General question, as I've gotten to thinking about it a bit lately. I've burnt a lot of bridges in the past, cut people off from my life. I had reasons for it generally, but it's also tended to leave me with a small social circle. I've only got my closest friends in there, the ones that I can rely on, but the situation still stands. I generally find myself hesitant to build strong bonds with people (I think I've dealt with too many people with disorders to do that easily..), and it makes it significantly easier to drop contact.
Just yesterday I cut contact, deleted the number, etc, of a girl that I had gotten over-invested in as she wasn't willing to let go of her attachment to another guy (might call out low-interest here, but her body language says otherwise). I don't know if that was the right decision, and I'm tempted to try and recover and just go for casual friendship - I'm not sure if I should burn the bridge here or not. My gut's telling me that if I don't burn it, I'll likely remain over-invested (even with other options, this girl stands out quite a bit, in looks, personality, and intelligence..).
What kind of criteria is involved in determining this? When should you burn it? Is it worthwhile to burn a bridge, even when you enjoy their company?
The standard advice is to not burn bridges; but I find situations more often than not call for it in my own life. I'm curious to hear some thoughts on the subject.
Just yesterday I cut contact, deleted the number, etc, of a girl that I had gotten over-invested in as she wasn't willing to let go of her attachment to another guy (might call out low-interest here, but her body language says otherwise). I don't know if that was the right decision, and I'm tempted to try and recover and just go for casual friendship - I'm not sure if I should burn the bridge here or not. My gut's telling me that if I don't burn it, I'll likely remain over-invested (even with other options, this girl stands out quite a bit, in looks, personality, and intelligence..).
What kind of criteria is involved in determining this? When should you burn it? Is it worthwhile to burn a bridge, even when you enjoy their company?
The standard advice is to not burn bridges; but I find situations more often than not call for it in my own life. I'm curious to hear some thoughts on the subject.