When she only uses text not email as communication

[GotED?]

I am an avid proponent of using Meetup.com - where strangers of a similiar interest meet up in real life for an activity or hobby. In this case, I met 7 other people for a Sunday afternoon lunch, with one of the woman I was targeting was a total HB 8 to 8.5 tall and thin hottie at age 30. I played my game right at the 3hr afternoon lunch, sat right across from her - teased/flirted with her occassionally and winked at her a couple of times while teasing even though it had to be discreet due to the public nature of the dining experience with other strangers.

I made a pretty darn good impression and got her interest, but I decided to be the first to leave and leave her hanging. As I was ready to leave, she started asking me a couple of questions out of the blue and made a statement about how she knows a great parking space in city center that only she knows and didn't want to give it away but will share it with me. I played it cool and told her I will email her later, not about to ask for her number in front of 7 other strangers at the table (Meetup.com has a function where you can send another participant emails).


So a couple of days later I sent her an email through Meetup.com to see if she wants to meet up for lunch. She then posted on my Meetup.com profile (like a Facebook wall) that she doesn't know how to reply to my email - it is a valid reason because Meetup.com email system sucks kocks. I sent her another email to her saying she can text me a reply instead, and left her my cell phone number (I am wondering if she played me to get my cell phone number).


Long and behold, I get a text message the next night - with her reply. She couldn't do it, as it was Mother's Day and it was a valid decline. Subsequent communications via Email (I had to send her an Internet link), she only replies back to me via text - though she could have easily sent me her email address but never volunteered. Strange??


I know she has high interest, a woman wouldn't text a man FIRST and give away her phone number if she wasn't afraid of some risk that he may turn psycho on her and blow up her cell phone.


I want your take on why a woman would force communication via text only, and refuse to use email?


Also recently I been getting phone numbers from a couple of HB's via them texting me FIRST, but I am not the type to call them and talk on the phone but only to use it when setting up the dates. I am getting the feelings that they EXPECT men to call them to talk with them or something, and if I don't do it, resentment builds up in some sort of way. I am testing this theory out, if women volunteer their phone numbers really want the man to call and talk to them before the first date. I tend to make them wait a bit and go in for the first date kill later - but I am trying to speculate if a high-interested woman truly does WAIT for a man to call and want to talk to him if she's never been on a first date yet.


Exodus

 

[Willard]

Exodus,

Thanks for all the advise you have given me. I'm on Meetup as well. I hadn't really emailed any girls that I was dating, usually just texts and phone calls. The last plates I was spinning I would always talk on the phone before I met them, just to see if we had a good conversation before I wasted my time meeting them in person. I used to just text to set up dates and not call before hand. I like talking on the phone with girls though. With the one I'm with now it's just texts and phone calls, no emails.

 

[Krueg]

Maybe she's not very familiar with using e-mail, texting seems to be the thing everyone is doing these days. Especially girls.. Could just be more convenient for her.

 

[SmooveMooves]

At first, I was confused, but then I noticed your age. Your not old, just older.

That chick's 30, so what that means is, texting is probably the most convenient, and the quickest way to communicate with you.

Email is more of a hassle and takes much longer to communicate: Why write each other letters when you can talk through wired cans.

Understand my analogy?

As for the phone call thing, I know what you mean, I've been running into alot of that as well, but I'm not particularly fond of phone conversing either.

At best, i find you at least have to have short, fun, text conversations from time to time. But not a whole lot more than that. If the chick builds resentment because you don't call her and chat her up like her long lost bestfriend from across the street, she can eat a d1ck.

With your continued use of MeetUp™ I'd recommend pushing for numbers, instead of Email contact. Email contact just isn't as prevalent as it once was before. Besides, wouldn't that be a whole lot more convenient for you as well?

And as for you Willard, did you read the post my man? ED's not giving advice he's asking for it, helpem out.

Haha, I swear some of you guys only ready every other word of every other sentence when reading posts.

 

[GotED?]

Email is more of a hassle and takes much longer to communicate: Why write each other letters when you can talk through wired cans.

