Where is the respect!?

[Wyldfire]

Why do you want to blend in here? It just seems like an odd place for a girl to hang out.

I'm not here to flirt or get attention and I'm certainly not here looking for dates...just to make that clear. I am here because I want to help guys have better relationships with women. I'm brutally honest about how women really think and what confusing behaviors really mean...and I try to offer very specific help to people who want to resolve relationship problems. Some guys have a problem with me giving advice because they hear "never take dating advice from women". In most cases women WILL tell you just what they think you want to hear, so the advice is flawed. However, it should be apparent to everyone here by now that no one can ever seriously accuse me of telling guys what they want to hear because I piss too many people off by telling them the truth that they DON'T want to hear. :woo:

 

[Wyldfire]

Titboy...your imagination is really running away with you. I'd really like to hear your reasoning behind why you think I would feel compelled to try to interfere in anyone's sex life choices. I honestly don't care. I'm just here to offer help with LTRs to those who need and want it. If someone is considering doing something I think is incredibly foolish I'll sometimes give my opinion or input, but that's no different than you offering your input about my son. I doubt you're going to cry yourself to sleep over what he does...just like I really don't give a rat's patootie if someone doesn't do what I think they should. It's their choice, afterall.

 

[MuayThai]

Wyldfire is without doubt, one of the absolute best posters on these boards, has been for years, and still is! Give her some damn respect, and grow the fukc up!

You aren't being serious?

So in between "Why do you guys hate feminists?\anti-feminism should be banned on this website because I'm more intelligent then men\Feminism is the best thing to happen to you chumps in the west so just accept it" oh and "Here's what my cat\dog\son\gold fish had for breakfast today"

Which post is the best on SoSuave?

You sappy chivalrous males need to wake up. Go and get laid, you'll realize it ain't the ****ing 50's any more. Chivalry is dead and buried. My honest opinion is, If you have one chivalrous bone in your body, one inkling of "respect woman and I'll be a man", a single iota of duty towards todays woman you are either married or not getting laid.
***** wants to act and be treated like a man, so be it. More weight off my shoulders.

No you dont, retards like clooney and other young impressionables youve bamboozled with bullsh!t all blowing smoke up your ass because you played up the "wise old *GASP* and with a vagina" role is not an indicator of a "strong writing style".

its the game hating losers who put on the fake knight armour and start threads like this is more the point as to why were even having this discussion.

Amen.

Neck up, do I sound like this clooney douche or a teeny bopper ? Save that sh!t for someone who's going to give it substance and merit.

Goes for all her other posts as well.


Wyldfire maybe you should take the hint. People aren't flaming you for no reason!

 

[comic_relief]

You sappy chivalrous males need to wake up. Go and get laid, you'll realize it ain't the ****ing 50's any more. Chivalry is dead and buried. My honest opinion is, If you have one chivalrous bone in your body, one inkling of "respect woman and I'll be a man", a single iota of duty towards todays woman you are either married or not getting laid.
***** wants to act and be treated like a man, so be it. More weight off my shoulders.

Are you fvcking kidding me?

I'm from the country and out here, we still got the chivalry thing going and guess what? It works like magic. The guys that cannot get any with chivalry is because they are selective with it. They only do it for the pretty ones or whatever. They need to do it for everyone and most of chivalry is just common courteousy, which will get you further than being an @$$.

btw I respect both of you guys for your opinions, but come the fvck on. Wyld and boobs use the ignore button for each other. You don't need to see each others advice. It will save the board arguements and frustrations.

comic_relief

 

[MuayThai]

Are you fvcking kidding me?

I'm from the country and out here, we still got the chivalry thing going and guess what? It works like magic. The guys that cannot get any with chivalry is because they are selective with it. They only do it for the pretty ones or whatever. They need to do it for everyone and most of chivalry is just common courteousy, which will get you further than being an @$$.

btw I respect both of you guys for your opinions, but come the fvck on. Wyld and boobs use the ignore button for each other. You don't need to see each others advice. It will save the board arguements and frustrations.

comic_relief

I agree, being a jackass won't get you anywhere with anyone.

This isn't about courteous vs being a ****head. It's about boys with no **** being nice all the time because they don't know any different.

 

[Augie]

To those who value what I contribute here...thank you...you guys are the reason I stick around (or come back after leaving) despite all the crap I've had to put up with over the last 6 years. If I help just one person with a problem they are having it's worth all the crap I get for posting here.

I would have thought that a true Alpha male whom is confidence in his judgement would be more than relaxed about having advice from a Women, otherwise he is an insecure little boy pretending to be a Man.

After all when do we snub our Mothers

 

[Wyldfire]

I agree, being a jackass won't get you anywhere with anyone.

This isn't about courteous vs being a ****head. It's about boys with no **** being nice all the time because they don't know any different.

Being nice to people is NOT what makes a man an "AFC" or causes him not to get the things he wants out of life. It's men who are nice to everyone BUT himself that have the problems.

It's fine to respect women as long as you always respect yourself at least as much too.

