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backbreaker

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lol, for the most part working my ass off. 2 family funerals (grandfather that I never really knew and an uncle who I could care less about), soaking up all the horse racing I can..

As some of you know I had a drug problem.. Although I didn't use again, I came close enough to using again that I decided to become a member of CA, that scared my ass enough to where I really needed to get help. my GF goes with me as well.

speaking of, she's due in a month. Big as a house. About a 1 bedroom house as she's not a big person to begin with. It's a Boy. haven't decided on the name yet. might leave it up to her. I told her if we had a girl the name will be Chenal and that was written in stone, but as a boy I could care less. It's a new expeience. I threw her a baby shower last week, that was an interesting experience upon itself.

I've learned alot about myself since I've been gone. Although I was pretty I would like to think ahead of the game, there were alot of areas I lacked growth in to say the least. Stubbornness, impatience, arrogance and / or lack of humility. My head had gotten pretty big. When I first got here I wanted some self confidence. I had gotten to the point where I literaly thought I was too good to be around some people. that's not a good character trait to have.

My GF and I have gotten into one real arguement, basically about me not being home enough. I don't even have to tell you how that arguement went. and I wasn't doing anything, just living. Going to the track, taking care of stuff, gym, beach.. just stuff. She's pretty self concious right now and doesn't like to go out right now (although I think it's kinda cute being pregnant) I can't control her, but I'm not going to stay cramped up all day long because she doesn't want to go out. BUT that is my stubbornness talking. I had to come to realize that we were both somewhat in the wrong, and I had to make time for her. Other than that things have been pretty well.

Being doing alot of reading and trying to learn italian, which my GF knows and is tutoring me.


I came back because, lol, actually if you want the truth I accidently typed in the address and I said well, since i'm here, let me see what's going on. I felt like I can be of some assistance to some people and likewise, I still have alot of learning to do.
 

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This time try to be more of an honest poster instead of a poser. There were alot of questions that you left unanswered when you left here. In my book you seem to be a bs internet geek. One thing I can't stand in life is liars and you appear to be one of them.
 

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why thanks for your kind honest words my friend. AT least you are honest in your opinions of me. Not that I care. But honesty is a good thing
 

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Didn't you leave because you were exposed to be not such an expert on horses as you said you were? (nearly all the tips you gave were for horses that lost)

I thought that was the reason, but I don't care, I enjoyed reading your posts. Welcome back!
 

Too Many Women?

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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backbreaker said:
why thanks for your kind honest words my friend. AT least you are honest in your opinions of me. Not that I care. But honesty is a good thing
No problem that is what seperates men from the boys. I am glad you finally see that honesty is a good thing. Maybe your time away has given you the confidence and selfesteem to be real this time.
 

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Man I'm glad you are back and doing well.

You're the kind of guy the site needs more of.

Positive people that contribute and help new members.

Welcome back brother, welcome back!
 

backbreaker

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well.. I'll dispell the reason I left. it was threefold. First of all, I didn't take well to people telling me I faked anything. I have invited people out to my house who wont' come. Give my number to people who won't call. That whole breeders cup thing, I didn't have a bad day, I dont' know what the hell you guys were expecting, if you go BACK and actually read that post, I won 3 out of 11 races, which is lower than I would like, but it's not far off of where I am usually at. and I picked the longest shot that came in that day. can't please everyone

and that's my problem. This forum had become well.. too much. I like y ou guys here, but my freaking gosh, I shouldn't and dont' have to prove anything to anyone here. if you dont' like me.. good for you. if you do like me.. good for you.

but the question I had to ask myself is exaclty WHY did I get so hurt when people dont' agree with me. that is a real problem that I had to start addressing. I have validtation problems. I'm blessed to be good at a couple of things here and there, and I always want to be valididated for it, instead of just enjoying my own damn life for what it is. I wake up in the morning and do exactly what I want to do everyday.

alot of the **** that I did, I had, I HAVE... I don't even like, but I like approval from other people. too much. and when you do things you normally wouldn't do, buy things you normally wouldn't buy that you know aren't financially prudent, for no other reason than to impress people who you dont' care about and they dont' care about you (not talking about you guiys, just society in general).

MY GF likes me for me. that is something I have never had before. I honestly think she'd like me if I lived in a run down apartment.

2) I just got a woman in my life I am head over heels over and wanted to spend some time with her, she is 8 months pregnant. Yes i'm still DJin it up with her, she knows what's up, but i'm learning alot too.

3) Keotisix pointed it out and I ahve to agree with him. I can be a prick sometimes. And when an internet forum can turn you into a prick well.. you have issues. I had trained myself with woman to be this and be that.. but it's like it didn't matter if this forum didn't give me it's approval.


long story short, this forum had taken over my life and I wanted it back. you won't see me here as much anymore, even though I work from my laptop. I will be here but I wont' be living on here.


something else i had to learn, like the guy who told me I was a poser.. yoy ucan't please everyone. If you are up.. people talk about you. if you are broke, people talk about you. if you are in the middle.. people talk about you. so stop being so concerned about what other people say about you.

