with reading the DJ Bible or the “NEW” DJ Bible with the intro by KillaPeteHog, I’m leaning towards reading the latter bcuz it focuses more on improving yourself along with your relationships with women, but I was wondering if anyone has read both and what you might suggest? Thanks in advance for any advice.

B (9/2007-1/2008): first girl I truly love(d) and am/was interested in spending the rest of my life with, started out fun, lots of great sex, she’s everything I could ask for, except the silent treatment (her worst trait), again I became too overwhelmed with school and living situation, couldn’t handle the pressure, again lack of CONFIDENCE to believe that it would work out and she sensed it so it pushed her away, again thought about her too much, the fun stopped and things became too serious, said a lot of stupid $hit, I really invested myself into the relationship and didn’t follow the HES or DJ advice I allowed myself to become too consumed in her so I lost myself and eventually lost her, lost my assertiveness and ability to put her in check as well as get angry and tell her so bcuz I was afraid of losing her (how ironic!), I will always love her, we’re still friends and I intend to keep her in my life and keep in touch with her some way or another (nothing creepy though), I learned not to get too involved even if you do love someone, it’s important to let out your anger sometimes and not be afraid that it’ll end the relationship, make your life work for you and don’t make too many sacrifices for her or try to cover up your lack of confidence by buying her all these gifts and stuff, BE CONFIDENT and HAVE FUN! Someday baby someday… Things I should probably never have said or did to her (remember for someone else): take her panties, look at porn in front of her and hide it, as friends after the fact not tell her (2/22/08) “I suggest you start thinking of some ways to repay me for the work I put in,” after having helped her with her homework (this may have killed our friendship, damn!) I still have faith, I think, well at least in myself…this helped me discover that I really had to start LEARNING TO BE A MAN!:box:

 

[Phyzzle]

The "NEW" one is shorter, LOL.

Seriously, it's an easier read, and it's sort of the "best of" from the DJ Bible. Try to find Pete's "Playa's Guide", it's like the sequel. Read that, then Anti-Dump's Machine if your looking for a wife, and maybe the book of Pook for an interesting point of view

 

[armstrong]

Where exactly are these bibles located on this site?

 

[KontrollerX]

Armstrong the link to the DJ Bible is near the bottom of the forum page when you are on the main board that shows all the forums for you to select from.

Click the "Don Juan Discussion forum" link in the top left hand corner of this page to get there.

Then scroll down.

Voila DJ Bible link!

 

[armstrong]

Thanks, I found it. But it's not exactly sitting there with bells and whistles on it. With all the references made to it here in this forum, you'd think it would be out there a little more. But maybe that's the idea. We don't want too many chumps finding out about it. lol

 

[dcastillus]

Thanks Phyzzle, I already started reading the new one today and it does fit my situation better, where can I find Pete's "Playas Guide"? The Book of Pook definitely looks interesting I'll probably read that one next.

It was hard for me to find the DJ Bible at first too Armstrong, you just found a wealth of information my friend, good luck!

 

[wjh]

Try to find Pete's "Playa's Guide", it's like the sequel.

Anyone have this?

I've never heard of it.

 

[Maxtro]

I'm currently reading The book of Pook. Lots of good information in there. I'm about halfway through it.

I wonder what happened to Pook and why he left this place?

 

[Interceptor]

Defintiely read the Book of Pook. Definitely required reading.
Anti Dump's Machine is critical too IMHO.

The DJ Bible IS a little outdated. But there are some posters here who have been sharing valueable insight and advice.

 

[Obsidian]

I wonder what happened to Pook and why he left this place?

The Great One has accomplished his mission here and passed beyond this realm. If you desire his continuing wisdom, you must seek out The Mill.

 

[armstrong]

I just read up until the first phase of the boot camp. I understand I'll be approaching 50 people and whatnot, but what else goes into this? Do I have to dress a certain way each and every day? Sometimes I just feel like bumming around in old jeans, especially on the weekends. lol

 

[dcastillus]

not necessarily

you don't have to dress a certain way but it is suggested that you always look your best so if you look good in old jeans go for it. the key I believe is confidence and getting over rejection, if you can master that you're well on your way to becoming a DJ and more.

So the book of Pook it is then, from skimming through it, it goes beyond becoming a DJ, thanks for your advice!

 

[Mr. Me]

Anti-Dump (you can do a search of his posts) covers how to weed out the problematic women in order to next them until you find a keeper. I don't know if he covered certain points, but I see a couple of them in your post, so I thought I'd check in here.

That silent treatment: that's a killer. It's controlling behavior on her part by refusing to work things out/talk things through via remaining silent. That is not how one resolves conflict in a relationship, so you can't accept that from anyone. That's someone you can't be with. It also sounds like you walked on eggshells around her? Again, long term, that's just going to make you angry out of frustration and miserable.

Maybe this is why you kind of lost yourself? I mean, if she was the controlling or rigid type, and you were trying to accommodate her, make her happy, you had to become someone else to do that; someone you aren't. And of course, you can't do that either.

Where a lot of guys trip up is in developing feelings for the wrong women. And falling too fast for them before they find out who what this women is all about. Then, when it bites them on the a$$, it hurts.

About keeping in touch with her, for now, it may be better if you don't. It sounds like you're hurting some, and any contact with her is going to set you back. It's going to prolong your healing process. If you want to be friends with her, be friends with her down the road, but not right now. Down the road, you may also find yourself thinking that you don't really want to be her friend.

Self-growth and developing yourself right now is where you'd do best. I don't think the answer is in learning how to pick up more girls, because the same sort of things are going to happen to you over and over again until you know better. It's like this is life handing you some lessons, now you need to learn what they were, before passing Go. Put your focus on you.

 

[Phyzzle]

Get it while it lasts. Playa handbook: pt.2 of Pete's DJ Bible.

 

[dcastillus]

You guys are absolutely right! Especially about staying out of touch with her for a while, it does feel like it's setting me back when I see or talk to her, and I do more stupid stuff to make it worse so I am definitely gonna stop that for sure

I also agree with having to do some introspection at the moment instead of working on women. Mr. Me and Technical1 thanks for the valuable advice I really appreciate it, it helps me put things in perspective

Thanks for posting the link Phyzzle I am sure that's gonna make a lot of peeps happy

 

[Phyzzle]

Okay, so this includes DJ Bile Redone, and Player's Guide (at least the best of those two)?

 

[Phyzzle]

Oh, sweet, you added some Warboss/Diesel style weightlifting advice. And the little comics appear to be intact.

 

[dcastillus]

Thanks KillaPetehog, :rockon:

So maybe I should start reading this one instead of the other "new" bible since it's up more up to date?