^ Word! Your "friends" might also try to tear you down, make you look bad or weak, reveal weaknesses and insecurities, etc. Those who know you best can make you look the worst. And they will, if a strong enough success is coming your way. That's the only time everyone is oh-so interested in helping you... fail, that is.
The envy and competition definitely comes into full force whenever "hot" girls are involved. Every guy wants to be the top dog, and isn't interested in seeing others rise above them. But most of them ARE interested in seeing you way below them, to the point of insignificance. And, they will try to tear you to **** if women are always focusing on you... especially good looking ones.
Any time a hot girl was involved - I received nothing but criticism and backlash... with extreme attempts to break us up, or pinpointing perceived rejections on the girl's part. The girl was always either bad news, or clearly wasn't interested. Never anything positive about me. Oh, but they could have them, easily. This, despite the exact opposite being true. All while acting as though they were giving sound, friendly advice. Most people don't care about that **** - only themselves.
In many instances, they simply want to sustain their ego by saying they're better than you. They want to be able to say things like "you'll never have a girlfriend; you're ugly; no one likes you; go hire a prostitute", etc - literally as girls are looking at you, approaching you, complimenting you, etc... which they will deny. You're just a nobody. You can also tell by the hateful / insecure / shallow way they say it as they're competing with you over everything. They might also bully you, if allowed. Some of them straight up get angry when you're about to succeed, and will say all kinds of negative bull**** to try and prevent it. The comments are all over the place - with the same goal in mind.
And that's all it is - an ego-based competition over who's better. They want to say you're nothing AFTER sabotaging your successes - while boasting about theirs. Like you said - just because THEY have something (ie, wife or gf) - doesn't mean they want YOU to. Especially if she's deemed "better" than theirs. Any weakness of yours is their strength, and they want to keep you where you are - so long as it's beneath them. Sad...
So yea, don't trust ****... Don't tell everyone about, or involve them in your affairs; seek their advice; or believe any negative criticism towards you... certainly don't be bringing girls around them, or even go out with them when girls are involved. The only "advice" I was ever given was to basically give up and be a nobody, because nobody is ever interested. Despite the exact opposite being true, and them knowing and seeing it. It was always cut-and-dry - with the intent of seeing me fail.
That's what you gotta watch for, as well... people generally only talk **** if a good success is coming your way; they view you as a threat; or you have something they want. The focus will also be in direct relation to your success. Ex: if you're attracting women - you're ugly, how come you don't have a gf, boasting about their girl, etc. Never fails; always consistent. That's their insecurity towards you.
For me, I just **** it all, and fly solo. Whenever girls are conversating with me, having a good time, smiling, showing interest, etc - I don't have to hear some jackass talking ****, and trying to make me doubt their interest, or my own capabilities; what I should or shouldn't be doing; if she's in my "league"; who I should date; etc. It's always going to be with THEIR best interests in mind - not mine. And it's always going to revolve around competition and ego, and a projection of their own failures and insecurities, and how things occur for THEM, and how they want things to be (ie, everyone beneath them).
So, yea... screw 'em.