If you follow the simple rule of NEVER respecting a member of the opposite sex MORE than you respect yourself you've automatically resolved most of your problems with the opposite sex.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

What's more pathetic, the fact that you guys are *****ing at each other via the internet, or me reading the first page of it?

Fvck me.....

 

[Falcon]

I really don't believe that Wyldfire is being flamed just because she's a woman. Honestly, she is suffering from the same fate that other arrogant posters have here. Take skiptomylou or whatever his screen name was. He at times offered alright advice. The problem was he did it in such an arrogant manner. When you do that, it wont matter how good your advice is, you will be attacked. I really don't see how gender has anything to do with this.

Wyldfire can give good advice. It's just too bad that she offsets it with so much other jargon. It gets annoying having to read in every other post her strong independent woman speech. If I really wanted to hear that, I would go to a feminist or other type of forum. Besides, it has the opposite effect of making herself seem desperate. Wyldfire always seems to be boasting about herself. If it's not about her parenting pride, it's about her intelligence, or her good writing, strong personality, etc. Then when she wonders why people attack her, she concludes it's because she is a woman. She even refers herself as a 'unique' case. If you know you are confident and intelligent etc, it will show in your posts. There is no need to outright state it. Imagine if Pook bragged about his writing style (which really does stand out and is good). He would be flamed hard no matter how good his advice was.

Another thing is the audience of this site. We are males. We can't relate well with Wyldfire's mothering stories. Maybe she has this belief that we are all waiting for the next update of her personal life. But we aren't. The excessive details get in the way of her good advice. Really, unless it has to do with picking up women, people don't care about other people's personal life on this site.

Wyldfire tends to have this belief that she is godsgifttososuave and that she is here just to help other people. In reality, she can also learn from this site because it is obvious that she is doing something to get so many people after her. I just don't know if her pride will let her.

 

[Phyzzle]

Wyldfire does give great advice. Most women do. But the best advice is in their ACTIONS not in their WORDS.

By all accounts, she was an intelligent, great-looking 18 yo redhead who fell passionately in love with - you guessed it - a violent, abusive jerk who didn't respect her. She gave him 3 kids and the prime years of her life before realizing her mistake. At which time she was too old and burdened to be desirable.

So Wyldfire's message about young, attractive women is actually loud and clear. Actions, guys, not words.

 

[Wyldfire]

Phyzzle...I was never in love with my ex husband...I was a young idiot who thought I had all the answers when I didn't really know a damn thing. I didn't even know what love was until I met my fiance who died when I was 28. My point about young girls is that they are usually just like I was...clueless and very unlikely to have any clue what they want...and when they get married, most of them will not stay in the marriage.

I never hear guys on here saying I met this really amazing 18 year old girl who is so mature and focused who knows exactly what she wants and has cohesive goals in life. I always hear "I met this hot young 18 year old who I want to bone". My advice is geared towards LTRs and of course I will point out that something is a very poor choice if you're looking for a LTR.

 

[Phyzzle]

See, Wyldfire is a biological determinist (like Hitler)

LOL, are you still comparing forum posters to Hitler? That is, like, soooo 1997.

And this sort of thing isn't a "concious trade-off". If anything, it's an unconcious urge. Go with the guy that sparks your emotions (not necessarily buff), then undergo a deep, emotional change after having children. Just nature taking it's course.

 

[Wyldfire]

But, I guess your 18-yo son and his 17-yo gf are different?

...Or is history repeating itself here?

Phyzzle - If she's as smart as she says she is, I think Wyldfire must at least be conscious of it now, if not even then.

The situation I was in and the situation my son is currently in were two entirely different set of circumstances. I was not pregnant. The person I married was an alcoholic and mentally ill. My son has a child he helped create who is his responsibility to take care of. My son's girlfriend is a good girl who treats him well. See, I LEARNED from the mistakes I made and I left my ex husband when my children were very young because I did NOT want them to view a volatile and dysfunctional relationship as being normal. Instead, I left and got involved with a man I had a VERY positive, supportive, loving and cooperative relationship with. I exposed my children to THAT instead and THAT is what they view as normal.

There is a critical error being made by those who continue to judge me based on the mistake I made...they aren't looking at whether or not I hold myself accountable and responsible for the mistake I made and learned from it...which I have done. Everyone makes mistakes in life...some of us learn from them and don't repeat them (like me) and others get bogged down in repeated the same unhealthy cycle over and over again. I didn't repeat the volatile and abusive relationship...I moved on. Perhaps that is a lesson many of you could take from what I share on these forums instead of insisting on using it to try to insult me. I can honestly say that I am able to acknowledge my mistakes and learn from them...how many of you can say the same? Very few, I suspect.

 

[Wyldfire]

wayword...comparing someone to Hitler is highly offensive and unacceptable. I'd strongly suggest that you learn how to discuss things like an adult rather than using personal attacks.

Oh, and the father of my 3 older children...the one I was married to was not an alpha male...he was a perpetual victim puss bag. I didn't have any children with my fiance'. After he died I had my youngest with someone who chased after me for 5 years...he was alpha, but I never wanted a relationship with him. It was the only "fling" I had in my whole life and despite using protection...I got pregnant. He and I get along very well, though, and he's a great father...but I have no interest in being with him...we're both far too stubborn and strong willed...and we'll be a much better parenting team without any emotional history.

