I have done this for a long time, I think it's because I enjoy the chase. When a girl calls me often and acts flirty and I know I have her, I lose interest. But if this same girl stops calling and becomes aloof, I begin to get nervous and go semi-AFC. Any of you ever do this?
When they are interested, I'm not. When they aren't I am.
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Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
My last chick i did that with....(couple months ago)
In the beggining i liked her alot but then she totally acted like a ***** to me!!!
She wanted me to ask her to prom but i had NO intentions in asking her and i ended up going with another chick and had a GREAT TIME!!!
she later confessed she wanted me by this time i was totally over this B.!tch....
I hate it it's annoying
In the beggining i liked her alot but then she totally acted like a ***** to me!!!
She wanted me to ask her to prom but i had NO intentions in asking her and i ended up going with another chick and had a GREAT TIME!!!
she later confessed she wanted me by this time i was totally over this B.!tch....
I hate it it's annoying
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
This is a vague issue but if you act like a immature boy - that's going to turn her off. And if she acts like an immature girl that's going to turn you off.
meh i've been there many times. Strange that human beings value something more when it isnt available to them. The girl does this to me, then i end up doing it back to them. Not on purpose though, perhaps more of a psychological reasoning behind it. That's why a lot of times it's difficult to measure someone's IL, either theyre not interested or theyre playing hard to get.
But the thing i wonder is, are we/they really attracted/interested in the person. Or are we just using it as an excuse to feed our ego [to attain the unattainable]?
But the thing i wonder is, are we/they really attracted/interested in the person. Or are we just using it as an excuse to feed our ego [to attain the unattainable]?
It sounds to me like OP is causing his own failure. Of the ones that dig you, start dating & fooking the best one (or 2 if that's your thing). If something better comes along, upgrade. Pining away for what you can't have is what chicks do & you see how well it works for THEM.
Boss, don't you see... that is what it's all about.
When your not interested your game is in full swing you are confident because your not afraid to loose. You present yourself as someone that she needs to impress, because you don't care.
When your interested you try too hard. You second guess your game. Your affriad of comming off wrong. You worry that she isn't going reconise your self worth, so you throw it in her face. And you give away all your power.
First off calibrate your senses, guys want a challenge and we want to show off. Every one of us here has had a beautifull girl throw herself at us or open us up and 1/4 of the effort that we exert weekly at the bar would have lead to an awsome realationship, but there was not one around to witness, or we assume that if she is opening us up than there must be a fault that we don't see quite yet. Instead we wait until Friday and dash into the middle of a set with 10 other guys working their best game, just to show our skills.
Gents, the greatest truth, possibly the most dishartenting, is how superficial women are. They don't care very much what you look like. They care much more about how you present yourself. They flock to the guys that most men would consider to be loosers. Men in evaluating other men take time to figure out who a quality/ honorable man is. It would take you many weeks before I would consider you a friend. Women need to make that judgement on the fly. What I am saying is that perhaps the wise DJ avoids the obvious 10 and instead focuses on the low hanging fruit. Find the 10 in 7's clothing. Find the 10 that you wait for the bus with, or who feels a little chatty in line a dunkin Donuts. This girl is more likely to realise that beauty is just a trait like brown hair or strong eye contact. that has no practical purpose, and only draws superficial attention.
To draw out an already overdrawn point. You see the world how it is. You see women falling for loosers simply because the know how to attract. Don't make the same mistake yourself.
When your not interested your game is in full swing you are confident because your not afraid to loose. You present yourself as someone that she needs to impress, because you don't care.
When your interested you try too hard. You second guess your game. Your affriad of comming off wrong. You worry that she isn't going reconise your self worth, so you throw it in her face. And you give away all your power.
First off calibrate your senses, guys want a challenge and we want to show off. Every one of us here has had a beautifull girl throw herself at us or open us up and 1/4 of the effort that we exert weekly at the bar would have lead to an awsome realationship, but there was not one around to witness, or we assume that if she is opening us up than there must be a fault that we don't see quite yet. Instead we wait until Friday and dash into the middle of a set with 10 other guys working their best game, just to show our skills.
