When they come back, do you call them on their ****?

[TheCWord]

An old oneitis of mine has recently started texting me again. I'm over the heavy feelings I had for her once upon a time, but I wouldn't completely rule out grabbing a coffee at some point.

We've sent a few texts back and forth and her behavior that caused me to next her has not been brought up in conversation... She's just carrying on as if nothing happened...

It didn't really bother me because we were just sending innocuous texts and I was half-heartedly participating. But now after a few days of not texting, she's at a party tonight and texts me, "wish you were here."

Here's how I feel: The total lack of interest and rudeness she showed to me a year ago when I made my intentions known VOIDS her right to send me texts like that.

The question is, when you guys have been in situations like this, do you call them on that or do you just keep distant until she brings it up on her own? The thing is this girl is making an effort to reconnect, great, but I can't hang out with her and pretend like everything's normal - I'd first have to hear some sort of contrition. The question is can I be the one to bring up the topic and be like, "Hey, remember when you acted like you didn't give a ****?"

 

[VladPatton]

She obviously got back to you after riding the cὀck carousel. Looks like what goes around really comes around. She exhausted all her penis options and she came back to you to fill the recent void. This undoubtedly shows someone's crap character. I'd be disgusted with her at this point, but you can use this to your advantage.

So, for the resolution (what I'd do in your shoes):

No, don't call her out on it. Let her bring it up. You don't need to be Mr. Nice Guy in the meantime, fück her and her cutesy party texts. And when the topic does come up hit the nuke button on the biznitch. Tell her all that's on your mind. Do it in a calm manner, stoic even. Don't hold back. See, she is thinking of charming her way back into your life because after all, she is dry at the moment. Fear not, for she will drop your ass in an instant when another guy makes her vag tingle and the cycle of shıt will repeat for you while she is out galavanting with New Dude.

I agree that she cannot assume you're just gonna be cool with her bullshıt out of the blue. GTFOOH!

Wait like a cat in the wild and pounce when the moment comes, it'll be well worth it if you have it in you. Don't fall for her fakery, she burned you once before.

 

[JoeMarron]

Calling out chicks is pointless.

 

[JohnChops]

Interesting my one it is did the same thing recently . I say stay NC. No point in dealing with trash plus even if your feelings are gone this girl had a huge pull on you at one point. Feelings have memory. They will come back. Tread carefully bud.

 

[dvjackson]

If she actually did something to hurt you, sure, calling her out is totally appropriate.

But all you said was she showed "a lack of interest and rudeness", and this was a year ago... calling her out on something so seemingly minor seems petty to me. It does however mean that it's doubly important to make her work for your attention and to not just fall into her lap.

 

[Vigs]

Forget her. It is so much easier to find a new one who you dont have past history of failure with than it is to work something out with an ex.

You said you dont have feelings for her. So just wase on down the road.

 

[floydb25]

Nah... just treat them like anyone else you have little to no interest in + dislike for whatever reason... don't even act friendly or open... respond sparringly, if at all... don't meet up... if you see them, avoid and act disinterested... always make everything a priority over them... they disrespected you; you dont need them in your life. If they start to annoy / nag or act aggressive, tell them straight up you don't want anything to do with them. Some people require assertiveness / think they can have their way with you, and get away with anything they want; knowing you'll accept it, not say anything against them, and come back for more. Never be a chump, and don't let people charm their way into your life, or settle with losers out of loneliness (including friendships). Don't fall for guilt trips, or explain the situation to them - only to argue pointlessly. Just say you're not interested; you don't along; whatever. But do something to signify your disinterest - even if indirectly.

 

[r0cky]

Dude, its happened A YEAR ago. Get over it. If you call her out she will know you're a pu55y who easily gets his feelings hurt and keeps grouches. This subcommunicates your lack of alphaness. Only guys with weak personalities and sensitive egos feel "disrespected" by a woman. YOU ARE ABOVE WOMEN. Treat their offenses like you would those of 5 year old who "disrespects you", you laugh it off (and continue to pursue her if you still feel like you wanna F^ck her). You must not take it personally.

Act like nothing happened, just treat her as the ugly girl who likes you. Dont pay too much attention to her but at the same time treat her like a person and not like some sort of enemy. If you dont listen to my advice not only will you not bang this girl (which obviously you want to do otherwise you wouldnt spend precious time and energy writing a thread about her) but you will continue to miss opportunities with other girls.

 

[r0cky]

Calling out chicks is pointless.

Finally someone with a voice of reason. Not only is it pointless but most of the time it backfires. Calling out a girl because she didnt return your calls? are you f*king serious? Unless you're going out with the chick one never has the right to call out a girl, no matter how bad she bruised your little sensitive ego.

 

[plate's_empty]

This is a tough one. My ex tried doing this to me, I fell for it. Same thing, started out as coffee, "we can be friends right". It got to the point where I felt all she wanted me for was to be one of her many orbiters. I put up with some of her sh1t when we were going out but I had a limit and she knew it. I beat her in the end (the game) and dropped her crazy a$$. Since then she's been trying to pull me back in with this and that. A couple of times I walked the line to see where it would lead...and guess what...same old crazy game playing bull$hit.

To call her out or to not call her out. That is the question. It's your oneitis so it's a tough call. If you want to make a stand (I wish I would have done this) just go NC on her....out of the blue. If you're having an Okay texting session right now then just drop her a$$. Leave her in the dust. Her hampster will start spinning and, if she really wants to be with you, she'll think about the dumb $hit she used to do and bring it up and apologize.

And that'll be a start.

 

[bigneil]

As r0cky said, you look silly still caring after a year. Also, she should apologize on her own if you do bring it up. You don't have to whine about it, but some time it will get naturally mentioned. My oneitis said "I was just being a b*tch" - a year later.

 

[visions]

She exhausted all her penis options and she came back to you to fill the recent void.

pun intended?

 

[TheCWord]

Every response in here is great. Thanks, guys. I'm going to bookmark this one for sure.

FYI, I never replied to that text and don't think I ever will... seems like a good note to go out on

 

[JohnChops]

Every response in here is great. Thanks, guys. I'm going to bookmark this one for sure.

FYI, I never replied to that text and don't think I ever will... seems like a good note to go out on

good stuff brotha

 

[Megaman XIV]

Calling her out on her sh*t, especially from a year ago will result in no good for you.

 

[expos]

She disrespected your desire for her initially, now, it's hard to know what she wants for sure unless you play her a bit.

She may want to reel you back in for attention, or she may regret her decision and now want to give you a shot.

Your best course of action? Don't call her out. She will only rationalize away how you are an awful person and she was right in not giving you that chance you wanted.

Personally I would stay cool and treat her like a new plate. Flirt and tease but never go beyond that. Do not ask her out, don't try and get together with her. Just flirt and tease via text, with the occassional non-tease comment to keep from overgaming. In other words, be playful and fun. Eventually she will pursue you.

When she pursues you, don't bite the bait.....and don't say "last time you blah blah blah"......just laugh. She will try harder.

Finally, when she is frustrated, she will overtly make her intentions known. She will apologize for being a b1tch before and say how she regrets passing you up the first time, how she wants to date you and how great you would be together. Then and only then will you go out with her, fvk her, and fvk her again. Never commit to her. Just keep fvking her. When she wants more than fvking, you disappear.....never to be heard from again.

Warning: Do not attempt this unless you have a rock-hard shriveled black heart that would make the grinch cry out in painful tears of beta flubbery. Manginas will melt long before this process culminates. This process works. I know, I have done it several times myself.

This is the business right here. Great game if you can pull this one off!