 

[wayword]

wayword...comparing someone to Hitler is highly offensive and unacceptable. I'd strongly suggest that you learn how to discuss things like an adult rather than using personal attacks.

Oh, and the father of my 3 older children...the one I was married to was not an alpha male...he was a perpetual victim puss bag. I didn't have any children with my fiance'. After he died I had my youngest with someone who chased after me for 5 years...he was alpha, but I never wanted a relationship with him. It was the only "fling" I had in my whole life and despite using protection...I got pregnant. He and I get along very well, though, and he's a great father...but I have no interest in being with him...we're both far too stubborn and strong willed...and we'll be a much better parenting team without any emotional history.

Well, I was only comparing you to him in ONE aspect. I think his wholesale offensiveness is what's overblown - because I can tell someone that he has a 'stache like Hitler, and why should that be offensive? It's not like every minute thing he did in life was "evil."

Anyhow, it is interesting if you had 3 kids with an "alcoholic beta abuser" and only 1 with an alpha. Then again, your choices become far more limited once you already have someone else's kid and it's hard to attract true alphas after that. Because no true alpha would ever cuckold.

 

[wayword]

The situation I was in and the situation my son is currently in were two entirely different set of circumstances. I was not pregnant. The person I married was an alcoholic and mentally ill. My son has a child he helped create who is his responsibility to take care of. My son's girlfriend is a good girl who treats him well. See, I LEARNED from the mistakes I made and I left my ex husband when my children were very young because I did NOT want them to view a volatile and dysfunctional relationship as being normal. Instead, I left and got involved with a man I had a VERY positive, supportive, loving and cooperative relationship with. I exposed my children to THAT instead and THAT is what they view as normal.

Yes, but you said they were already planning on getting married BEFORE they found out she was preggo. But either way, does not your opinion of such clueless young girls still hold? Why would her being preggo magically make her LESS clueless? Wouldn't it make her MORE?

And it took you 10 years and getting knocked up 3X to leave your alcoholic abuser hubby. So, I'm not sure if that is a sign of avoiding or making a big mistake. I mean, why date, marry, have 3 kids with and stay for 10 years with such a guy to begin with? Was he just...that good-looking? Good in bed? Powerful? Wealthy? Something's gotta give here...

 

[Wyldfire]

Why would I need an alpha? I AM one...

Yeah, my ex husband was a self medicating drunk with Borderline Personality Disorder. He was violent and abusive, but I wasn't submissive or afraid of him. I fought back if he tried to intimidate or hit me. I never started sheeit, but I never viewed myself as a victim...I'm too stubborn. I've explained in the past WHY I was attracted to him in the first place and why I stayed for as long as I did...there is a basic dynamic at play with people who end up with abusers and unless the woman (or man) figures out what the underlying reason was they will continue to repeat the same screwed up cycle. I wasn't going to be repeating it.

The last 3 relationships I had were with alphas...and my children were not an issue. They all either asked me or hinted towards wanting marriage...but I'm a commitment phobe...and tend to run.

 

[CLOONEY]

Here is a shout out, to all those mouthy little kids that pretend they get laid.

Sydney, Australia, is a big place, and I am sure there are a LARGE number of mouthy little punks who live there.

I will be there with my boys (and some absolute stunning girls) this weekend. Who lives there who claims they have game, and wants to see how a man handles a woman? This is for real, if you live there, and say you have game, reply to this. PM me, we will exchange numbers, and lets make this happen. This will be some more ownage that I put on some of you mouths who say "chivalry is dead" blah blah. I met several in LA, I met a few in Melbourne, and I met some in Vancouver. I am yet to meet anyone who is close to being a "DJ".

Funny how kids are tough behind their computers, but they are shy little boys when they meet me face to face. Its always some fun competition when I actually do meet some, so whos in?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Here is a shout out, to all those mouthy little kids that pretend they get laid.

Sydney, Australia, is a big place, and I am sure there are a LARGE number of mouthy little punks who live there.

I will be there with my boys (and some absolute stunning girls) this weekend. Who lives there who claims they have game, and wants to see how a man handles a woman? This is for real, if you live there, and say you have game, reply to this. PM me, we will exchange numbers, and lets make this happen. This will be some more ownage that I put on some of you mouths who say "chivalry is dead" blah blah. I met several in LA, I met a few in Melbourne, and I met some in Vancouver. I am yet to meet anyone who is close to being a "DJ".

Funny how kids are tough behind their computers, but they are shy little boys when they meet me face to face. Its always some fun competition when I actually do meet some, so whos in?

Clooney, If I take a trip to Aussie land, that is if I get pass security, I think I can be quite a riot and show the girls a good time!! Are they virgins? My approach would be different if they are!! You guys sell beer there, right, if not then forget what I just said!

 

[Paradox]

Another thread goes down the tubes due to fighting. You guys can blame X and X for ruining this thread


Closed