When YOU get angry..

[thebestthing]

How do you deal with it?

Be it a close female friend (I know some people advise against this, but I have a chick that I've known my whole life that is practically a sister to me), a 'plate,' or your girlfriend, doing whatever.. ditching you two days in a row to hang with someone else, lying to you, just generally being a *****.

How do you deal with it? Get angry? yell? Stay calm? Kiss and makeup?
Share some stories and advice.

 

[Hughman]

Most ways I deal with my anger now: Say very little, give a piercing icy stare to the person causing the anger, express that I'm displeased if possible, then when an opportunity arises, blow steam by running or hitting the punchbag.

 

[jeffthechef]

i used to get angry/anxious/sad when girls flaked on me

but then you realize the truth..

some people truly don't give a **** about you
you don't need a girl in your life to be happy
you should not waste any more time on her until she decides to respect you
anger, sadness, negative emotions get you no where

i dont think i've been angry, sad, jealous, etc. in a year

with that girl you speak of, i would stop talking to her until she apologizes...ditches you to hang with someone else?...even if she did apologize, i doubt i would give her another chance unless she REALLY gave it up to you

 

[pjtheman]

I'm going to turn to buhddism for this one: anger solves nothing, negitive emotions and actions only create more of the same

 

[jeffthechef]

haha and to continue with his buddhism ^

i'll add this. attachment leads to suffering.

So don't attach yourself to women, wealth, or even life. If you can release all attachments, you won't suffer. Of course, this doesn't mean you should live with a "**** everything" attitude. Balance. Meet right in the middle of the two.

The movie fight club is a decent example. I'm sure you've seen it. The guy is attached to his nice home, his job, his life. He ends up losing his home. Realizing his job wasn't all he was. Realizing he was not living life, but simply trying to survive. The guys in the movies do destroy many things; however, they make it a point to not kill anyone whenever they do carryout their plans.

What you want is non-attached attachment. Not attachment, nor detachment.

 

[tbhforever]

wait for her to want to hang with you
, then just go and end up going something cool without her,
later ask her what she did tonight and she may most likely say something like just hung out or something since you were her plans that day
and make her feel stupid when you tell her about the awesome party( or something like that) you went to

you feel sooo much better after and then it makes her want you more

 

[Furyguy]

I was actually feeling this way like about an hour ago, so I know what you're going through. They do that stupid **** and it's obvious they really just don't give a flying **** about you at all.

Part of it is to accept that they just don't ****ing care. They don't. Don't and never will. Who knows why? Women are impossible to understand. It will not be that way with every girl, but for many, it will. I can't ****ing figure it out, how she can care more about some prick she just met than some dude she has a long and passionate history with, but that's life.

So you accept that that's just life and move on to the next one. In the long run it really does not matter what this one girl thinks. Acceptance is the key.

But these are my definite quick fixes for when I feel like ****:
1) Crank up some music extremely loud and get really ****ing into it. Whatever makes you feel good. Personally I go with punk **** cause it gets me really amped. Last time I used How Could Hell be Any Worse by Bad Religion which worked just fine.

2) Read some PUA material to remind yourself how to act and how to live. Tonight reading http://www.pickupevolution.com/edge-hamog/ really picked me up for some reason and most of Pook's stuff would also serve quite nicely.

3) Remind yourself that she is the one who is ****ing missing out by blowing you off. Remember she is just some dumb *****, but you are actually a rare catch amongst men. Because this is true.

4) Finally, I just keep frame control in mind. I want to be an immovable ****ing rock. I do not want to be a whiny little ***** who will cry when a girl doesn't like him. Mystery says it best, "If you don't like me go **** yourself." Constantly remind yourself of this goal. I will not let my emotions control me, though I may be a raging storm on the inside I will appear as a placid lake on the outside.

That is my answer to your "How to deal with it" questions. Just act like it doesn't ****ing matter to you one bit. I think that, in most cases, she will respect you the most for this, and you will also respect yourself the most for it. Certain times you MUST take action, but learn to figure out what a situation calls for.

5) And lastly, the golden rule: Spin More Plates! The only one guaranteed to work every time, but definitely also the hardest to execute. Do this and all your problems will just melt away.

 

[shydude]

Do what makes YOU happy. Hit the gym, hit the club with people that dont make you angry etc.

 

[youbaby11]

I was actually feeling this way like about an hour ago, so I know what you're going through. They do that stupid **** and it's obvious they really just don't give a flying **** about you at all.

Part of it is to accept that they just don't ****ing care. They don't. Don't and never will. Who knows why? Women are impossible to understand. It will not be that way with every girl, but for many, it will. I can't ****ing figure it out, how she can care more about some prick she just met than some dude she has a long and passionate history with, but that's life.

So you accept that that's just life and move on to the next one. In the long run it really does not matter what this one girl thinks. Acceptance is the key.

But these are my definite quick fixes for when I feel like ****:
1) Crank up some music extremely loud and get really ****ing into it. Whatever makes you feel good. Personally I go with punk **** cause it gets me really amped. Last time I used How Could Hell be Any Worse by Bad Religion which worked just fine.

2) Read some PUA material to remind yourself how to act and how to live. Tonight reading http://www.pickupevolution.com/edge-hamog/ really picked me up for some reason and most of Pook's stuff would also serve quite nicely.

3) Remind yourself that she is the one who is ****ing missing out by blowing you off. Remember she is just some dumb *****, but you are actually a rare catch amongst men. Because this is true.

4) Finally, I just keep frame control in mind. I want to be an immovable ****ing rock. I do not want to be a whiny little ***** who will cry when a girl doesn't like him. Mystery says it best, "If you don't like me go **** yourself." Constantly remind yourself of this goal. I will not let my emotions control me, though I may be a raging storm on the inside I will appear as a placid lake on the outside.

That is my answer to your "How to deal with it" questions. Just act like it doesn't ****ing matter to you one bit. I think that, in most cases, she will respect you the most for this, and you will also respect yourself the most for it. Certain times you MUST take action, but learn to figure out what a situation calls for.

5) And lastly, the golden rule: Spin More Plates! The only one guaranteed to work every time, but definitely also the hardest to execute. Do this and all your problems will just melt away.

i really like this post. it is a great reminder for me!!!

 

[Blue Phoenix]

i used to get angry/anxious/sad when girls flaked on me

but then you realize the truth..

some people truly don't give a **** about you
you don't need a girl in your life to be happy
you should not waste any more time on her until she decides to respect you
anger, sadness, negative emotions get you no where

*As they say: two or three strikes, and she´s out!

I agree, just don´t bother giving her any attention. It shows she´s invisible, you won´t even acknowledge her.
Go on with your life...

Drop them COLD. This f*cks them up so hard you cannot imagine.

 

[eaglez1177]

haha and to continue with his buddhism ^

i'll add this. attachment leads to suffering.

So don't attach yourself to women, wealth, or even life. If you can release all attachments, you won't suffer. Of course, this doesn't mean you should live with a "**** everything" attitude. Balance. Meet right in the middle of the two.

The movie fight club is a decent example. I'm sure you've seen it. The guy is attached to his nice home, his job, his life. He ends up losing his home. Realizing his job wasn't all he was. Realizing he was not living life, but simply trying to survive. The guys in the movies do destroy many things; however, they make it a point to not kill anyone whenever they do carryout their plans.

What you want is non-attached attachment. Not attachment, nor detachment.

Lol I happened to be watching Star Wars yesterday on spike and this kind of reminded me of something Yoda said. Idk just thought I would mention it...I mean look at what Anakin's attachment to Padme did to him...made him suffer bad.