When women come back..

[Alex DeLarge]

What do you guys think of this. A girl you're dating seems really into you at first, then just goes cold out of nowhere.. And eventually you break contact. A month passes of no contact and she hits you up again with the whole "Hey how are you doing?" A conversation develops and then she says she's been thinking about you and asks to see you again.

This just happened to me tonight. A girl went cold on me a little more than a month ago, completely broke contact with her cause she flipped out on me over some lame sh1t and I sorta overreacted and insulted her pretty badly. Now she wants to see me again.

This has happened to me before and the girls usually just flake, but I'm thinking maybe I can salvage a pump n dump out of this situation yet remain friendly after. This girl was REALLY into me when we first met. Anyone else been in this position before?

 

[Borknagar]

Just casually talk to her but don't put a whole lot of effort is what I'd do, maybe randomly ask her to hang out, get her attracted, do whatever leave it at that. Most women aren't anything more than a short term ordeal.

 

[BarryMcKokiner]

Personally I love those situations. Especially if you're just looking for a pump n dump. This is where you can experiment. She's your lab. Push the boundaries. Escalate everything during your 'pump.' You got nothing to lose, right? I'm talking dirty talk, emotion talk, teasing, variations... basically being a complete freak. Funny thing is, whenever I do all of this they fall in love. It's great.

HER: "I've never had done anything like that. You're amazing."
HER: "You f#*ked me stupid."

This is when your text messages increase to the 10th power. So make sure you have the unlimited plan.

 

[Iceberg]

Just casually talk to her but don't put a whole lot of effort is what I'd do, maybe randomly ask her to hang out, get her attracted, do whatever leave it at that. Most women aren't anything more than a short term ordeal.

Basically what Borknagar said.

Don't invest a lot in her. But be semi-friendly. I've gotten a couple of lays out of situations like this. But usually nothing long-term.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Do you guys think I should try and go all the way or at least kiss close/makeout next time I chill with her? Or do you think I should just subtly build attraction and at the end of the date just be like "Ok, see ya later (hug)"?

 

[Iceberg]

Do you guys think I should try and go all the way or at least kiss close/makeout next time I chill with her? Or do you think I should just subtly build attraction and at the end of the date just be like "Ok, see ya later (hug)"?

I don't think you need to plan it out like that. Just hang out with her and feel it out. You can instinctively tell if things are gonna go down the path of sex.

My most recent situation like this was with some red head I dated last winter. We lost touch. Then I bumped into her this summer while she was jogging near my apt. She mentioned something about "Catching up.", so I set it up.

We caught up for some drinks. Then more drinks. Then some kino. Then I told her, "My air conditioning sucks. I'm definitely crashing at your place tonight." And from there, the pants came off.

Just "catch up" with her. But don't put too much pressure on yourself about it

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Word! Thanks for the advice everyone.