When you guys do cold pick-ups...

[squirrels]

How does it work for you? Are you just naturally "on top of your game" and looking for hot women wherever you go?

Do you make eye contact first, or just go up to them and start talking?

Is it just casual conversation, or do you go up to her in a sexual state, Gunwitch-style?

Are there certain times you should just NOT intrude on a woman's state of consciousness?

I mean, I'm just about fed-up with the bar/club scene. It seems like there are fewer and fewer worthwhile women out there every time I go. Looks-wise AND personality-wise.

But it seems friggin awkward to try and seduce a girl in an environment that's not a natural pickup place. For example, you people talk about going up to girls in the mall...do you wait for her to start looking at something in a shop? Do you just walk up to them while they're walking? I mean, wouldn't that p!ss them off after a while?

Same as people who say they pick up girls at the gym...do you just go up to them between sets and start jabbering/asking questions? If it were me, I'd be majorly irritated that you were disrupting my workout because you were horny.

Plus, other people start seeing you and thinking, "There's that guy who's always trying to hit on girls at the gym" and when you get that rep, you get no more game in that arena.

Everyone seems to talk about "cold pickups," but even in the field reports, I hear few, if ANY, success stories. To tell you the truth, if I was the woman on the flip-side of a lot of these cold pickup FRs, I'd be VERY creeped out.

It's not like I'm in college any more, where there are horny women running all over campus waiting for some dude to approach them. What is the REAL story behind "cold pick-ups?"

 

[bugsquish]

I'd be pretty lonely if I relied on PUs in the cold light of day. Besides being sober (read anxious) it just seems too awkward like you said. I just love the club scene. There's a new set of girls every time.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by bugsquish
I'd be pretty lonely if I relied on PUs in the cold light of day. Besides being sober (read anxious) it just seems too awkward like you said. I just love the club scene. There's a new set of girls every time.

True, but at the same time, they're usually the shallow/boring kind of girls, so if you don't bang them that night, it's really no fun dealing with them once you sober up. Plus they move in packs, so it's hard to get any kind of isolation with them, especially when you're going solo. Not that I haven't, but it seems like clubs are more often than not an uphill battle.

I know I'm anxious around women when I'm sober, but at the same time, I think at least SOME of that anxiety is justified...not so much the being afraid part, but the hesitation to approach.

 

[MoAF]

Actually...

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=35877

Buddy,
Its not as hard as they have it cracked out to be. I've just begun approaching without eyecontact as a buffer, its actually working quite well. In fact, as long as you have a good opening conversation tidbit it tends to be easier to talk in a 'relaxed' enviornment like the mall or a coffee shop.

When you first start true COLD approaches, try making a scene. Be engrosed in a loud debate with a friend, then randomly ask people for their opinions. Or get your lunch and walk right into a clothing store and sit in the couches they have [like in ambercrombie]... when women look @ you just say "What? Oh I see, guys up before dawn, works all day, sits down for a bite to eat, and all of a sudden all the cute girls want a bite... its NOT gonna happen!" Then just smile and laugh and introduce yourself... she'll know your just playin.

Also, try luke warm [hehe] approaches - basically talking to sales people. Their mindset is already "be nice to him" so they will freely reciprocate/supplicate to your material.

Ummm, I'm tired of typing and late for lunch with my mommy , ttyl.

WAIT... before I go. What is this BS about girls in packs being scary? Honestly, if you present yourself well to the group during salutations/pleasantries[total of 1 minute] they will WANT you to hook up with your target. Be nice to them all, but make your intrest clear as day. Its not a club, they won't ****block you [usually] because they are caught off gaurd by your ballsy approach in the middle of Express.

 

[squirrels]

LOL everyone's all about the "coffee shop." Seems like they've become pickup places in and of themselves.

I don't drink coffee.

 

[THA REALNESS]

hi

hi,u shouldn't really care what pple think cuz really ,no gives a ****>

u don't have 2 b on top of ur game ,i've picked up woman with dirty-clothes ,unshaven,an afro,and a loose crown, dead tired from the gym and pissed off from fighting with room-mates, and i've seen other dj's in worse states do this and more.

There really is no game 2 b on top ,u just approach or don't .practice and afterwhile u won't even think about it becomes second -nature.

Eye contact,not really ,it depends if she has a ***** SHEILD on .But i do it alot i'm a good-looking guy so i use 2 my advantage.

u shouldn't approach a woman ,when she's in a CLEARLY pissed off.

An approach is always casual conversation ,i 'm just really lewd in real life so i don't alter it in anyway when PUing,i come off a s really sexually agrresive even when i'm having a "good-morning"type of banter with a woman.,

i like 2 compliment them ,even though many here advise not 2, try 2 find things in common and don't ask 2 many stupid questions,or talk about things i really don't care about,to b honest i totally dominate d conversation.


