when was the last time you had sex?

[amoka]

Yesterday, I made plans with a girl to go clubbing. Picked her up around 11:40pm, asked if she wants to get drink before going to the club at my place. She agreed. When we got to my place, I opened couple of wine bottles and we drunk a bit. Earlier, I noticed her IOI was high so before she could finish a glass of wine, I go for the kiss close. She pulled away, then:
amoka: "you're not a shy person, are you"
her: "well, sometimes I'm."
amoka: " ok. then..." went and turned off all light. Then tried it again. Then boom. She obliged. Well, we spent the next 20min at my place listening to music then I decided we go out to the club. Well, we went to the club and then we returned back to my place after about 2 hours out dancing.

We returned back to my place and continue dancing, with the lights off and disco lights on, for about 15 mins then we went to bed. Forgot to mention, we kissed while out, and while dancing again. Anyway, when we went to bed, I began kissing her more. Tried escalating, ie... smooching, kissing, and she was moaning like hell. But the thing is this chick wont allow me to enter into her pants. I pulled all tricks from the magic bag but to no avail. At one time, she asked if "this" is all I do---taking girls out and bringing them to my place to sex them. I told her it all depends. Anyway, at one point, she asked "when was the last time you had sex." I told her long time ago. Then she asked when is long? I don't know why answered her this but I told her about 2 weeks. Then she said that is "not long. 2-4 years is 'long'". What's she thinking?

I asked her why she is not budging to sex then she said she is not ready. I am not interested in knowing why she is not ready. Anyway, why would a woman ask "when was the last time you had sex?" I got asked the same question about 3 weeks ago by a woman. Though we eventually ended up having sex.

 

[Scars]

Curiosity. I tend to dodge those types of questions. Especially the "how many girls have you slept with?" I've learned it's more interesting to keep it a mystery. Telling them you're a virgin (when they obviously know you're not) works wonders.

 

[ssj4halo]

how bout if she KNOWS you are not capable of having sex(maybe once or twice). As in like she got with you but she knows that you aren't the best catch, but good enough for her.

She asks you how far did you get with a girl? I answered(while in bed), I had sex with her(a lie). What do you consider sex anyways? She said in for a while, and then I said oh, then no I guess. I was in her for a bit and then she got unfomfortable and said we should stop. The biggest bs I ever said.

 

[Rho]

Telling them you're a virgin (when they obviously know you're not) works wonders.

FFS I do this too and yes it does work wonders! I told my buddies at work and they haven't stopped giving me grief about it, finally someone out there agrees.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2
NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonsetly reveal the number of women you've slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

The single most disastrous AFC move a man can make is to OVERTLY describe past sexual experiences and/or give a number (accurate or not) to how many women he's been with prior to the one he's with. This simple act ALWAYS comes off as pretensiousness and is often the catalyst for an avalanche of emotional resentment, if not outright emotional blackmail from an insecure woman. This is a rookie mistake that will only take you once to learn.

If a woman puts you on the spot by directly asking you for this information always sidestep this COVERTLY. C&F works wonders in this situation and still keeps the air of mystery and challenge about you.

Her: "So how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You're my first actually"
Her: "Really, how many girls have you been with?"
You:" You mean tonight?"
Her: "C'mon, how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You know, I really lost count after 50" (or something outrageous).

When a woman asks you this question she is seeking confirmation of what she already suspects - NEVER give her this satisfaction. When a woman resorts to OVERT communication (COVERT being her native language) she's generally exhausted her patience to be COVERT and this is a desperation tactic for an insecure woman.

 

[amoka]

Rollo, but how would you answer to "when was the last time you had sex?". It is troubling to be asked this by two different women withing three weeks.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Do they know each other?

 

[amoka]

Do they know each other?

No. These are two different people who don't know one another.

 

[DJDamage]

Whenever a woman gives me a question in which the info I am about to spill are personal in nature and could possibly be used against me and I can't come up on the spot with some good sh1t, this is what I say:

Girl: So when was the last time you had sex?
DJD: Nunya!
Girl: Nunya?! what does that mean?
DJD: Nunya as in Nunya of your business!

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Rollo, but how would you answer to "when was the last time you had sex?".

Fall back on C&F and steer the conversation to be about her.

HER: "when was the last time you had sex?"
YOU: (look at your watch or a clock, it's 7pm) Well I'm planning on that being about 10pm tonight.

HER: "when was the last time you had sex?"
YOU: You mean today?

HER: "No really, when was the last time you had sex?"
YOU: When I was 16. (or something suitably outrageous depending on your age)

HER: "C'mon, when was the last time you had sex?"
YOU: That all depends on what you consider sex. Does a blow job count?
HER: "Yes."
YOU: "Oh good, we should definitely have sex then"

The idea is that she's supposed to get the message that she's bordering on desperate insecurity for OVERTLY asking you several times. Bear in mind that women who resort to OVERT communication (rather than women's preferred means; COVERT communication) are generally perceived as being desperate or lacking control. Draw attention to this gently, but firmly with C&F.

 

[prairiedog24]

Curiosity. I tend to dodge those types of questions. Especially the "how many girls have you slept with?" I've learned it's more interesting to keep it a mystery. Telling them you're a virgin (when they obviously know you're not) works wonders.

It's all about just being ridiculous. In my case since she knew by my upbringing/religion/morals that I either am a virgin or pretty close, I just tell her that I've been with too many women to keep track of, and she's just another number on a long list. She loves it.

Works both ways.