when to call her ?

[MindNsoul]

Guys I know this question has probably been asked a million times already, but I'm a MEWBIE.

I'm about to order the Doc Love kit later on today, but according to what I've heard him say, the rules are not to call her on Friday or Saterdays if you've just met her.

The truth of the matter is that I've gone out on a date with this girl before and things went extreamly well. We kissed touched and she even let me crash over her place, but no sex. (big mistake on my part)

I've made the mistake of over complimenting her and even sending flowers twice since that one date.

but I realized that I was moving too fast with things after reading some of the stuff here, and in order to make sure I get this girl I'm now trying to be more of a challenge.

She called me on Thursday night and I did not return her call yet and she just called me again today (saterday morning) and I don't plan on returning her call till tomorrow night.

The plan is to tell her I was busy since thursday and if she would like we can do lunch or dinner on Teusday - Thursday (leaving my weekends off the table without explanation).

so my main question is (to only the experts) since things were going so great in the beginning and she expressed liking me should I have kept the 90mph speed of things? or am I going about it the right way now by being misteriously unavailable ?

Keep in mind the goal is to keep this girl for the long run..

 

[ufotofu9]

She called you Thursday, you held out, and then called again Saturday? Good job buddy. That takes quite a will. You're made out for this stuff. But let me offer you this piece of advice: Don't push your luck. Why not call her this (saturday) afternoon. Seems to me Saturday afternoon is made for laying low till evening. I'd call her. Chances are she's around and you have the excuse for why your just chilling instead of saving the world or climbing a mountain. Games are cool. As Seinfeld says, "games are the best part!" But everyone gets tired of Monopoly after a while. You did well so far, now don't push your luck.

 

[echo1212]

Youve made two huge mistakes so far. One, by sending her flowers not once but twice-inexcusable. I cant stress how afc that is. Secondly, shes you called twice and you havent returned the call yet and dont plan to until tomorrow night-WRONG. Theres a way to go about playing the game, and you're crossing the line by waiting that long to call back. I mean c'mon, busy from Thrusday to Sunday where you cant pick up the phone and make a phone call? A phone call is alot cheaper than some flowers. I gaurantee you she'll start thinking your some kind of game playing freak if you keep this stuff up. I know I would. To not return a call when your home and able to is just rude. Save yourself a headache and heartache later on and pick up the phone and call her today.

 

[MindNsoul]

yea, but I plan to tell her that I was out of town in Boston or out doing something completely exciting..

 

[MindNsoul]

plus I'm sure she's probably calling to inquire about wheather or not I want to go out tonight. but isnt' the rule that you don't make yourself seem so available ?

I mean, if she calls me today asking if I want to hang out tonight and I say yes, that makes it seem like I'm the sit at home and waiting on a call type kind of guy.

What kind of chalenge or in demand guy has nothing to do on a Saterday night ?

 

[jamesw82]

Hey,

I'm no master, but I think you're bouncing from the extremes..

I've been reading the 6 week bible and i'm getting a better understanding, something I think you need. I did something very similar to you by trying to DJ a girl halfway through the dating stages, and she freaked.. understandable im hindsight.

I'd say, call her today, don't tell her lies, because they only get you in trouble in the long run. The whole point about being not so unavailable is that it should to an extent be the truth. You should be out there getting numbers, working on your technique, thus keeping yourself busy !

Be straight with this girl, shes appreciated it so far, and she obviously hasn't felt suffocated by your flower sending activities.. slow it up a bit, go out there, brush up your technique, and read the bible!!

 

[MindNsoul]

James:

1.) Where can I get the bible.
2.) I was thinking of getting the Dc Love system .. U think it's worth it ?
3. Should I call her at a time when I'm sure to get a voicemail ? (like she's at work now so I'm sure to get vm) or should I call when likely to reach her ?
4. And I heard that there are a few rules for the phone.. care to share a few of them ?

 

[-k2]

bible link - http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php

I would hold off on the doc love system unless you just have money to spend.

 

[jamesw82]

hiya, there should be a link to it at the top of the forum page, but if not, heres the link..

http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php

Just read the articles, you'd be surprised how many of the situations fit yours or past ones.. !

I don't know about the DC Love System, sorry. Maybe its worth doing a search for it on the forum.. someone may have mentioned it before if its any good.

Calling when you're bound to get a voicemail I think is really good, because when you first met it could have been under alcoholic circumstances. If you leave a nice message on their answer phone - if they are genuinely interested they'll return your call which is better for the ego than you ringing up and them telling you they're "busy at the moment, can I call you later!" and then not ringing you.

Read the bible and search for links on phone conversations, its the only way !

 

[Bonhomme]

There are no real rules.

I've actually had the best results with gals I called -- or who called me first -- 2 days after the # exchange.

I say not to wait mare than 4 days for a first contact. Out of sight, out of mind. After you really make a connection (without sex), then and only then absence can make the heart grow fonder.

If you had sex or even went downstairs with her, ALWAYS call the next day -- unless it's understood you won't be able to.

 

[Walden]

I totally disagree with most of the systems on phone calling.

In the US they have a law for sales that says once you've agreed to buy something you have 48hours cooling off period where you can break that agreement.

So as a DJ if you'v done a good sales job , why give a girls a 96 hour cooling off period?

Call the next day!