I really had to start learning to like myself as silly as that sounds.
 

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backbreaker said:
long story short, this forum had taken over my life and I wanted it back.
Glad to see your back, I vaguely remember you as a positive poster and I missed out on all the shenanigans.

More importantly though like many of us, you left and came back (a better, more mature man). Don't be afraid to share any insights and be the better man and ignore your haters. Heck even STR8UP has a pack that follows him around now and bash him constantly.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Man I'm glad you are back and doing well.

You're the kind of guy the site needs more of.

Positive people that contribute and help new members.

Welcome back brother, welcome back!

agreed... of course there are going to always be haters:cuss:
 

Too Many Women?

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Brother BackBreaker,

I've always liked the messages embedded in your threads and posts. For the most part they're positive and they have an air of authenticity.

They're not sugar coated or novels about your conquests. STR8UP is another Brother walking in those shoes who I want to come back and spread the good word.

Welcome back Brother.
 

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backbreaker said:
2) I just got a woman in my life I am head over heels over and wanted to spend some time with her, she is 8 months pregnant.
Oneitis, and welcome to the first day of the end of you life. For a guy who plays on odds with horses, maybe you could have used a handicapper to warn you against relationships and pregnancy. Talk about putting all your money on one horse. :crackup:

Keep up the good DJ work in that LTR, and if the sh!t starts going down, we'll lend a sound hand.
 

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whatever it is, I like her alot. and I'm not ashamed or feel any less DJish by saying it either. I like her alot and I am crazy about her.. isn't htat the point of doing this? to find someone you like who actually likes you for you and to have a mutally benefiting relationship where both parties are equally respected? at least I thoght it was.

however if **** hit the fan I am willing to get up and walk away. But right now I'm happy being with her.
 

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Yes it is BB. The purpose of this place is to teach people how to weed out the bad apples to get to that one perfect one.

What separates an AFC from a DJ, is that an AFC will fully commit himself to every women who comes his way, regardless of quality. Groveling at her feet and showering her with undue compliments and gifts.

A DJ knows what he is worth and what the girl he is dating is worth, and tries not to date low value girls. If a girl is high quality and is everything your standards and values could want, then treat her with respect and love.

There's a lot of 'treat women like trash to get women' going around these days, and while from first hand experience it works to some degree... The girls I picked up that way were always flaky and honestly, dirty skanks.

Just keep on learning BB, that's all anyone really has to do.
 

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Great thread, BB, it definately seems like you have changed a little.

Post pics of the GF! Lets see the baby... I am starting to get excited!

Anyways, you've missed out on a lot of drama! Loveshack Fiasco, anyone?

Since you have been a member here for so long, here is a thread you might find interesting as it relates to a poster outing himself, and swallowing a big chunk of pride as well. (Besides, you might as well get up to date...) Enjoy!
 

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Welcome back. If you and the gf can tolerate her being massively pregnant, which is usually accompanied by being massively hormonal, and not fight much, then you have a strong relationship indeed. Good luck with everything.
 

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i am so glad you checked in!! i knew you would:)
how is everything?
guess what? my brother and his finance are expecting a baby too... so good old aunt penkitten is buying out the baby departments once again.

in case we don't see you again for a while, congratulations on getting your life back in order, and being a great guy.

we love you brotha!!
 

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Sorry to say it, BB, but most of the love has been lost around here. Still quite a few great posters but it seems that too many people like to find fault and give advice where it isn't wanted or needed, instead of sticking to the topic and learning something in the process.

Oh well....me and you got things in common a lot of people will never understand and you know there will always be SOMEONE out there to give you flak.

Glad to see you things are going good for you.
 

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Its good to see you back BB. You have been missed
 

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thanks for the kind words.. I'm not going anywhere but I'm not going to be here all the time either. I have a life to live.

yeah we dont' argue too much. she has her character defects; being stubborn, she's a workaholic and has a bad habit of leaving doors unlocked.As I speak there are like 5 pairs of shoes all over the floor of my house. she doesn't like asking questions because she doesn't like sounding dumb.. she'd rather **** up her self. but I can deal with thoose faults. she has her pregnancy food cravings, and she's a damn horn toad..b ut ohter than that, things are going pretty well. we can sit up and watch horse raicdng all day and we are never bored.


this forum reminds me kinda of the book "the game" when at the end Neil looked aorund and the house just wasn't the same anymore.


I'll pass on this nugget of advice. As I previousy said, I'm in CA. one thing I got used to saying and learning is my thinking is what got me here. Therefore I can't diagnose myself. I knew I needed help, but when someone tells me to do "this", or do "that", I'd balk. Why? Myt hinking is what got me there in the first place.

you have people here who couldnt' score with a girl if she was the last one on earth, but they get here, and you have guys here who tell them to do "this".. dont' talk to women for x days... work out.. read a book, etc.. instead of listening to them, the'd rather question their authenticity, question their conquests, question this, question that, balk at this, balk at that, when it's that same thinking that got you here asking complete strangers how to get laid
 
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