When to call back for another date after first sex?

[jba1234]

Just had sex with this girl for the first time. Screwed her at night then did it again the next morning. She was with me on a "date" and so we just went to my place and she ended staying the night. We met that evening on campus I then dropped her off the next morning back at campus because she had class.I wouldnt mind seeing this girl more rather then less, but still do not want to blow it by calling to often. What are the opinions on when to call back after the first screw?

Thanks

 

[Tails]

easy rambo, lol. good man, you scored a lay. don't contact her until the following weekend. you never know, she might even contact you before! just wait it out my friend. she hasn't forgotten. if you contact her before the weekend, she'll probably start to think you're in love or something, that's coming on too strong. give it a few days! most likely she'll contact you!

 

[jba1234]

Just to clarify. This all happened on Wed night. Thanks.

 

[Jay Fiedler]

Well, if you had sex with this girl Weds. and you havent talked to her since, and you want to have further relations with her, you're blowing your chances of that ever happening as we speak!!

She just gave her bod to you, and your worried about playing phone games? One thing I have learned is this, and this is an indefensible truth, once you have sex with a girl and want to continue relations, they EXPECT a call within a reasonable amount of time. And I have no problem with that. Its just common courtesy.

Now, if you never want to see her again or just dont care, dont call her. But I have a feeling you do. So Quit playing these childish games and call her so you can tap that ass!!

 

[NRM]

When a girl has sex with you, the game changes. You need to call them probably the next day so they don't feel used. Like Jay Fiedler said, she did give up her body to you. Trust me, you won't blow it off by calling too soon. Too often is different, but you need to let her know you aren't just using her for sex.

 

[Hollowpoint]

"One thing I have learned is this, and this is an indefensible truth, once you have sex with a girl and want to continue relations, they EXPECT a call within a reasonable amount of time. And I have no problem with that. Its just common courtesy."

Agreed.


I suggest taking them on a fun date so they don't feel like they are being used for sex.

Edit: I lived on campus so it was easier to spend time together, plus my girl is great to be around with.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Jay Fiedler
Well, if you had sex with this girl Weds. and you havent talked to her since, and you want to have further relations with her, you're blowing your chances of that ever happening as we speak!!

She just gave her bod to you, and your worried about playing phone games? One thing I have learned is this, and this is an indefensible truth, once you have sex with a girl and want to continue relations, they EXPECT a call within a reasonable amount of time. And I have no problem with that. Its just common courtesy.

Now, if you never want to see her again or just dont care, dont call her. But I have a feeling you do. So Quit playing these childish games and call her so you can tap that ass!!

100% correct. You don't play phone tag after you got the bod man.

I ALWAYS send a girl flowers to her job or at home, whatever, the next afternoon and follow it up with a personal phone call. That's just the first time however, it would get old quick. After that, I make sure I call them somtime the day after we have sex, because it's just common curtiousy

 

[DJ_Dork]

well you're a little late on the calling back.. but you can still call her. go call her and tell her you had a nice time.. although IT IS really late. So you have to make up for it by being a little spontaneous..give her flowers or something.

 

[jba1234]

Well you are right on calling back too late. I just talked to her(sunday 6:00pm) and could tell by her tone of voice that things were not good. Basically she said she doesnt want to see me anymore. Also mentioned something about another guy and not wanting to see two people at the same time.Kinda hurts the heart because I had a genuine like for this girl. Whats wierd is it seemed like the start of a possible relationship. But just because you have sex with someone doesnt mean ****, its not like automatically you become a couple or something(im learning this firsthand). Im kinda looking for a steady girlfriend rather than some random screws which is why this situation kinda threw me for a loop. Whats also interesting is that this kinda happened about a month ago. I banged another chick and never saw her again.Im just wondering if I made some other mistakes along the way.But then why would she screw me. Since this is college my other theory is that shes just some girl meeting guys and sleeping around a little. I got some thinking to do on this one.

Thanks Guys

 

[Loke]

I'm with them. Call the next day, just say "hay babe, had a great time with you, let's do it again sometime."

Quick, informal. Let her know you didn't forget her.

Loke

 

[jba1234]

Any suggestions on how I might get this girl back again? I feel like there may have been something there and the potential for a relationship. As I think about it more I think there may be more to this than meets the eye. I have a funny feeling that something "happened" during the time that we were apart. Something that I had no direct part in. I found out today at college through a friend that she attended a small party where another girl that i had sex with a while ago was also there. It is quite possible they talked because last week that girl positively saw me with this new girl. It just doesnt seem normal for a girl to go from full on hot sex to "I dont want to see you". Hell, it was only two days that we were apart with no contact.

Thanks

 

[Loke]

If you call and talk to her and she's totally not interested, and you think you have nothing to lose, turn it around on her.

"If you weren't interested why did you come home with me? Did you use me for sex? I feel so dirty"

Loke