My g/f and I have been together for over 2 months, and I've loved every second of it. She's everything I could have asked for. However, one thing lingers in my mind- she doesn't seem to ever, under no circumstances, want to come out of pocket.
I used to think that guys should always pay on a date or wherever they go with their g/f. But I realize that it's the 21st century - women are making as much as men almost. My g/f currently has a job, and she's known that I haven't had a job in a few months because of dedication to loads of schoolwork (currently looking for a summer one now). She doesn't make much, but hey, still more than me right now.
I'm starting to guess that she thinks I must have good money since I hadn't been working for a while, and that all my family members have decent looking cars compared to hers. My family might be a little higher up than her on the income bracket, but technically I'm broke. The only thing I'm hanging on to is my scholarship savings which are running out, and now i'm actively looking for a job.
I know for a fact that my g/f is not a gold digger. She never asks me to buy her anything. She does often ask "what are we doing today?" but that's pretty much it. I guess she might feel that if I want to take her somewhere, I should pick up the tab as well. She also has 3 older brothers and she's the only girl (youngest), so maybe it's what she's come to expect.
I don't think there's anything wrong w/ a girlfriend picking up the tab for small things like a blockbuster rental, or even popcorn at the movies when I buy the tix. But she doesn't seem to know any better and maybe this never crosses her mind.
How do y'all think I should convey this to her in a reasonable way?
I used to think that guys should always pay on a date or wherever they go with their g/f. But I realize that it's the 21st century - women are making as much as men almost. My g/f currently has a job, and she's known that I haven't had a job in a few months because of dedication to loads of schoolwork (currently looking for a summer one now). She doesn't make much, but hey, still more than me right now.
I'm starting to guess that she thinks I must have good money since I hadn't been working for a while, and that all my family members have decent looking cars compared to hers. My family might be a little higher up than her on the income bracket, but technically I'm broke. The only thing I'm hanging on to is my scholarship savings which are running out, and now i'm actively looking for a job.
I know for a fact that my g/f is not a gold digger. She never asks me to buy her anything. She does often ask "what are we doing today?" but that's pretty much it. I guess she might feel that if I want to take her somewhere, I should pick up the tab as well. She also has 3 older brothers and she's the only girl (youngest), so maybe it's what she's come to expect.
I don't think there's anything wrong w/ a girlfriend picking up the tab for small things like a blockbuster rental, or even popcorn at the movies when I buy the tix. But she doesn't seem to know any better and maybe this never crosses her mind.
How do y'all think I should convey this to her in a reasonable way?
