When they start talking about pubes and other personal topics

[killerasp]

i went to a 21st bday for a close friend of mine. i ended being introduced to 2 girls at the party through a friend. Both were blondes and easily HB 8,9.

The convo was very good, i used C&F alot during the convo, i kino'd and it was recipricated. Then the AFC friend comes by and joins the conversation. And the next thing i know they are talking about him and he starts talking about girls that he has crushes on. Alarms just went off in my head.

He started to talking about his feelings and such and his inability to get girls to like him. "i want them to like me for me" type of deal. It was DEFCON 5 in my head at that moment. I was dreading that i was part of this AFC discussion. I just kept my mouth shut and laughed at some jokes and made some of my own. I didnt want to go and talk about MY feelings because that would be a HUGE step backwards.

THen the convo turned into, "do you like pubic hair". The girls were saying they get brazillian waxes to keep it clean. Then they asked me what i liked. I told them straight out that i didnt enjoy a forest because it gets in the way. But i kept it funny when i was explaining it.

Now, did i do the right thing here? With the AFC convo, if you were put into that situation and the topic was turning into "lets talk about our feelings" type of deal, what would you do?

What about converstations that revolve around personal issues such as "personal grooming", do you give your opinion and to hell with everyone what they think of you?

Just for future reference, i want to know how to handle these situations so i dont fall into AFC/Friends terrority when i first meet new girls.

 

[Julian]

You answered very nicely, you should have asked if the brazilian waxes hert etc etc and how much they cost and how it feels etc etc.

Talking about how you feel about pubes is NOT afc lol. I mean damn man its just a conversation piece. I can see a sh1tload of jokes coming out of a convo like that.

 

[killerasp]

hahahah. good point. i just went with the flow. but when the convo turned into "lets talk about our feelings" i just felt like taking a step back. how do you think you would handle this situation if you were stuck in the middle.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You could have told them that you have yet to visit Brazil but would enjoy seeing one of their types of wax jobs.

As for the 'feelings' conversation, you could have excused yourself from the conversation by asking one of the HBs if you could talk to them privately.

 

[Golden Arms]

I think you handled it real well - by separating yourself from your AFC buddy. So what hapenned - did you get their digits or what ?

 

[B9]

sounds like you were trying maybe a bit too hard NOT to talk about emotional stuff ('hey, I know a good joke!'). If they consciously brand yu as being superficial, that really brings down your chances.

All you want to do is to NOT pour out your own emotional stuff on them, and in turn, avoid being their spunge for their emtional outpours. Avoid that and you should be just fine even if emotional stuff come up.

When he was crying his eyes out about 'I want them to like me for being me' I would just have said something along the lines of 'what if that 'me' happens to be selfcentered and rather pathetic. (no offence, mate). Personally, I would always want to work on improving myself, so why shouldn't my girlfriend?"

I don't know, I get more eloquent when I am in the spur of the moment, so you might want to think of something else.

 

[NewMan]

If you felt the convo was going AFC - you could always left for the restroom then came back.