I am not sure if I agree with this this. Even though I only have an iPod (similiar to iPhone), I get my emails INSTANTEOUS when it comes in and pops up on my iPod screen just like a text message on an iPhone - and you reply to the email just like a text, but even more space to write on an Email. Yes, she's 30 while I am 41, but I normally had ex-GF age 33 to 35 so it is not that far off and they don't despise emails at all so there's not much of an age gap there.


Most women nowadays have an iPhone or similiar glued to their body, I don't find emailing or texting that much different really. I am still curious why she would force me to communicate to her and indirectly hint me to give her my phone number and resort to texting, it is a strange encountered of the weird kind.


Willard is cool - he is thanking me for advices I gave him in the PAST and is repaying in kind right now by posting back, nothing derogatory here.


I suppose it is correct - if a woman texts me FIRST (showing signs of high interest by risking giving out her phone number to possible psychos), and she wants me to CALL HER but I don't do it for several weeks (sometimes I just wait that long because busy with work travel, etc). I have a HB8.5 that is now breeding resentment as a result - but you are right, Smooth - perhaps she is just a b!tch with control issues, time to NEXT.


I have no problem talking on the phone before the 1st date, but I find it a waste of time because it is NOT my game and I lose that mysteriosity by talking to her even before a proper 1st date. I also don't want to show too much interest by talking to her beforehand.


This is the dilemma - but as ANTI-DUMP's MACHINE says, only go for the high interest women who has NO STRATEGY or GAME (or else it will be a stale-mate).

Thanks for the feedback, guys. Appreciate it.


I ask difficult questions because I have a method for almost everything else I encounter with women.

Exodus

 

[SmooveMooves]

I am not sure if I agree with this this. Even though I only have an iPod (similiar to iPhone), I get my emails INSTANTEOUS when it comes in and pops up on my iPod screen just like a text message on an iPhone - and you reply to the email just like a text, but even more space to write on an Email. Yes, she's 30 while I am 41, but I normally had ex-GF age 33 to 35 so it is not that far off and they don't despise emails at all so there's not much of an age gap there.


Most women nowadays have an iPhone or similiar glued to their body, I don't find emailing or texting that much different really. I am still curious why she would force me to communicate to her and indirectly hint me to give her my phone number and resort to texting, it is a strange encountered of the weird kind.


Willard is cool - he is thanking me for advices I gave him in the PAST and is repaying in kind right now by posting back, nothing derogatory here.


I suppose it is correct - if a woman texts me FIRST (showing signs of high interest by risking giving out her phone number to possible psychos), and she wants me to CALL HER but I don't do it for several weeks (sometimes I just wait that long because busy with work travel, etc). I have a HB8.5 that is now breeding resentment as a result - but you are right, Smooth - perhaps she is just a b!tch with control issues, time to NEXT.


I have no problem talking on the phone before the 1st date, but I find it a waste of time because it is NOT my game and I lose that mysteriosity by talking to her even before a proper 1st date. I also don't want to show too much interest by talking to her beforehand.


This is the dilemma - but as ANTI-DUMP's MACHINE says, only go for the high interest women who has NO STRATEGY or GAME (or else it will be a stale-mate).

Thanks for the feedback, guys. Appreciate it.


I ask difficult questions because I have a method for almost everything else I encounter with women.

Exodus

Well first, I'd like to apologize to Willard. I was unaware of that fact.

And Ahh, now I understand better. I didnt mean the age gap as in insult, your a Dj so im pretty sure you get whatever chick you want regardless of age. I'm gonna guess that maybe the chick finds texting a whole lot personal, rather then Email. Maybe she wanted contact directly with you, and her Email functions aren't the same as yours.

I Know mine aren't, when I check my Email I often have 9999 messages waiting for me to sort through. ( I check it weekly)

As for a little more input, if talking on the phone is not your game, I wouldn't do it. I would just opt with what I suggested previously ( brief text convos) and push for the meetup as fast as possible

I'm suspecting chicks build resentment because they're used to building rapport through a medium first before meeting in person. As I type this I begin to wonder if a phone call isnt such a bad idea.

Surely you can have a phone conversation without ruining you mystery.

Ex)

HB8.5: So what do you do?

You: I'll tell you when I meet you in person I don't give info like that to strangers. -playfully-