When the girl talks about other guys...

[shark]

If the girl your dating or whaever brings up another guy, or group of guys and just says like how there a nice group of kids and how she likes them a lot blah blah blah..it really isn't a big deal at all..right?

But what is the right way to respond. Agreeing? Disgagreeing? Or neither. And if she talks about guys somtimes, should we talk about other girls to her somtimes?

 

[Mr. Cardio]

Man, you know what, is it just me, or does most people on this site just continue to not be MEN, and continue trying to be WOMEN. I still need help, I am not perfect, but come on, if your girlfriend is doing something you dont like, YOU TELL HER AZZ ABOUT IT, FVCK HOW SHE WILL FEEL. I mean, isnt this just common sense? Are not women humans, why do guys act like they are computer programs? Man, I am just sick of this shyt.

 

[penkitten]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16559

read that tip

 

[everywomanshero]

First of all....

I'm not sure I understand the situation. What's the point of having a girlfriend if all she does is annoy you? To be honest, I'd go out in the field and start seducing other women. I'd start working out more, studying more, working more, spending time investigating new ways to meet women, and start practicing new techniques.

Through this process you'll become more attractive to her and raise her IL. If she flakes, it would've likely happened no matter what you did anyway. I would never advise someone to stay in a depressing relationship. The longer you stay depressed, the less value she'll see in you.

Either tell her about it or ignore her and work on you. Those are the only viable options to avoid disaster. This is assuming it becomes a big deal later on down the road. If she just casually talks about some guy, I'd change the subject or put her on hold everytime she mentions guys if you're on the phone. She'll get the hint to shut up soon enough.

 

[denial]

Hey Shark, how long have you been with this chick?

In my last relationship (which ended up lasting 1 year, and she was a HB9) she didn't mention any other guys until about 6 months into the relationship. She works at Tower Records so she has guys hitting on her all the time... but about six months in she started telling me about co-workers that were hitting on her, and even customers that were hitting on her. She would play it off like it made her uncomfortable, so I didn't really think about what she was REALLY trying to say to me.

As we should all know by now after spending a good amount of time reading the DJ bible, women do not speak plain English like us guys do. When they say one thing.. they are trying to hint at something else. When she is talking about other guys, especially if she is talking about other guys hitting on her... she is trying to send the message that you better watch out or she could leave your @$$ at ANY TIME. Maybe her interest level in you is fizzling out. I wish I had taken the hint and taken the initiative to stop being an AFC, but back then I didn't even know what an AFC was... I'm new to the DJ philosophy. That girlfriend was the best I'd ever had (didn't fight with me about anything, unbelievably hot, really smart & talented girl) and it's taken me a lot of time to get over her (it's been 6 months and I'm still trying to get my game together, that's why I'm here).

Just my two cents

 

[everywomanshero]

I still don't understand this..

Why are you guys putting yourself through all this pain and suffering? There is millions of available women to select a new one each night and never run out.

To be honest, I was the clingiest person I've ever seen in action. It was truly disgusting. Now, I don't feel any emotion at all with women. I even have to fake it a bit. If you simply sleep with 50+ different women and run games on every woman you come across this weakness can be defeated.

One weakness of the "DJ" lifestyle I see is that few guys identify needing a gf and/or some form of emotional comfort from women as a weakness. It is something that (I Believe) negatively effects one's ability to think clearly and reach maximum efficiency with women.

It's one thing to accept a gf when the perfect example lands in one's lap. It is something very different to "need" a gf or need to "make it work".

Imagine if you could make 50,000$ per quarterly contract or a permanent position of 50,000$ per year. One school of thought says, "What if I cannot get anymore contracts one day? I better take the perm. position". The other says, "What if I am fired from my job one day? I guess I better get all the contracts I can!". A third guy says, "I love this work. I'll take the job and do the contractual work on the side"

The first guy takes the gf for security purposes ignoring the likelihood of termination or being forced to quit. The second guy sarges all he can while he has his health. The third guy takes the gf and still sees other women


I don't know if I can effectively convey my feelings on the subject but I've tried.

 

[shark]

When she brings them up, it's never really about how they flirt or hit on her. It'll just be a story involving them, a funny story. Somtimes making fun of them, somtimes just saying what a nice thing they did w/e. I usually just play it off like i dont care, and am just uninterested. She hasn't suddenly started, it's just how she is.

I'm very happy with her, i guess i'm just too into making EVEYTHING perfect with our relationship and thats just not realistic with two humans..

 

[MackJr]

Re: I still don't understand this..

Originally posted by everywomanshero
To be honest, I was the clingiest person I've ever seen in action. It was truly disgusting. Now, I don't feel any emotion at all with women. I even have to fake it a bit. If you simply sleep with 50+ different women and run games on every woman you come across this weakness can be defeated.

Is this state actually desirable? If you don't feel anything for women, why even bother? Seems like you'd just take up a hobby like stamp collecting or something.

That's the thing for me. It seems like, unemotionality is emphasized to the point that there's probably little pleasure in it after you get what you what. That's a trap with money, too, I'd say.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

From what I hear from others, it seems as if she wants you to be more of a man and take her more seriously. I wouldn't worry about it though bro, just continue do what you're doing.

 

[rockstar88]

shark i would say that your girl is testing you a little bit. i dont know how old she is or how old you are but if you younger than 29 i would say she is probably felling bored. shes throwing other guys names around and talking about them to make you a little uneasy. she no longer feels like she is a chalange to you and you no longer need to chase her which is what it is all about with most young people. so i would say it's not a real big deal just do some spontanious **** sometime soon get her to not be bored. and if it doesnt work from there than it wasnt ment to be.

what i think is more of a problem tho is the dude who says he feels no emotion toward women and now has to fake it. dude my guess is that your a 19 or 20 yr old kid who was in a high school relationship for like all of high school than the girl ditched you as soon as she got out of school and you resent girls now because of it. and i am also guessing that your not out ****ing random girls everynite of the week you just like to think that because your ego has been shattered. it is very obvious that you are putting up a tough guy i dont care about anything front. come on man the whole reason for being with girls is to find love. if you want to get of with no emotions attached than ****en jerk off buy a pocket ***** or something. your not a man cause you dont feel anything towards women your just insecure and you get validation by ****ing lots of them.

 

[everywomanshero]

Re: Re: I still don't understand this..

Originally posted by MackJr
Is this state actually desirable? If you don't feel anything for women, why even bother? Seems like you'd just take up a hobby like stamp collecting or something.

That's the thing for me. It seems like, unemotionality is emphasized to the point that there's probably little pleasure in it after you get what you what. That's a trap with money, too, I'd say.

For me killing the emotion just allowed the fun to start. Now, I cannot loose. I'm on the verge of a major breakthrough. Women are starting to approach me. It's as though they know somehow. They know I've beat the need. I do it now purely for the sport. This feels awesome.

 

[MackJr]

Re: Re: Re: I still don't understand this..

Originally posted by everywomanshero
For me killing the emotion just allowed the fun to start. Now, I cannot loose. I'm on the verge of a major breakthrough. Women are starting to approach me. It's as though they know somehow. They know I've beat the need. I do it now purely for the sport. This feels awesome.

Ok, so you're not really saying that there's no emotion. You're saying that you're delaying gratification during the pickup phase. There's still some emotion driving it.

 

[Danny001]

Thanks penkittern, for the link. This was something I suspected all along and it makes a lot of sense. One valuable tip I've heard is to flip the game around and use it women like they use it on men.