Gents, the greatest truth, possibly the most dishartenting, is how superficial women are. They don't care very much what you look like. They care much more about how you present yourself. They flock to the guys that most men would consider to be loosers. Men in evaluating other men take time to figure out who a quality/ honorable man is. It would take you many weeks before I would consider you a friend. Women need to make that judgement on the fly. What I am saying is that perhaps the wise DJ avoids the obvious 10 and instead focuses on the low hanging fruit. Find the 10 in 7's clothing. Find the 10 that you wait for the bus with, or who feels a little chatty in line a dunkin Donuts. This girl is more likely to realise that beauty is just a trait like brown hair or strong eye contact. that has no practical purpose, and only draws superficial attention.
To draw out an already overdrawn point. You see the world how it is. You see women falling for loosers simply because the know how to attract. Don't make the same mistake yourself.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
that actually happend to me today
scenario "about to go in to class"
The chick was a hb7 with body but as soon as i heard her voice i was annoyed, before this encounter i wanted to F*ck her but after that she was of the radar...
BM:Hey you ready for class?
Hb7:
oh no!! im kinda scared for the quiz what about you
BM:Nah not really,i just wanna get it over with
Hb7:Your a good student though she always calls on you!!
BM:well if i really tried i could get A's but i'd rather just stick in my B range
Hb7:
(smiles)
Now i'm as AFC as the next guy(for now) but it seems that acting like your totally not interested will turn girls on...just being you and not trying to impress her at all...that's how the last crush i had started to fall for me when i lost interest
but i still really hate it...but at the same time kinda cool
scenario "about to go in to class"
The chick was a hb7 with body but as soon as i heard her voice i was annoyed, before this encounter i wanted to F*ck her but after that she was of the radar...
BM:Hey you ready for class?
Hb7:
oh no!! im kinda scared for the quiz what about you
BM:Nah not really,i just wanna get it over with
Hb7:Your a good student though she always calls on you!!
BM:well if i really tried i could get A's but i'd rather just stick in my B range
Hb7:
(smiles)
Now i'm as AFC as the next guy(for now) but it seems that acting like your totally not interested will turn girls on...just being you and not trying to impress her at all...that's how the last crush i had started to fall for me when i lost interest
but i still really hate it...but at the same time kinda cool
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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Don Juan
I'm trying to figure out whether I don't care or just saying that to convince myself.
After all the reading, boot camp drills, weight lifting, wardrobe upgrade, focusing on my career, etc...I just don't view these girls the same. It's like I resent them for being attracted to me because I don't believe they really are. They just are attracted to an image or perception of me, plus I happen to say/do the right things to peak interest.
I'm thinking too much, my apathy helps my game, but when I feel like this I don't want to game.
F it, I'll do it anyway...
After all the reading, boot camp drills, weight lifting, wardrobe upgrade, focusing on my career, etc...I just don't view these girls the same. It's like I resent them for being attracted to me because I don't believe they really are. They just are attracted to an image or perception of me, plus I happen to say/do the right things to peak interest.
I'm thinking too much, my apathy helps my game, but when I feel like this I don't want to game.
F it, I'll do it anyway...
It's all human nature....We want what we can't have easily. You are being challenging and maintaining self control.
You are doing the push and pull technique. Right now you are pulling, but you don't even know it.
Good Work.
i know what you mean, im going through the same **** now. Unfortunately in today's society, image is everything. I would be lying if i said people arent superficial. deep down that's who we really are. Most of us just end up chasing what is attractive/appealing (at the time)/ and unattainable.
In the end we're all just slaves of the materialistic world, slaves of society.
It's actually rather rare to find someone who has genuine interest in another person. I suppose everybody's too caught up in their own **** to have time to focus their attention elsewhere.
yea fvck it, do what you gotta do.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
seriously it's all about seeing the imperfections in the female no matter how hot...anything that might be a turn off...because when you get picky it make you more comfortable with her...if you see none you feel inferior to her and act like a AFC Bi.tch