Practically no c+f and defintley no neg-hits ,i like 2 go kamikaze on *****-sheilds , and force a coversation out of her then just back-down 4 a minute or so and watch her that force -feild come down,as she starts asking personal questions,(VERY EFFECTIVE)


In general a PU don't even last 10 minutes , i usually invite them back 2 my place,or offer them a ride home and in the car ask them if i can take a detour 2 my house real quicK and "CHECK MY MESSAGES"
(very effective)this is quick and u'll only get a yes or a no.


other than that i try seem up-beat,i'm against asking dumb questions ,but it's usually my opener,"hi,where is blah,blah?,"

'excuse me don't i know u from somewhere"

'hi aren't u joe blow's cousin"

also ,make sure that a girl knows when ur trying 2 get her .i also try 2 talk about social events & places that girls seem 2 respond 2 (Clubs,bars,concerts)or entertainment(ususally ,music,or movies) it's fluff but they know what i'm there 4.

P.s. a girl that looks like she wants 2 b pu'd or a girl that seems easy ,always is >

 

[seulaxplaya]

dont see it as pick ups

thats the key to getting girls. dont see them as pick ups. when u start seeing things from that perspective. ok here are some example.

gym: u see this hottie working out on a machine somewhere by u. u glance over she glances back. u turn away and then in a lil while u finish ur reps and look straight at her. u then walk over to her and say. "excuse me. i dont mean to bother you but i was noticing you are not using the right form. u should try it this way and ull see better results." then simply walk off. by doing this she is thinking oh **** what just happened. then later on u see her again and be like. oh yeah sorry i forgot to introduce myself. then go from there.

mall: u see a chick checkin out some clothes. go up to her and be like either ud look really good in that or i dont like that i like this one better. go from there.

club: u see some hotties sitting all alone. go up to the table and just say who thinks they can dance with me. if u see one chick all alone with her friend getting macked on. go up to her and be like ive been eyeing you and u seem to fed up with being bored so lets get dancing. something of the sort

 

[Wild at heart]

Just use something other than "Hi...my name is _____"

When you think about it..talking is talking..dont see it as a "PU opportunity"

Its how you can transform it into a PU.

Try to talk to some girls without the intention of picking them up..itll make it easier, and improve your social skills as well.

 

[bugsquish]

THE REALNESS: "don't i know u from somewhere?"
That's one of my favourites! It's a closed question though, even better is this, "Where do I know you from?" Makes her think of places she might have met you. "We haven't met before? We have now ". Last week some chick saw right through it but she said "That's a good one, pretty clever" all smiles.

seulaxplaya: "If u see one chick all alone with her friend getting macked on. go up to her and be like ive been eyeing you and u seem to fed up with being bored so lets get dancing. something of the sort"
That works like a charm too. Often HBs go out in pairs. One of them always gets macked on or goes to the toilet/bar then you move in to rescue her friend from her boredom.

Outside clubs my game is pretty shabby, but I make up for it in the clubs...

Squirrels: "they're usually the shallow/boring kind of girls, so if you don't bang them that night, it's really no fun dealing with them once you sober up."
Really man, you can't generalise like that. I've met a wide variety of girls in clubs and no two are exactly alike. Plus if they're at a club in the first place it rules out "boring". I rarely screw a girl on that night. If they give you their number then be generous: give them a chance to impress you over the coming weeks.

 

[oreo_renegade]

Originally posted by Wild at heart
Just use something other than "Hi...my name is _____"

Are you kididn?

"Hey, Im oreo *handshake*" is the best pickup line in the world. NO ONE uses it. The girl is used to hearing stupid BS from strangers, once you tell her your name, then its like "hey acquintance" and she is automatically much more friendly.

Most of the girls Ive appraoched with that line had a look of surprise on their face. Like "wait.. you are introuding yourself..like a normal human being...instead of looking at me like a piece of meat and yelling out some stupid cliche?"

Trust me, a honest/confident introduction is one of the easiest ways to get over a b1tch-shield.

 

[Walden]

Yeah I'm with Playa on this one.

If you always go out looking to "pick up" your life's gonna be hard work.I think a DJ is someone who'se genuinely friendly.I mean every place I go if I wind up siiting / standing next to someone I'll start a conversation and find out all about them. It's just being polite and interested in people.

Now if they happen to be a hot chick that I'm talking to then I'll carry on in a slightly different vein, and find out if she's gota boy and so on ,so I guess that's what you mean by a "pick up".

But yeah I'd do that everyplace I go. The only advantage of bars and clubs is that there's scads of girls around to do that with.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Tips from a pro:


Walk up to a girl anywhere or anytime.

Then say politely, "Excuse me... Are you from around here?"

She'll say, "Yes."

Then you say, "Do you want to come out to a party in a few weeks?"

She'll say, "Sure."

You say, "Ok... It's on about 17th and 45th. I don't know the exact address of the place but I could just call you when I find out..."

She'll write down her number for you.

You call her in a week and take her out for drinks.