Been talking to this girl on and off for weeks. We have been hanging out about once or twice a week. First time I asked her to a movie and she went then we went to eat a few times..she actually paid for me a few times and vice versa. I met her thru a mutual friend. Shes cool but I know alot of guys are after her and I know shes capable of alot. She has alot going for her kind of.
Been playing super non needy with her taking it slow..basically if I text her it's to do something or me replying to her asking to do something I might text her once a week or she will text me eventually the last few times she has initiated..very rarely do we make small text thru text. I never say oh come over or I wanna see u and f u and all that type of stuff.
We messed around making out fingering jerking cuddling etc. for the first time last week.. All of that was last friday ..We spent two days together basically did some other things etc I went with her to do errands then went to go karts eat etc. That was on Thursday and Friday and she initiated hanging out that time. I left her alone the rest of friday, Saturday and she texted me first on Sunday night saying happy Easter then just a bunch of small talk bs.Didnt say come over or I wanna see u none of that and I have never acted like that.
Monday comes around so 3 days from when we messed around..I text her "movie?" At 8pm i didnt give her the movie time which was at 1015 i wanted to see what she would say. I didnt even care about going to a movie or even seeing her but I felt I needed to show some initiation to keep her interest because personally I wouldnt like it if i had to initiate every single time...she has the last 3 times basically. Don't want it 100% lopsided. Maybe for every 3 times I'll do it once kind of thing. I knew if I texted her there was a very high percentage she wouldn't go..but like I said I was cool either way going with her or not (if not I had a backup chick anyways) I just wanted to say hey I'm initiating because she complained she was putting all the effort into her last relationship and that recently ended..i knew she wouldnt ignore me but I was guessing she would reply with some excuse hours later (first time I asked her to a movie she replied saying she was asleep blah blah bhla but we did actually end up going 2 days later but this was the very very first time we hung out weeks ago.) I was right she didnt reply for like 2.5 hrs..she lives by her phone..she said "hey sorry was doing a photoshoot" in my head I was like yea on a Monday night? Lol. By the time she replied I was in the movie already with another girl.
So I thought I basically have 3 options to choose from:
A. I can reply when she texted right then and there while i was in the movie and say oh ok cool and nothing more. And she would probably think I was just sitting at home with nothing to do or maybe even wonder if I was in the movie.
B. I could reply when I get out of the movie around 12 to make her think I did go to the movie because of the timing of my text and she would think I took another girl which in fact I did. She already has a thought in her head that I'm a little sneaky/player.
C. I could text her at 3 am and say "ohh...I just past out". Make it look like yea I asked u but I fell asleep by accident kind of thing.
I chose C. I don't want to get into jealousy games with her that's why I didnt chose B and A kind of seemed like I was just sitting around and replying to her after she waited 2.5hrs to reply. So I said I'll reply 5 hrs later and make it look like I asked her then feel asleep by accident.
Got home from the movie at like 1230...around 330am i grabbed my phone and texted her "ohh" sent that then was going to text "past out" for the next text....she replied so quick that I couldn't type that I past out. She said "ur up hahaha" so then I replied right away saying "i past out lol". And that was it no more texts from me and no more texts from her.
I am not initiating now until she does with me if its weeks until she does so be it. But I think I played it right...thoughts?
Been playing super non needy with her taking it slow..basically if I text her it's to do something or me replying to her asking to do something I might text her once a week or she will text me eventually the last few times she has initiated..very rarely do we make small text thru text. I never say oh come over or I wanna see u and f u and all that type of stuff.
We messed around making out fingering jerking cuddling etc. for the first time last week.. All of that was last friday ..We spent two days together basically did some other things etc I went with her to do errands then went to go karts eat etc. That was on Thursday and Friday and she initiated hanging out that time. I left her alone the rest of friday, Saturday and she texted me first on Sunday night saying happy Easter then just a bunch of small talk bs.Didnt say come over or I wanna see u none of that and I have never acted like that.
Monday comes around so 3 days from when we messed around..I text her "movie?" At 8pm i didnt give her the movie time which was at 1015 i wanted to see what she would say. I didnt even care about going to a movie or even seeing her but I felt I needed to show some initiation to keep her interest because personally I wouldnt like it if i had to initiate every single time...she has the last 3 times basically. Don't want it 100% lopsided. Maybe for every 3 times I'll do it once kind of thing. I knew if I texted her there was a very high percentage she wouldn't go..but like I said I was cool either way going with her or not (if not I had a backup chick anyways) I just wanted to say hey I'm initiating because she complained she was putting all the effort into her last relationship and that recently ended..i knew she wouldnt ignore me but I was guessing she would reply with some excuse hours later (first time I asked her to a movie she replied saying she was asleep blah blah bhla but we did actually end up going 2 days later but this was the very very first time we hung out weeks ago.) I was right she didnt reply for like 2.5 hrs..she lives by her phone..she said "hey sorry was doing a photoshoot" in my head I was like yea on a Monday night? Lol. By the time she replied I was in the movie already with another girl.
So I thought I basically have 3 options to choose from:
A. I can reply when she texted right then and there while i was in the movie and say oh ok cool and nothing more. And she would probably think I was just sitting at home with nothing to do or maybe even wonder if I was in the movie.
B. I could reply when I get out of the movie around 12 to make her think I did go to the movie because of the timing of my text and she would think I took another girl which in fact I did. She already has a thought in her head that I'm a little sneaky/player.
C. I could text her at 3 am and say "ohh...I just past out". Make it look like yea I asked u but I fell asleep by accident kind of thing.
I chose C. I don't want to get into jealousy games with her that's why I didnt chose B and A kind of seemed like I was just sitting around and replying to her after she waited 2.5hrs to reply. So I said I'll reply 5 hrs later and make it look like I asked her then feel asleep by accident.
Got home from the movie at like 1230...around 330am i grabbed my phone and texted her "ohh" sent that then was going to text "past out" for the next text....she replied so quick that I couldn't type that I past out. She said "ur up hahaha" so then I replied right away saying "i past out lol". And that was it no more texts from me and no more texts from her.
I am not initiating now until she does with me if its weeks until she does so be it. But I think I played it right...thoughts?
