Hey guys so I met this girl in one of my classes yesterday, we end up hitting it off and eating lunch together on campus. By the end of lunch she gave me her #, and now I want to set up a first date. Thing is, I was thinking of calling her tommorow and setting up a date for Saturday, but in an article I read it says that it's not a good idea to call a girl near the weekend . Is this true or does this apply to longer conversations only? Also what's the best way to ask her out over phone, especially when it's the first time calling her?
When to call a girl to ask her out?
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TheSlasher
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These days, I no longer care about the when. I just a ask girl out when I've got something to do where someone could tag along, and choose who among the girls has a personality that apparently fits in it.
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If it's a first date thing i'll typically try to reach out 2 days before I want to go out. If it's less than 2 days, i'll just reach out and kinda feel her out first to see if she has something going on.
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There are no rules, man. If you call her up and she's telling you about 9 million things she has planned until next November, then forget it, it's a soft rejection. If she seems like she's got nothing going on, then suddenly cut the conversation short. You have to go (wink wink). You can't talk anymore, (you're setting shıt up) and you come in with: "but let's get coffee tomorrow at XXXX around 00:00 and we'll continue". See where I'm going with this? End on a high note, then continue during the date. Get her revved up a little.
Cheat Sheet:
If she says she can't with a counteroffer, you're good, you try again.
If she says she can't with no counter offer, you're not good.
In both situations you try again.
One more bullshıt excuse, and it's over, done. You Next her.
That's dating in a nutshell. Good luck and keep us posted.
Cheat Sheet:
If she says she can't with a counteroffer, you're good, you try again.
If she says she can't with no counter offer, you're not good.
In both situations you try again.
One more bullshıt excuse, and it's over, done. You Next her.
That's dating in a nutshell. Good luck and keep us posted.
Rule of thumb for me is wait until it feels "right". Date went great and she seems like high IL--> ask whenever you want, as long as it isn't coming from a desperate angle. If it's questionable that she likes you, be patient and don't come across needy.
It really won't matter much if she truly likes you. BUT you might as well play it safe by taking your time and being patient. She won't forget about you in 3 days if she had a good time.
Because she is in your class you should take your time. Don't be over eager to meet her because you have lots of time to let this unfold. When I was in college I would slow play any girl in my class because there were plenty of opportunities to talk and set up dates.
After college you need to act fast or else you will miss your opportunity. In college, move too quickly and you will blow your chances.
As for the first time calling her I have a few tips if you're not a big phone conversationalist like me.
1. Call a friend or family member and get into a chatty mood. Talk about random sh!t just to get into a state of conversation. It really doesn't matter, just get into a social mood. Make sure to smile when you call her, it will project in your voice.
2. Call her up. I usually start with "hey, how's it going" then I ask how her day was just to get her talking. She will bring up something that you can string the conversation along with. Once this topic dies down, get to the point - you want to meet up with her.
3. Use Vlad's method of suggesting a date.
It really won't matter much if she truly likes you. BUT you might as well play it safe by taking your time and being patient. She won't forget about you in 3 days if she had a good time.
Because she is in your class you should take your time. Don't be over eager to meet her because you have lots of time to let this unfold. When I was in college I would slow play any girl in my class because there were plenty of opportunities to talk and set up dates.
After college you need to act fast or else you will miss your opportunity. In college, move too quickly and you will blow your chances.
As for the first time calling her I have a few tips if you're not a big phone conversationalist like me.
1. Call a friend or family member and get into a chatty mood. Talk about random sh!t just to get into a state of conversation. It really doesn't matter, just get into a social mood. Make sure to smile when you call her, it will project in your voice.
2. Call her up. I usually start with "hey, how's it going" then I ask how her day was just to get her talking. She will bring up something that you can string the conversation along with. Once this topic dies down, get to the point - you want to meet up with her.
3. Use Vlad's method of suggesting a date.
Thanks for the advice guys and Sofomore, i get what you're saying about taking it slow but the class is a 400 person lecture so sometimes you might not see the same person for a while. I've honestly never seen her in class except for one time so I don't think I can rely on just casually running into her again. And as for her IL we both had a great conversation and had fun tallking at lunch, she seemed pretty interested although I'm no expert.
Update:
so i asked her out over the phone yesterday to grab coffee, she said yes at first, and then i told her that we should go tommorow evening at which point she said "ill let you know if my schedule is free" and that was it. So i basically i got a yes at first which turned into an "ill let you know." I don't know if she's basically saying no, but oh well at least I went for it!
so i asked her out over the phone yesterday to grab coffee, she said yes at first, and then i told her that we should go tommorow evening at which point she said "ill let you know if my schedule is free" and that was it. So i basically i got a yes at first which turned into an "ill let you know." I don't know if she's basically saying no, but oh well at least I went for it!
I call the second day. No need to wait longer if she's high IL and I only have time for high IL girls.
Don't make a big deal over one particular girl like what it sounds in your post. You will get more comfortable calling/texting girls to set up dates as you accumulate more experiences. Just do it.
Don't make a big deal over one particular girl like what it sounds in your post. You will get more comfortable calling/texting girls to set up dates as you accumulate more experiences. Just do it.