Where do we go from here?

[raisinbran]

I was at a show yesterday for a bunch of local bands. There was a pretty cute girl there I took note of before being on my way to talk with my group of friends. Later in the night, the girls friend came up to me, handed me a flyer, and told me I had a pretty smile. I figured I could probably use her to get to her friend. They were pretty much inseperable, so It wasn't hard to find them later. I chatted both of them up for bit, although the cute one was a bit more shy, I teased her, she fake pouted, kino cheered her up. They kept mentioning how much friends I had since I'd introduce them to the bands whenever my friends from them walked by. So, I told them I better see them up close to the stage when a certain one of my friends bands came on. Sure enough they were there. Midway through the set, they told me they had to leave and wanted some way to contact me, So I just gave them my phone number, which they texted immediately. I didn't respond until the show was over. I told the one I had interest in that she seemed fun and to just text me the next day. She texted me first hour of school, I responded after I was finished doing whatever I needed to do if I felt like it, slightly flirtaciously. Like girls do, later in the day, her friend asked me if I thought she was cute, which I did obviously, although I just said that I hardly knew her. I told the girl I had interest in that I'd be busy, and I'd text her back later if I felt like it. I was thinking of texting her back late in the day with "I felt like it, lucky you. I don't like relying on texting too much. So, where do I go from here? and how do I crack her and getting her talking? I'd rather have built up some rapport before inviting her to go do something.

sorry for the length. Thanks guys. I'm getting it down, but i'm still learning.

 

[eaglez1177]

First off, you need to be more clear on what girls said what and what girls did what as well as who you exactly talked to cuz im really confused between both of these girls. Idk maybe refer to them as "girl a" and girl b"

As for telling a girl you like her, im strongly against that, and I made a long post about it in another thread so ill just give you the link to that. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1682704&postcount=7

 

[raisinbran]

First off, you need to be more clear on what girls said what and what girls did what as well as who you exactly talked to cuz im really confused between both of these girls. Idk maybe refer to them as "girl a" and girl b"

As for telling a girl you like her, im strongly against that, and I made a long post about it in another thread so ill just give you the link to that. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1682704&postcount=7

Woah, I guess I didn't clarify well at all. Telling a girl how you feel is a major no. That isn't what I was getting at.
girl A = one I have no interest in.
Girl B = girl who i would like to get to know better.

Girl A asked me if I thought her friend was cute. I said "I hardly know her"
I texted girl B back and forth for a short bit before saying I was busy and i'd text her later if I felt like it. I was just wondering how I keep it going from there enough to build a bit of rapport before suggesting we go do some sort of activity. She was shy and I was wondering how to get her talking a bit more, and where to take it from where i am at now.

 

[raisinbran]

Woah, I guess I didn't clarify very well at all. I never tell a girl how I feel about her.

girl A = one i'm not interested in.
girl B = one I wouldn't mind getting to know better.

Girl A texted me asking if I thought girl B was cute. I said "I hardly know her"
I was texting girl B for a bit before I said "I'm going to be busy, I might text you later if I feel like it"

I was just wondering where to go from here in order to build rapport before I suggest we do some sort of activity. And maybe how to crack her a bit so she isn't so shy. Also if waiting until later in the day to text her "I felt like it, lucky you" Would help or hurt me. I'm not sure if it'd come off too conceited although I know slight ****iness is a good thing.
Hope that cleared a bit up.

 

[eaglez1177]

Well if youre lookin to improve rapport with a shy girl all you can really do is try to establish a comfort level between the two of you. The reason why shes shy is partly because she just feels a little uncomfortable around you and this wont say much, and she may be feeling that cuz she could possibly like you. Some girls, when theyre attracted to a guy, get a little nervous around him, a little uncomfortable, and thus dont say much.

This one chick I used to work with was interested in me and she didnt even have the guts to say a word to me, so instead she just had her friends pretty much say what was on her mind. Pretty sad in my opinion. Kinda like bein an extreme afc except shes a girl lol.

Anyways, I would recommend a little bit of light kino to loosen her up a bit, ya know just get her accustomed to your touch so shes a little more uncomfortable. On top of that the only other thing you can really do is just try talking to her more and more, and just try to connect with her and do what I said above. But make sure you talk to her in person to establish that comfort level cuz talking thru the internet or phone will just make talking in person even more awkward and unusual.